Am I too shallow to be a nurse?

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At the risk of getting blasted with insults from all of you in the nursing community, I'm just going to be honest. I am thinking about becoming a male RN. But my reasons for becoming a nurse are pretty selfish and are the following in no particular order: Excellent work schedule, good money, great opportunities for advancement, relatively short training, beautiful female nurses, travel opportunities, and ofcourse helping people. However, I'm honestly afraid that I may not be a good enough human being to do the job of a nurse. I'm already a germophobe, I'm really not a big fan of bodily fluids, and most of all I have a hard time dealing with vommit and excrement of my own family, let alone perfect strangers. I don't even like changing diapers. With my personality, I also unfortunately will likely retaliate to all those old school nurses who like to "eat their young" and will probably cause drama by standing up for myself. And finally adding to that my ego and insecurity is not looking forward to the "male nurse" title. Ya ya I know, how dare me and I'm a total jerk...but its true.

Was anyone like me before they went into nursing? Did nursing make you a better person or did you already have the personality and compassion of a nurse before you went into it?

Thank You

Specializes in trauma, ortho, burns, plastic surgery.

Hey "little jerk" I told you little, because writing like that you are not a "total" one, how you named your self. If this make you happy, you need to know that you are not the only one male nurse, are a lot of male nurses and women nurses also, who think and belive like you... if somehow my words could give you comfort. Your reasons are not bad at all, excepting "beuatiful women nurses" forget about it, lol, nurses are not woman or men are just nurses.

I wasn't in your shoes, sorry, but I am a foreigner, so forget about it, but YOU could have right, YOUR type of personality may be is the better choice for nursing evironmnet here.

Dear I saw a lot of places, and I was in contact with a lot of people, YOU are not a unicate, like you are, are so many others, go for nursing, and be like you are, at less you are true with yourself and others. If you will be changed by nursing carrier? For sure...in good or in bad....or in both...go for it...you will see what nursing life will reserve to you day by day...

Specializes in OR.

When someones life is on the line your patient comes first and a vain person who is so caught up in looks couldn't provide proper care for a person . Not only do you have to be phsyically, mentally ,but also emotionally and if your emoions are tied up and preoccupied with who is hotter then who ???? Please maybe modeling would be your forte!!!!!

Specializes in OR.

are people still entertaining this? :p

sounds more like a candidate for Medical school instead. :coollook:

Thank you for all your honest responses...even the bad ones. I wish I could say that nursing has been my life long dream ever since I was a tiny school boy. But unfortunately thats just not the reality of my situation. The reality is that I haven't been able to make a living doing the things I'm naturally passionate about and I simply need to start making more money. But I also enjoy experiences that bring about self growth and I thought nursing would really put me out of my comfort zone enough to achieve that. Which brings me back to the original question of whether I'm just too shallow to be a good nurse lol.

for the record i am a germaphobe!!! and dang proud of it, i wipe down the dynamax between patients including oximeter sensor, something i've never seen anyone else do but me. i'm also very strict with myself about gowning and gloving in isolation rooms, i'm pretty sure i'd do so even if i didn't have an instructor somewhere on the floor. it's inconvenient, and very sweaty (especially when the ac is out on your floor) but i don't want to bring that stuff home. i also wipe down my shoes with those purple topped antibacterial wipes at the hospital before i leave.

i've gotten better with the smell of feces (nice technical word there--not poo--lol) some wounds are still really stinky though. i'm not puking anymore after two full semesters of it. i bring a clean uniform with me in case i spill or have problems during my clinical. i had the situation of spilling a patients coffee all down the front of me at 7:30 am, much better to have something dry to change into than run around all day with a light brown stain from your chest to your feet.

Specializes in Acute Care.
beautiful female nurses,

I got to there and had to spend a couple minutes laughing. Ahhh, reality!

Then I saw this:

sounds more like a candidate for Medical school instead. :coollook:

and laughed some more.

Anyway. jonsey77, if you are serious, see if you can find (through school or hospital) a real, working RN to sit down and chat with. That should make up your mind fairly quickly.

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
at the risk of getting blasted with insults from all of you in the nursing community, i'm just going to be honest. i am thinking about becoming a male rn. but my reasons for becoming a nurse are pretty selfish and are the following in no particular order: excellent work schedule, good money, great opportunities for advancement, relatively short training, beautiful female nurses, travel opportunities, and ofcourse helping people. however, i'm honestly afraid that i may not be a good enough human being to do the job of a nurse. i'm already a germophobe, i'm really not a big fan of bodily fluids, and most of all i have a hard time dealing with vommit and excrement of my own family, let alone perfect strangers. i don't even like changing diapers. with my personality, i also unfortunately will likely retaliate to all those old school nurses who like to "eat their young" and will probably cause drama by standing up for myself. and finally adding to that my ego and insecurity is not looking forward to the "male nurse" title. ya ya i know, how dare me and i'm a total jerk...but its true.

was anyone like me before they went into nursing? did nursing make you a better person or did you already have the personality and compassion of a nurse before you went into it?

guess i'm not so sure i understand you completely. you're thinking of becoming a nurse for the job security, travel opportunities, money and flexible scheduling yet you think that is somehow "not worthy". those are pretty much the same reasons both my husband and i went into nursing, and after three decades apeice, we're agreed it was a good choice. the part i'm having difficulty with is the "male nurse" part. are you thinking of becoming male as well? because if not, then all you're thinking of becoming is a nurse. you're already male (or not.)

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.

oh, and i also believe the old school nurses who are eating their young are usually just burnt out--probably because they either went into nursing for the wrong reason or have since then lost their love for it. i haven't run into many of them because i think they've left the field...

best wishes!

interesting that you seem to believe it's the "old school nurses" eating their young. that's not been my experience at all. it seems to be those who have been out of school less than 15 years who seem to be snacking -- if anyone is guilty of it.

Specializes in General adult inpatient psychiatry.

All of the reasons you mentioned for wanting to go into nursing are valid reasons (although the hotness of the nurses often depends on the floor and is subjective ;)), but I think if you don't like the actual practice of nursing then you're going to HATE your job and DREAD going to work, even if you love all the other benefits. I definitely recommend doing some shadowing and getting your feet wet because I feel like the jump into the nursing pool isn't one to be taken lightly. You can be compassionate, competent, and caring all while not liking poop and bodily fluids and hey...there's always psych. Plus nursing school can change people. Good luck!

Specializes in Pediatric Intensive Care, Long Term care.

its amazing how many replys this is getting. There are so many other "worthy" questions where people really really need answers...and they only get like 2 replys...ah the politics of allnurses :icon_roll

hello,

I don't think any of the reasons you stated are very good for considering nursing except the last one (helping people). The good pay, good work schedual etc. should only be looked at as a bonus. Some of the reasons that got my attention to nursing was wanting to help people, career stability, fascination for the human body (it's just increadible want it can do!), the opportunity to work in a high pace environment such as the ER, ICU or anesthesia, and save lives. It is better to have a job that you love and be happy than have a job that has good pay and be miserable. You only live once so you should make the most out of your career!

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