Unfriendly and unsupportive fellow students...

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I'm hoping for someone to shed some light on this or at least tell me they have gone through the same thing and give me some advice! Thanks to all beforehand! :heartbeat

OK, so I am 26 and working on my second degree BSN program at a school in Indiana. I attend a smaller university in a smaller city than I did when I went for my 1st degree. I attended a local community college to finish a few of the nursing pre-reqs before starting at the university at the beginning of this Spring semester. At the CC I kinda stayed to myself but made a few class friends, talked with them but nothing that would constitute a long friendship...that didn't bother me. When I was working n my 1st degree I was friendly with a lot of the people in my class and my dorm, met a lot a great people, made a lot of friends, whatever. But since I have been back to school full time, I feel like there are so many stuck up, unfriendly people both younger than, the same age as, and older than me that just don't want give people the time of day! Being in pre-nursing classes and going to apply to the program for Fall 2010, I figured all of us that are trying to get into the program would somewhat come together and share the stresses...boy am I thinking I am wrong! The majority (95%) of the students I am in pre-nursing classes with are either only friends with the students that have been in classes with them before or keep to themselves and do not talk to anyone they haven't seen in their classes before. I am starting to get frustrated and annoyed and half of the time I do not enjoy going to class. I thought being in such a hard program as nursing is, students would come together and support each other, at least be friendly, but it is not the case at this school. I adore all of the professors, and have started to talk with others that are in the same boat as me, but what to do about the unfriendliness and closed-off mentalities that I am experiencing? Has anyone else been so annoyed with current/future cohorts that it made you almost hate going to class?

Once again, this nothing serious that would make me second guess becoming a nurse, just more like a vent session! :banghead:

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I'm hoping for someone to shed some light on this or at least tell me they have gone through the same thing and give me some advice! Thanks to all beforehand! :heartbeat

OK, so I am 26 and working on my second degree BSN program at a school in Indiana. I attend a smaller university in a smaller city than I did when I went for my 1st degree. I attended a local community college to finish a few of the nursing pre-reqs before starting at the university at the beginning of this Spring semester. At the CC I kinda stayed to myself but made a few class friends, talked with them but nothing that would constitute a long friendship...that didn't bother me. When I was working n my 1st degree I was friendly with a lot of the people in my class and my dorm, met a lot a great people, made a lot of friends, whatever. But since I have been back to school full time, I feel like there are so many stuck up, unfriendly people both younger than, the same age as, and older than me that just don't want give people the time of day! Being in pre-nursing classes and going to apply to the program for Fall 2010, I figured all of us that are trying to get into the program would somewhat come together and share the stresses...boy am I thinking I am wrong! The majority (95%) of the students I am in pre-nursing classes with are either only friends with the students that have been in classes with them before or keep to themselves and do not talk to anyone they haven't seen in their classes before. I am starting to get frustrated and annoyed and half of the time I do not enjoy going to class. I thought being in such a hard program as nursing is, students would come together and support each other, at least be friendly, but it is not the case at this school. I adore all of the professors, and have started to talk with others that are in the same boat as me, but what to do about the unfriendliness and closed-off mentalities that I am experiencing? Has anyone else been so annoyed with current/future cohorts that it made you almost hate going to class?

Once again, this nothing serious that would make me second guess becoming a nurse, just more like a vent session! :banghead:

I have found that most students in my classes give the perception of what you had described above. However, I've come to realize that all of us have so much on our plates at the moment (classes, family, jobs, etc.), the last thing anyone thinks of is reaching out to others. When I am in that situation (every semester), I take it upon to myself to get to know the people who sit near me, behind me, and in front of me. You'd be amazed at how friendly people are, once you get them talking :)

(If you've encountered specific examples of unfriendliness...then just disregard my post).

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Maybe they're stressed about the coursework and trying to stay focused? It's only a couple of months into the program so maybe people will start to lighten up soon. I will probably be one of those people, lol. With a husband, kids, all their activities, taking care of the house, etc., I bet I'll just be downright grim while I'm in school :p.

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I remember my first A&P class feeling this way, and I was VERY emotional about it that I cried after class and dreaded attending. My boyfriend was very supportive and reassured me that I wasn't there to make friends, but to learn and become a nurse! I eventually found 2 other ladies in my class that were also nice and not stuck up and we all supported each other. It turns out that I ended up being one of the students whom actually became successful in the class, while the other "close groups" cheated their way through tests or just did very poorly. Your character is all that matters. If reaching out and sparking conversations with students fail, try to not let if affect you. Continue to stay focused on why you are there.

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It's not personal. There is a lot on peoples minds and for the most part they are more interested in learning than making friends. Not to mention that the time to make a friendship commitment outside of class is definetly out of the question. Instead of making friends try to make study budies. Your classmates will be a lot more responsive if you talk about the class work, professor, etc.

If you still get the cold shoulder than move on and try to talk to someone else. In the end you are there to learn and not to make friends.

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