What to do when...

[Justforus]

:scrying::crying2:Ok, as if first week wasnt hard enough, I am now as of well tech. today a single mother of 2, a 6 month old and a 3 year old, with an EX who is totally unsupportive all of a sudden. He "isnt ready to give up his life, for my schooling" Im kinda hoping that it goes smoothly, but honestly, I dont want to put the effort into fixing this relationship, because I want WANT WANT WANT SCHOOL. I have my mind set on school, I have come so far to let this bring me down. Any words of encouragement or advice?!

[Spidey's mom, ADN, BSN, RN]

I'm gonna sound like a Dr. Laura clone here . . .but from the perspective of making bad choices when I was younger I think I have to.

You made two babies with someone who didn't want to marry you before making kids and you are surprised that he still wants to live his own life? He is an immature jerk and you need to make sure he knows that he is not welcome back unless he is willing to grow up and MARRY you. And I'd insist on counseling before that and NO SEX.

Please don't sell yourself short and give up so much of what is valuable about yourself and don't sell your kids short either.

Is there any way that your own family can help? Can you move back in with your parents?

I would not budge an inch giving him anything before he becomes a grown up man.

Big hugs sent to you my dear.:icon_hug:

steph

[Diary/Dairy, RN]

Justforus - your ex does not sound like a good father - he sounds selfish. He is choosing to spend his time doing things that he wants and making your life harder...as well as making his MOTHER take care of his kids so he can go out - sorry - I am not seeing the good father behavior there.

As someone who also has made some really bad relationship choices, Be firm - DON'T make excuses for him.....

I hope things work out for you!