After reading another post I saw someone write they only wanted to have their "own" child. I am NOT trying to jump on this person, but as an adoptee and a LD nurse it got me thinking.
I have seen fourteen year old drug addicts who couldn't take care of a goldfish properly take their babies home. Trying not to be judgemental, I think that these children would be better off with parents who would love and want them. A lot of these girls seem to keep their babies because of the stigma associated with "giving away your own child". I wonder why the mothers are stigmatized if they even bring up the subject of adoption (especially when the fathers are nowhere to be found and suffer no stigma). Any thoughts?
Last edit by Chuckie on Jan 18, '03
Wow. I'm surprized there is still a stigma about this. That certainly was the case when I put a baby girl up for adoption several years ago but, I was hoping it would have changed by now.
I was in a terrible family situation and did NOT want the child growing up in that environment. I had no money, no support and no means to adequately support the child either. Everyone I knew, from the father to my own family behaved horribly and I was ostracized. (And, BTW, I was trying to be careful. I was using birth control until the father lied about having a vasectomy although, obviously, I wish I hadn't believed him.)
The couple who adopted my baby waited five years for a child. I know she had to be better off because the last thing she would need was that poisonous environment.
Genetics and biology mean nothing to me. I wouldn't wish my family on anybody. I guess people have delusions of immortality or something like that.
Last edit by Sheri257 on May 31, '04