Bathing a 7 y/o - page 7

Dear All, I have a 7 y/o daughter who sees her dad once every two to three months. He picks her up on Saturday and drops her back off on Sunday. She has a shower the morning of the day she goes... Read More

  1. by   powel_44
    A normal person should bath daily.... If i were a parents will bath / let bath my kid routinely. It feels really good when someone is clean. No "odors", no flies will fly over you. It is odd not to bath a child in a day.

    One of the users of this Nursing Discussion suggested the use of eucerin lotion and elidel cream. Pls. look those in yahoo search. you will find which is not good for your child's dry skin.

    If condition doesnt improve or worsen, pls consult a help of a specialist.

    I dont want my child to grow who doesnt do personal hygiene. It is odd.

    Well, that's only my view. You are free to react.


    Quote from Nurse2be
    Dear All,

    I have a 7 y/o daughter who sees her dad once every two to three months. He picks her up on Saturday and drops her back off on Sunday. She has a shower the morning of the day she goes to visit him; but he insists that she needs a shower the next morning too. Not only does she have dry skin, she expresses that she doesn't like to take a shower while she's with him. I typically give her a shower every 2 to 3 days. Am I showering my daughter too infrequently? Just curious how often you all bathe your kiddos. I've asked him to please not give her a shower while she's with him - and he's insisting that he'll need a doctor's note to that effect if that's what I want to happen.

    Anyhow - thanks in advance for any input.

    Emily
  2. by   Energizer Bunny
    I have always been told by my peds. to not wash them every day unless they desperately need it. All of my children have very sensitive skin and even the medications out there don't help most of the time. I do wash their privates and of course their faces every night...that's a given. If my kids didn't have sensitive skin, I probably would wash them every day just because I wash myself every day and would like to instill the habit in them. However, they DO see me taking a shower every day so they know that is the way "big people" do it. I don't think they will ever have a problem being clean as adults.
  3. by   eltrip
    Let me echo what a number of other posters have expressed. Seven year-olds can bathe themselves on their own...even with long hair (My 7 y/o daughter washes her own during her showers). I have taught my daughter that it is inappropriate for a seven year-old girl to be bathing with either of her parents. The fact that the OP's daughter is having to shower with her father during their visits raises a huge red flag for me as both a mother as well as a survivor of sexual abuse. I dunno, perhaps he doesn't know any better...perhaps he does. Hey, my father told me that my mother wouldn't believe me (and she didn't until I was 30)...and told her that I was "enticing him." I am naturally suspcious.

    Please schedule an appointment as soon as possible with your daughter's pediatrician for an evaluation. If need be, take her to a counselor. Do not delay. Just my "gut response."

    Take care,
    eltrip
    Last edit by eltrip on Apr 27, '04 : Reason: admission of person bias
  4. by   Shotzie
    You must have missed something, Eltrip.
    This child wasn't shopwering with her dad, he was helping her with her shower and it sounds like, (from all the precious posts) mom has a handle on this situation now.
  5. by   eltrip
    Quote from Shotzie
    You must have missed something, Eltrip.
    This child wasn't shopwering with her dad, he was helping her with her shower and it sounds like, (from all the precious posts) mom has a handle on this situation now.
    ...which is why I edited it. Still raises my hackles, though

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