Very Upset And It's Affecting My Marriage

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I graduated in May 08' got my official licensce in Sept.and I still cannot find work. I have put in so many applicatons, seems like no one wants to take on a "New Grad". But how the heck are you supposed to get experienced when no one will hire you. I have prayed to God soo hard for employment. It is now Nov. and I even started applying for positions outside of nursing. At this point I just don't know what to do. I cry at night and Job hunt in the day. I'm all tapped out. To top it all off my husband makes snide comments, here and there, like somebody has to make the money and I don't care if we go negative in the bank i' going up north ( Northern CA.) to spend Thanksgiving with MY family. I'm to the point where I want to say forget it and qiut my marriage. I'm going into the R.N program in Jan 09' if I can afford it at this point. Come Dec. I have to start paying back the student loan. Heck I can hardly pay for gas in my car. Not to be mean but I feel some employers don't call me because i'm not bilingual. everytime I see a new LVN position it says english/spanish prefered seriously from LTC's/SNF - Kaiser Permanente. I'm like it's not my fault people don't want to learn english which is supposed to be USA's language. So i'm being punished. I worked my butt off in school and graduated with honors along with being IV certified. I have been getting more and more depressed, to where I have gained 10lbs in a month. Worse part is I filled out all the employment stuff for a home helath agency American Private Duty they told my of a possible job, and that they would call me back. That was a month and a half ago. I wish someone would have told me how hard it would be to get a job. I would have ecome an M.A at half the expense. Not to mention that I am competing with the rest of my classmates 27 to be exact for the same jobs. Feeling soo hopeless and alone. Any advice?// :bluecry1::bluecry1::bluecry1:

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Specializes in Long-term Care; Geriatrics; Pediatrics.

I'm so sorry to hear all of what you are going through... Believe me I HAVE BEEN THERE BEFORE... I live in VA and I use to put in over twenty applications a day... no one would hire me... my relationship with my now husband was going downhill (now I see that that was mostly because I had become so sensitive to being Jobless, that whenever money was mentioned I automatically got on da defensive... even though, during school for 2yrs i hadn't worked at all)... I got so frustrated with my new LPN Diploma dat i 2 started filling out applications for local retail stores.

I didn't no wut 2do!! I was redy 2 give up on my dreams as an LPN and my relationship... Somehow and for sum reason, I stuck it out (i cant say wut made me stick it out... Maybe Love... Maybe Determination)!!

Trust and believe when I say that theres always a light at the end of the tunnel.

After about 6 months I did find a job!!:smokin:

I have faith in you... YOU CAN DO IT!!:yeah:

**And don't wory about da other 27 people... Jus remind urself dat "they don't encompass ur strength, wisdom, or abilities" (even if they do...u have 2 assure urself that ur da best...employers notice confidence)**

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I'm so sorry to hear all of what you are going through... Believe me I HAVE BEEN THERE BEFORE... I live in VA and I use to put in over twenty applications a day... no one would hire me... my relationship with my now husband was going downhill (now I see that that was mostly because I had become so sensitive to being Jobless, that whenever money was mentioned I automatically got on da defensive... even though, during school for 2yrs i hadn't worked at all)... I got so frustrated with my new LPN Diploma dat i 2 started filling out applications for local retail stores.

I didn't no wut 2do!! I was redy 2 give up on my dreams as an LPN and my relationship... Somehow and for sum reason, I stuck it out (i cant say wut made me stick it out... Maybe Love... Maybe Determination)!!

Trust and believe when I say that theres always a light at the end of the tunnel.

After about 6 months I did find a job!!:smokin:

I have faith in you... YOU CAN DO IT!!:yeah:

**And don't wory about da other 27 people... Jus remind urself dat "they don't encompass ur strength, wisdom, or abilities" (even if they do...u have 2 assure urself that ur da best...employers notice confidence)**

Are you texting your post from your blackberry or something??:smokin:

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sorry to hear it has affected your marriage.I went through the same thing graduated in 08 got my actual license in june started working in July i too put in about 15 applications but the same thing 1 yr exp.If you live in southern ca there is a home health agency its called Allied Professional Nursing they have a new grad program thats were i got my start.now i work for corona norco unified school district as an lvn i am the school nurse its great no holidays nights or weekends and they are always looking for subs it does not matter about exp and they pay 18.99 as a sub they need subs because if we take off they have to go through an agency to replace us.:nuke:

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i forgot to tell you Allied Professional Nursing is located in Upland or Ranch Cucamonga good luck :nuke:

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Specializes in LTC.

Hang in there! You will get a job...have you tried going to places in surrounding areas? That might help out some...I am in NC so I dont know what you have where you are but ....have you checked out any LTC places....dont know if you've ever worked in one but it would be worth a try and give you some experience while pursuing other places.

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Specializes in home health soo far.

I got my license around the same time you did and not until this past january did i get a full time job. I applied eeeeveeerywhereee!!! Believe me its not u! Its just really hard now a days and being a new grad makes it worse unfortunately. I know its hard but continue to have patience! GOOD LUCK!:wink2:

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Specializes in psych. rehab nursing, float pool.

First piece of advice. Tell your husband to shut his darn mouth. While he may be feeling stressed so are you. He needs to be supportive of you , not an acting out child " I'll visit momma alone crap"

Keep on putting in applications, ask nurses you know if they have heard of any type of openings. Try careerbuilders.com it may or may not have an S in it I can't recall for sure.

Take out what ever loan you need to get your RN, again it is still hard for new RN grads to get their first job also but the long term future will be better.

Keep your chin up, something will come along.

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I just posted a message similar to yours. So far my husband has been very supportive but my loans are coming due next month. I totally agree with everything that you said & am crying right along with you. I have been working for a hospice agency, in the office, for the past 10 years & thought I could just transition from the office to the field but now my boss is saying she cannot hire me as an LVN because I don't have 1yr acute care experience. If you want to talk...I'm available.

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Hi there, Im sorry to hear about ur marriage and its unfortunate you had to share that with the board.

I am, however very disturbed by your lack of understanding toward bilingual RN's.

Your comment "why am I being punished, the language of the USA" ...etc blah blah ... has severe racial negativity and tells us of your lack of understanding of bilingual hiring practices.

1 out of every 65 nurses is bilingual and you think that job should have been for you!!! Haha!!

Never mind that we as nurses are suppossed to provide compassionate care to our patients, clearly you dont understand that your employer has paying customers that they wish to accomodate. Should people in the USA not recive services for which they pay?

After reading your post im not surprised you werent hired!

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I completely understand how you feel!! My husband keeps making stupid remarks as well, but I understand he is under pressure as being the sole financial provider for 2 years and its getting crunch time with the finances. I graduated Dec 08 and got my license this month and I still can't find a job. I was applying before I even took my exam!! The hospitals around here (Central GA) are only hiring RN's and its so frustrating!! You'd think with the nursing shortage that we have that they wouldn't be so picky about who they are hiring. I'm praying for a miracle because I really want to help take on some of the financial part in our marriage. He has been so good to allow me to quit my job so I could excel in school and take care of our daughter that I want to take off some of the stress he's feeling. I'll be keeping you in mind and praying for you. Hopefully we'll see the light at the end of the tunnel!!

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I've been there too! Once I graduated, it was hard to find work. I ended up doing private duty in the educational settings through an agency. But now that it's summer and school's out...I am currently jobless and my husband, along with me, feels the stress of me being unemployed once again! And I/we have a loan to pay as well! Fun times, eh? Nursing school/lack of employment really does take a toll on your relationship/marriage when it comes to financial matters. Hang in there!!! I am....and I'm still looking for stable work (received my license in June of 2008)

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