I am sure that many of us have come across someone who doesn't agree with our career choice. You could be the perfect person for a job, but still, there will be some naysayer who says something like, "I don't see you in that position," or "That doesn't seem like the right career for you."
The thing is, how much should one consider other people's opinions when choosing their career? With most careers, other's opinions wouldn't matter greatly, as people's lives generally wouldn't be directly affected. Advice for people seeking non-nursing careers would be something such as "You have to do the job, and enjoy what you're doing. Don't listen to others if this is what you truly want to do."
With that said, nursing is a bit different. When you are a nurse, you are directly impacting patient's lives. That is the best--and the worst part of the profession. Anything you do can and will affect the patient, either positively, or negatively. Therefore, it seems like other people's opinions if you may matter more, especially if they come from those who are already successful nurses.
One person saying that they don't see you as a nurse may not be that big of a deal. Some people simply won't see our value, or what we can contribute. However, if you have had multiple people suggest you find a different career, should you pay attention to their opinions? If others have had concerns about your ability to perform the job safely, is it worth it to consider their thoughts? If more than one person has seen you struggle with aspects of the profession, is it a sign that nursing is not right for you?
More questions to ponder:
-Would you consider the opinion of ANYONE who says you should not be a nurse?
-Would you value the opinions of other nurses more than those who are not in the profession?
-How many people who are opposed to your being in nursing would it take for you to step back from your career?
-If you struggle with nursing, and others have noticed, should you continue to push forth anyway, in the event that you truly want to be a nurse?
-Would you ignore other people's opinions and simply pursue the career because it is the one you want, keeping in mind that the safety of patients may be affected?
With not all of our fellow nurses being encouraging, it seems worth it to discuss how much of their opinions, if at all, should affect our decision to continue nursing.