I am just beginning my nursing journey, so I cannot speak to that portion - but I am a mom with a kid that I homeschooled from 6th grade through high school. I sent her to Montessori school at 2 years old so she could learn to play with other kids (she was an only child so he didn't have siblings to learn to share with). Her father was military and was not home much (read that 11 months of 5 years and when he was gone - I didn't know where he was). I quit my job as a programmer (essentially ending my career as a programmer) so that I could be home with her and started teaching aerobics - MAJOR pay-cut!!! Now many years later, even with a degree it is just about impossible for me to get anything more than an entry level programming job. I don't regret my choice at all. I was home with my child almost every night (I did work for the Red Cross for awhile and hurricane Katrina kept me away from home a little while - luckily my mom could help me out). There are many opportunities that I missed because of my choice - but standing on the other side with a kid in college, that scored extremely high on her SAT, that received the highest awarded State Scholarship
for college, that will graduate as a Math Major in another 2 years - I couldn't be more proud of my solid choice. She needed a mom and I was there. Almost every day of her life - I was there with her. She still calls me about once a week to just talk and decompress. Even in college - she is still connected to me. I gave her all the skills I possibly could - its up to her to succeed now. The flip side to that is it is also my time to succeed!!
When you are at work - be at work, but have a job that allows you to be at home when you are at home. No calls in the middle of the day, no leaving in the middle of the night. At home means at home. Be the mom you want to be. You will never regret your decision to put your family first.
God gave me just 1 job - to be a mom - and when I stand in front of him I can say that while I made mistakes, I did the best I could.
If anyone would have asked if I would have given up my career for my daughter when she was 4 months old - I would have said NEVER. I quit the very day she was about 16 months old - holding onto my leg crying because she just wanted held and I was angry with her because I was on a tight deadline. When I realized that I was mad at my baby for being a baby and needing her momma - I picked up the phone and quit (I did finish the project - but I still quit that day).
Ultimately this is a choice for you - not even your husband - but you as a momma. Your heart is telling you want you want / need to do. Nothing that any of us tell you can overcome what your heart is telling you. You may not really want to listen - but your momma heart knows.