Bizarre family member behavior - page 3

I had this patient in an ICU setting a couple days ago. Patient background -- approx. 70 YO M had an open nephrectomy about 3 weeks ago. He went out to the ward POD 1 and came back to the unit on... Read More

  1. by   ShayRN
    For those of you who feel so bad for patients that don't have someone near when they are in the hospital, please keep in mind that the patient may be responsible for that behavior. Without going into detail, my biological father hasn't been a part of my life since I was 3. If they called me (doubtful) and said he was in the hospital in poor condition, I would feel bad, but not shattered. Detached would be the emotion I would describe. Now, my step-father, I would walk through the fires of hell for in a New York minute. So, please, before you pass judgement on family that doesn't come, keep in mind it may be the patient's fault nobody cares.
  2. by   skylark
    I had a strange situation about a month ago, and I'm wondering what other nurses would have said.

    Lady is brought into our ER, full cardiac arrest, CPR in progress, been down maybe 20 minutes.
    I take over the CPR, and everyone gets to work.

    Patient's son wanders in, (age maybe 35?) and comes up to me,
    "Nurse, I'm just wondering how long this is going to take? I'd like to go to the grocery store across the street while I'm here, I don't get to this part of town very often . . . "

    Huh???????
  3. by   CrabbyPatty
    Quote from skylark
    I had a strange situation about a month ago, and I'm wondering what other nurses would have said.

    Lady is brought into our ER, full cardiac arrest, CPR in progress, been down maybe 20 minutes.
    I take over the CPR, and everyone gets to work.

    Patient's son wanders in, (age maybe 35?) and comes up to me,
    "Nurse, I'm just wondering how long this is going to take? I'd like to go to the grocery store across the street while I'm here, I don't get to this part of town very often . . . "

    Huh???????
    How many times has this man seen his mother coded before??? Is this a regular thing? Unbelievable that someone could react that way!!! Maybe he was high?
  4. by   Bortaz, RN
    The internet makes every family member a specialist.
  5. by   patsquared2
    Hi Mike, any chance I can use this in my article? Your approach seems custom made for critical care situations - concise, gets the point across but doesn't end up in a shouting match. All I need is the name of the hospital where you practice.
  6. by   SoundofMusic
    I wish, as there is this huge push for a patient's bill of rights, that we had a healthcare provider's bill of rights also.

    Or, that perhaps, on admission, that families were handed a Guide to Good Behavior while caring for a loved one in the hospital.

    I find caring for the families MORE difficult than caring for patients, hands down. I feel sorry for doctors in this regard.

    They seem conditioned to want constant, CONSTANT updates. I have learned to update them w/ every little thing I know ..that seems to placate them, for a while. And I offer as much info as possible -- even if it's trivial.

    But they really need to be taught about hospital routines, about what to expect, what what they cannot expect -- and made to understand that if want/need a certain level of service that they perhaps should pitch in for a private nurse.

    I just don't think it's fair to many patients when one out of your group demands all your attention for little requests when another patient truly needs a nurse w/ his/her full attention on their medical condition.
  7. by   CrabbyPatty
    Quote from patsquared2
    Hi Mike, any chance I can use this in my article? Your approach seems custom made for critical care situations - concise, gets the point across but doesn't end up in a shouting match. All I need is the name of the hospital where you practice.

    If Mike told you WHERE he worked, that could end up being a HIPAA violation. Several RN's (I believe from San Diego) were fired after they posted patient situations in their private blogs.
  8. by   Redhead28
    We as patients or families lose all control when someone we love is in the hospital. This is the only thing that he can control. Let him. Pad the rails and explain why to on-coming shift.

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