Would You Report Me for This?

[cupquake]

Hello fellow nurses. I have something to get off my chest, and I cannot discuss this with coworkers so I sought out all of your opinions. FYI: I am a new grad RN, currently working in LTC for about 7 months.

A few months ago, during a med pass at 5 pm (supper), I left a pill in the pill cup next to a resident who normally will take the pill, if not, the aide will help her take it (it was senokot). When I left it there, I acknowledged to the resident that I am leaving a pill beside her and would like her to take it. A family member of another resident sitting at the same table, saw this and commented "She won't remember to take that," in a very rude manner. In response to her hostile personality, I was firm and told her "She usually does take the pill, if she does not, I will follow up and be back to make sure she does". I left saying this and administered pills to the other residents at this time. I came back to the same table while giving a pill to another resident sitting on the same table as this family member and the original person I left the pill beside, I asked the aide "did A.I. take the pill?". The aide responded and said yes. I then proceeded to administer the crushed pills to another resident while waiting for her to finish IN FRONT OF this family member.

This family member then went to my director and reported me for inappropriate medication administration. I was written up for something that did not even result in harm or distress for a resident. I was disciplined for "leaving a medication beside a resident that has dementia," instead of waiting 5 minutes to help her take it, I proceeded to admin meds to the other 30 residents before time runs out.

I honestly feel like this is unfair. Also, my director was very strict and had a look of no mercy when telling me that this is just "unacceptable practice". Also, the family member who reported me has a history of issues with many co-workers, and the management team knows that.

So, tell me, give me your honest feedback. Would you write me up for this? I feel a sense of indignation towards my director.

[Farawyn]

My point exactly. Some people are getting over dramatic, if not almost attacking the OP.

Where?

[anayo, DNP, APRN, NP]

OP, it seems, feels that she was blameless and the director was just being mean. The vast majority (if not all) disagreed with that assessment and gave her the honest feedback she asked for. What is the issue?

I understand where you are going AcuteHD.But like I said, some give the honest facts and some gave hostile honest facts. Look at all the responses. Nevertheless, if she/he is an old nurse and feels that way, then obviously something is wrong with her/him(HOWEVER, THE DON SHOULD HAVE GIVEN HER A VERBAL WARNING AND DOCUMENT IT NOT WRITTING HER/HIM UP IF IT WAS A FIRST DEFENSE.) But if she/he is a new nurse and feels that way then yes it can be an obvious response to some nurses.

[anayo, DNP, APRN, NP]

Its important to coach them and provide them guidance. Not saying they are "immature" etc from some of these silly comments. Thats all Im sayin you know.

[Farawyn]

Hostile honest facts?

I'm looking for hostility and I don't see it.

I think OP was written up for sloppy practice and it seems she doesn't see that because it was JUST a senna. That's not the point.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

I understand where you are going AcuteHD.But like I said, some give the honest facts and some gave hostile honest facts. Look at all the responses. Nevertheless, if she/he is an old nurse and feels that way, then obviously something is wrong with her/him(HOWEVER, THE DON SHOULD HAVE GIVEN HER A VERBAL WARNING AND DOCUMENT IT NOT WRITTING HER/HIM UP IF IT WAS A FIRST DEFENSE.) But if she/he is a new nurse and feels that way then yes it can be an obvious response to some nurses.

Yelling is a little over the top.

[Farawyn]

Yelling is a little over the top.

I would say it's even a little hostile.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

Read all the comments from everyone then talk OrganizedChaos. Some of them I feel is unnecessary. Just give the facts -hostile comments excluded. Im not sayin to sugar coat it either.From her initial question comment it appears she is a new nurse.Honestly, this is why our profession is not recieving the respect it deserves and young nurses are quitting bedside within 2-4 yrs to pursue APN or different career path. I dont blame the poor girl/or boy from disappearing from this tread. Its because of this nonsense.

Talk to me?

She wanted opinions from everyone on the forum, not everyone will have the same opinion. That's what will happen when you post a topic on an anonymous forum. I don't think anyone went out it their way to be hostile. Can you provide a comment where someone was?

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

I would say it's even a little hostile.

FTW. :)

[Farawyn]

Read all the comments from everyone then talk OrganizedChaos. Some of them I feel is unnecessary. Just give the facts -hostile comments excluded. Im not sayin to sugar coat it either.From her initial question comment it appears she is a new nurse.Honestly, this is why our profession is not recieving the respect it deserves and young nurses are quitting bedside within 2-4 yrs to pursue APN or different career path. I dont blame the poor girl/or boy from disappearing from this tread. Its because of this nonsense.

No hostility, yet no sugar coating.

What "tone" is acceptable to you?

Bottom line is yes, OP should have been written up.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

No hostility, yet no sugar coating.

What "tone" is acceptable to you?

Bottom line is yes, OP should have been written up.

Exactly.

No one is going to be nicey nice just because she made a mistake or is a new grad. Especially since she believes she is in the right, she did nothing wrong & it was *just* senna.

I think this thread has run its course, again.

[anayo, DNP, APRN, NP]

Wrong guys....Obviously, some people forgot what it is like to be a new nurse. Anyway, cupquake, I know you are appreciative by some comments and startled by some that why you are absent, but its gonna be ok. Learn from this mistake and be the best nurse you can be. If you can accept your current mistake and future mistakes then I know you will be awesome nurse in the near future. But pls dont go online to ask for this type of advice, because some people can be unreasonable.Ask a close peer at your facility that you know will tell you the truth and be reasonable at the same time. Thats what I do and my peers do when they ask me for advice.I know sometimes its hard to take crititism. But know that every supervisor/or DON is different. Some give a verbal for first time offenses and other just write you up. Learn my friend, and wish you the best in your nursing career. Have a good day.

[Farawyn]

Alotta assumptions in your post, PP. You know what "they" say about those.