Will this look unprofessional?

kbrn2002, ADN, RN · Apr 5, 2021

First thing to consider is do you have other job opportunities or if not can you afford to be unemployed until you find another job?

Unless you have another firm offer on the table I'd at least give it a try. You might be pleasantly surprised, Then again you might be right and find the job isn't for you. If so, go ahead and leave after your fears are confirmed. Employers have a probationary period for a reason, it's for both the employer and the employee to see if the position is a good fit. If it turns out it isn't you wouldn't be the first and certainly won't be the last to decide to leave the job during your probationary period,

hypnotizer90, BSN, RN · Apr 5, 2021

On 4/4/2021 at 11:30 AM, raindrop said:

Any advice or opinions welcomed.

Did you end up calling?

I assume this is med-surg? How is the acuity - are patients mobile or really sick? Is there a unit resource nurse in normal schedule? Is it days or nights? Admissions & discharges?

7patients for a day shift is too much but again depends on type of unit/support/teamwork/staffing/management. The patient number really depends on a lot of factors not until you tried then your feelings were materialized.

Our hospital is unionized & I work permanent days with 1RN:5patients while nights has 1RN:6patients. At least we have nursing techs for both but if none then minus 1 patient for days & nights. I work at med-surg/gen surg so fast turnover with admissions & discharges. The management seems supportive. It's a busy floor but manageable.

raindrop · Apr 5, 2021

Hi guys, yeah I turned it down by talking to HR and the manager by phone. They both appreciated that I quit before starting since they invested nothing in me yet.

I simply told them I was super excited when the job was offered, but now that the dust has settled, I realized I am not a good fit for the job. I didn’t really elaborate. But I’ll elaborate here...

The MAIN reason is my narcissist stepmom and father. They are rumor starters and gossip lovers. My sister and I are no contact with them. Despite their age (70) they hang out with ppl my age, some of their friends were ppl that I went to high school with. They are very parental-like and “cool” to them, but to my sister and I and their grandkids, they are vile, controlling and just mean .

As I was leaving my interview, in the lobby, I saw some of their young friends in a group talking with eachother. This is a small community and basically everyone works at one of the 2 hospitals. I said hello to them as I walked past them, and I was greeted with a hi, followed by them snickering loudly and completely turning their backs to me. Grown ups.

I felt sick afterwards. I won’t have peace there. I’d always wonder who is gossiping untrue things about me, who is reporting to my N-stepmom, wondering what stepmom is saying, etc?

I tried conquering my fears by not allowing the High school crap ruin what could be OK, but at the end of the day, I couldn’t get over it. I’m sure some of them will be on my floor or I’ll float to their floor. I can’t deal with them. Life is hard enough being estranged from my parents, I don't need their crap interfering with my job. How sad huh?

caliotter3 · Apr 5, 2021

Sweet Jesus! How can you work anywhere in that area with this situation? Have you considered moving away? I certainly would. You need a fresh start in a place where you have an even chance to succeed without so much to worry about.

raindrop · Apr 5, 2021

Yeah I’ve been a traveler for many years. I haven’t moved permanently because my mom and sister are here and we are very close. And I have a beautiful house that I got for a VERY good deal. I love my house. But today I realized how much I really want to settle down and stop traveling, and to accomplish this, I’ll need to move. They are rather popular in town because they throw their money at people, but they don’t do it quietly, everyone sees and admired them. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.

hypnotizer90, BSN, RN · Apr 6, 2021

Your reason is a personal in nature and that you should be able to work without influences/ stressors from your family/ others. You decide which makes you happy/calm/relax and move on.