Look at it on a CNA perspective.
1. You have to earn their respect. I agree thisdoll, it is not about the age. Respect is earn by proving to them your nursing knowledge. They might not went to nursing school
but they have been doing this job for a long time. Respect is also earn by showing compassion to the residents. Most of the CNA genuinely care for the residents and they get very hostile if the nurse is just a "pill pusher" type.
2. Since you are a new nurse, your CNA is picking up a lot of your slack. It is very challenging to follow a new nurse because old people do not take change very good. It's one of those personal touch the previous nurse does for them, so the CNA now have to spend extra time with them.
3. Budget cuts. If a home is force to chose between a CNA and a nurse to hire, they will most likely hire a nurse. Most of the time the CNAs are running the behinds off. Put yourself in their shoes. resident Martha, Joe and Betty needs and wants to be toileted, they are all heavy to transfer and a nurse ask you (CNA) to walk Fred. That is too much. they don't exactly teach CNA critical thinking.
1. Know your residents routine. This helps cuts time passing meds and gives that personal touch
2. If a resident ask you to toilet them and you know they are easy transfer do it yourself and instruct them to put the call light on.
3. When you are asking for help make sure you ask them if they have time
to help you.
4. When you are delegating make sure the CNAs knows why you are delegating this task instead of you doing it yourself and why that task is more important than what they are currently doing. Example: CNA can you pls give this orange juice to Martha, her blood sugars are low. I have to take this BP meds to Fred because his BP is way to high and he might stroke out.
I know you are overwhelmed with everything, but so are CNAs. In time they will respect you.