Words of Encouragement

Jennybrie · Mar 15, 2013

I'm so busy, having two jobs, and family is always calling needing something or wanting me to go somewhere.

Sounds like your priorities are not where they should be. You are doing too much and not able to focus enough on school. I don't want to tell you how to prioritize but at least make a list of what is the most important to you right now and if something has to go in order for you to be successful then make it happen.

Good luck!

3aremyjoy · Mar 15, 2013

Unfortunately, you only have so many hours in a day, and you will divide them up based upon what you find to be a priority. I work part time, have 3 teens and a husband. Unfortunately for right now, it's my own social life that is practically gone, followed by family time. When I'm able to backburner school and the job, my family is first. Even if it's just sitting down for a game of cards together. The only way I survive is by repeating " only 1.5 years left...I can do it!".

If going to nursing school is what you want, you WILL find a way to make it work, but it won't just happen on it's own, you're the one that makes the decisions.

3aremyjoy · Mar 15, 2013

Oh, and one last thing....you will be saying "NO" to a lot of things. No, I can't come over for lunch this sunday, No, I can't drive you there Jonny, No, I can't go to the movies Friday night, No, I can't help you move....

If you've always been a person that hops up and says yes, this is going to be a difficult time of adjustment for you and those around you.

vebb · Mar 15, 2013

If you've always been a person that hops up and says yes, this is going to be a difficult time of adjustment for you and those around you.

I'm in trouble! lol

EDRN1091 · Mar 15, 2013

I agree with PP, you will have to learn to say "No" to certain things, people, situations, negative thoughts, etc.! Is there a reason you must have two jobs? That itself will completely take away from precious time for studying, doing assignments, care plans, among the other things you have to do (like breathe, eat and sleep!). I am just under two months from graduating with a BSN - I've worked part time the whole way through, while taking care of my mother (who is quadriplegic and requires frequent care), having a boyfriend who I now live with, and taking care of bills and myself too! It is NOT impossible!! I found one job manageable, but time will only tell how much two different jobs will take a toll on your psyche. I even had to cut down my hours to make it through this last semester. Take a few hours whenever you have them to really focus on what your priorities are. Write them down in a list, a drawing, whatever helps you to make sense of it all, and go from there. If you have trouble doing that on your own, take it to an advisor or professor you think you can trust to help you. If all else fails, come back here to AN and I'm sure some of us here will be willing to let you pick our brains! Best of luck.

Stephalump · Mar 16, 2013

I agree..time to put those newly learned nursing skills to work and implement some prioritization!

There are lots of cheerleaders out there, always telling you can do ANYthing and everything if you just really, really want to.

You can't.

There are only so many days in a week and hours in a day. You only have so much energy, focus, and willpower. Figure out what is most important, what you can handle, and how to say no to everything else. School is temporary, but oh-so- important if nursing is what you want for yourself. Live a little more cheaply (we haven't had cable or Internet in almost a year.) Tell friends and family you are unarguably busy during your study time (turn off the phone!) and make good use of your time. Get ahead, so when you so have to put off school you have a nice cushion.

Time to get creative :-)