Am I crazy for this?

[Skylar-blue]

I was enrolled in a BSN program, didn't pass my critical care class and wound up getting kicked out of my program. Luckily for me, I had enough education to get an exception from my school to take my NCLEX-PN. I passed hte test last week and received my license yesterday in the mail. I was really excited!

My problem (and question) is this: I live on the Oregon/Washington border, all the jobs are in OR, but due to not passing a PN course, I am not eligible to reciprocate my license and cannot work there. I'm also not eligible for a majority of jobs in my state due to the same problem.

I'm looking for work, but all I can think about is how much I want my RN! I'm looking at LPN-RN programs and am going to start working on getting approval for and enrolled in a program at a community college near me.

My sister in law has decided what I'm doing is completely her business and has sent my mom multiple emails about how dare they continue to support me while I work my life out and try to achieve my goals. I've talked to several close friends who are fully supportive of my decisions (as are my parents), but I can't help but feel like I'm crazy for wanting to better my life. My reasoning is simple. I spent 8 years in college working as hard as I possibly could for my RN (I'm 35), only to have my world fall out from underneath me when I didn't pass my class. I've gone this far in my life, I really want to be able to use all the skills I've worked so hard to learn.

[casi, ASN, RN]

I say look into LPN-RN programs and see what transfers.

I also say put on your big girl panties get a job and strike out on your own, but that's your decision to make. It's none of your SIL's business what you do, but I can see her concern.

[jadelpn, LPN, EMT-B]

Call me crazy, but what does the SIL have to do with a person and their parents? Family dynamics are all really different. That parents allow their grown children to live with them is something that has happend for generations.

Personally, my parents would drive me a little nutty and I am not sure I could live with them. But that would be a far different story if they required a little "supervision". (

My grandmother was a widow early in her life. She lived in a home with her mother, the aunt, kids....not uncommon to have multiple generations under one roof. Today, we value independence more, however, many cultures are multi generations under one roof.

A sister in law is married into a family. Warts and all. I think even if she has been married to the son of this family for 50 years, still not the place for her input. Because it is "not done" in her own family doesn't mean it is wrong. And it doesn't mean the OP is "sponging off of aged parents".

To the OP: There are many, many LPN-RN courses of study. Do some research and see which one would be right for you. Best of luck!

[jadelpn, LPN, EMT-B]

And not to be snarky, can one honestly say that if one of their grown kids (not that ANY of us are old enough to have a 35 year old) is in a place where--say--they lost their job, are about to become homeless, need to go back to school to attempt to start over working--would say "too bad so sad, go live in the shelter"?!?!?! Or even "because your brother's wife is upset and thinks it is a bad idea"?!?!?