I have a 7 y/o daughter who sees her dad once every two to three months. He picks her up on Saturday and drops her back off on Sunday. She has a shower the morning of the day she goes to visit him; but he insists that she needs a shower the next morning too. Not only does she have dry skin, she expresses that she doesn't like to take a shower while she's with him. I typically give her a shower every 2 to 3 days. Am I showering my daughter too infrequently? Just curious how often you all bathe your kiddos. I've asked him to please not give her a shower while she's with him - and he's insisting that he'll need a doctor's note to that effect if that's what I want to happen.
Anyhow - thanks in advance for any input.
Apr 8, '04
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She has a shower the morning of the day she goes to visit him; but he insists that she needs a shower the next morning too. Not only does she have dry skin, she expresses that she doesn't like to take a shower while she's with him.
The #1 reason I see for her not showering when she is with her dad it that SHE SAYS it makes her uncomfortable.
If she has dry skin she should NOT shower daily. Lotions are not a replacement for the bodys own oils. Daily bathing is a habit not a necessity unless there is an issue of body odor or doing something to get 'extra' dirty. No one needs to bathe daily.
*If it were my child* I would take her to the Ped (or call if I have a long standing relationship), explain the situation and get a note. Being the cynical ex-wife that I am I would file a copy of it with the court where the custody/visitation order is also filed.
Last edit by kids on Apr 8, '04
Apr 8, '04
There is another way around this. Stop bathing her the morning of her visit. That eliminates at least one bath.
Have you explored the reason she doesn't want to take a shower at her father's house. You seem to imply she doesn't mind showers at your house.
edited for typos
Last edit by Agnus on Apr 8, '04