New Grad Quitting After Less Than a Year (advice!) - page 3

by IcySageNurse 9,190 Views | 38 Comments

Hello everyone, I need some advice!I'm a new grad, I just graduated in September and was offered a job right out of school in an area I really love. The hospital is great, conveniently close, etc. I love it and could see myself... Read More


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    Isn't is nice that we employees are soooo considerate of our employers, but when its time to surplus and let us go they got no heart about it. Dude do what is best for you and your wife. I totally REJECT the idea of giving an employer 1 month notice, If I was a manager I would fire you after hearing that story. If the policy is 2 weeks then give 2 weeks notice do to relocation, legally they dont need more than that.
    If you got NO kids I would suggest a temporary seperation just to ENSURE that the wife's job is actually ROCK solid. I heard of people moving for a job, then all of a sudden..it like they (the employer) backs out and you guys will be left eating dirt and living ont he streets. Seriously a lot can happen to a company between now and May, If she aint got a signed written contact for employment its just an offer and the employer is under no legal obligation to hire her based on an offer.
    Also consider letting your wife move and ACTUALLY start of with this company first, see how it goes and you follow her a month later... I know couples with kids who have done this, but If your marriage breaks up in a month, then you dont need to be married.In this economy you gotta be smart and look out for you and your family..to heck with the employer. Your secondary plan would be to start looking for a job in the same area when your wife's job will be at. By the way..who will be earning more you or d wife? that is also something I would consider and be aware of changes in costs of living, but you probably already looked into that. Good Luck!
    joanna73, DizzyLizzyNurse, nurse671, and 2 others like this.
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    Hi, you never can bank on the "tomorrow's" it may never come or just maybe, maybe your wife may be offered something totally different close to where you live, you never know. Just continue to work and thank God you got the chance to get some experience. Yes I have been in that situation. But I did not feel too bad about it. When the time came for me to leave, it was ok and yes I did get a good job reference. They can't lie and give you a bad reference just because you left. If I were you I would just continue to do the best job I could and when the time comes for you to leave everyone will wish you the best!!
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    How much notice does a facility give you when they fire you ? Keep it in focus and realize that you will probably have many jobs during your nursing career. They days of the loyal employer who rewards your hard work are over. A seasoned nurse is more likely to be replaced for a cheaper new grad these days. Do what is best for you and your family without regrets.
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    If the hospital decided, three years from now, to lay off RNs would THEY give a crap about YOU and all the time YOU invested in the place? Give a proper notice and quit guilt free.
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    If you can at all, stay.

    What's 6 months or a year? Remember, her job might not work out... and, people do this kind of thing all the time. Also, do you read all the crap that hits the fan on this board? Most out there for NGs is crap, and chances are 99% that your new gig [ IF ] you even get one will be crap.
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    my facility requires a 1 month notice. Do not assume 2 weeks is sufficient, look into your facilities HR manual and see what it is there. Life happens, explain you are leaving b/c your wife's career. They will be disappointed, but that's life. Best of luck.
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    I have read a lot of threads that discuss a hospital makes a large investment in training a newbie. I am sure to a degree there is truth there. What I have not read was that the reciprocal must happen as well. By that I mean, doesn't it seem possible that another newbie trained at another hospital is forced to move to the aforementioned hospital's area and joins the staff with minimal training? After all, some folks leave the system that trained them, but others move in, right? I know some go to home health etc and never return, but I know for a fact that highly trained people move into the system too. Just my 2 cents.
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    I left two positions within my first year as a new grad. One was horrible beyond measure and there would have been major repercussions with respect to licensure had I stayed and/or known more about my first employer as an RN. As it is, the BON in that state, the Office of the Inspector General, FBI, and five other government agencies are investigating that facility. The facility is in an area to get patients from multiple states automatically making it a federal matter (interstate vs intrastate commerce). As it turns out, most of my friends that stayed while waiting to find employment elsewhere (I realized about 4 weeks in what a mess it was, and had interviewed for 4 other positions at multiple organizations by week 10), were laid off in a round of lay offs this past spring...in the end it wouldn't have mattered. I left after 11 weeks. And I started my second job a week later.

    My second job was (initially) awesome compared to my first. I learned so much. They took a risk on me knowing they hired me from out of state with a 75 mile one way commute to work. I had to have emergency surgery and was off work 3 weeks, during that time my parents were relocated cross country for my dad's job. That made it hard, sure. But I came back to work when I was released following my recovery, I relaized things had shifted/changed. I did my best and then some. I worked over, and got the crap end of the stick related to lax management on that unit. I don't know why it was even allowed that the schedule was released that only 2 licensed staff members were scheduled on several night shifts. I don't know why the 'rules' about "mandation" in a state that did not allow mandation were applied to only some staff members (coincidentally all newer grads and newer staff).

    The job I have now, I happened to look to see what kind of stuff exists for options for when I'd completed my year - to move closer to my family. A program with an internship style orientation in a specialty I was always attracted to drew my attention. I initially applied because, you know, the worst (and most likely) response would be no. I got selected for an interview. I did well in my interview but it was super competitive...I figured I would get a response indicating I had not been chosen. Imagine my surprise when one day I was in the middle of sleeping for work, I happened to hear my phone ring, I answered it, and the department HR rep was calling with an offer!

    I think there is a reason to be courteous to your employers, if for no other reason than the references. But sometimes things just happen the way they are supposed to happen. I met with my boss and personally told her about my resignation with a letter. She accepted it, but she said she hadn't expected me to return from medical leave. I called off once in 9 months! Seriously! Get a grip! Okay then. I then offered to work an extra two weeks because I had time to kill before moving but staffing was incredibly bad. Which is just an example of why that unit is in such a bad place with staffing. About half the people on the unit were looking to leave when I left.
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    Sorry if this has been said before...but your employer, per your post, doesn't know jack. Get over it, give a professional notice, make plans and start getting ready for the interview/job hunt mayhem coming your way, and tell your current employer:

    "Thank you so much for allowing me to be part of your team. My wife has secured a position out of the area. We are leaving on such/n/such date. I will be available until x.x.x dates for shifts, and will do what is possible in the time left to make for a smooth transition."

    Get on getting on.


    BTW, best of luck to you!
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    I agree with what many have said here. You have to do what's best for you. However, keep in mind that what's best for you will take into consideration your future employment. Before going into nursing school, I worked as an HR manager and I can tell you that I always appreciated having more than 2 weeks notice when someone was leaving. Even if you weren't there for a year, you would probably be more likely to get a positive reference if you're upfront and honest. If you tell them 2 weeks before you leave that you're leaving because you're moving, clearly they're going to know that you've had this information for a while. No guarantees you'll get a good recommendation, but you may as well do your best to try for one. Good luck to you! :-)


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