I work for a psychiatric crisis center. This is actually my 6th year anniversary
i am contingent now. At the psych facility we receive packets to come in and be psychiatrically evaluated. I was working a midnight shift. We have a pending list of patients to come in and sometimes if we read their charts and we see they could easily be decerted we can call them in.
I happened to see my dads ex wife. We never got along while they were married. Also did haven’t seen her in 16 years. I decided to call her in for being curious and also I knew she would be be a quick decert.
she came in and I had to assess her. We chatted caught up, I explained the process and I said if you ever needed anything here’s my number. My heart was in the right place.
few days later a friend of mine whom I used to be really close with but now she’s a supervisor and doesn’t know how to act so we’re fallen out. Anyways she wrote a recipient rights on me because it’s a conflict of interest which isn’t true because I’ve taken care of many people I know.
needless to say the recipient rights went no where
so today they needed a nurse and I went to work 3 hours into my shift I noticed I couldn’t get into the program. I was inactivated. I asked a supervisor and he looked into it.
he came up to me and told me I was suspended pending investigation but was unable to tell me why. This was news to me
so I blew up my nursing supervisors phone- we are pretty close and I explained to her my file a and I asked if she knew about it and she said yes. WhiCh baffled me as to why she didn’t tell me
well apparently my fathers ex wife came to my job and told them I contacted her. I had sent her a text a week after discharge asking if she was ok and I wanted to know if I did something wrong Because I was being accused oF guiding her what to say. Which I didn’t. If she needed help she needed it. She said she was sleeping and would contact me later. I never contacted her again. This was all via text.
so she went to my work and showed them the text. Per my supervisor she doesn’t know if she can save my job.
I know I was Unprofessional and crossed a boundary but in my defense it was an old family member and my heart was in a good place. But then again I never should’ve contacted her regardless.
I am distraught and so mad at myself for my stupid actions. I kind of want to resign right now just to get it over with. But I would like other people’s opinions. And please don’t be harsh I’m already beating myself up as is.
Specializes in Pediatrics, Pediatric Float, PICU, NICU.
You are not being bullied. You are getting the opinions that you asked for when you posted on a public forum, and you don't like those opinions.
For what it is worth, I am not judging you, I never said I am perfect or haven't made mistakes (lord knows I've made plenty) or that I am sitting on a high horse - I simply pointed out where you went wrong, and where you are continuing to go wrong when you try to explain things which could continue to harm you and potentially cost you your job. Only thing I didn't do was sugar coat what I was saying. That doesn't make it bullying.
You don’t know me that well then. So your opinion doesn’t mean that much to me. Im
noy acting like a victim. I genuinely thought she was being nice. She even had th audacity to tell me I was her favorite. If I were her favorite she wouldn’t of reported me. She could’ve simply said I don’t think I want you to contact me instead of being a malicious person.
You know, when I was a security guard at a mall many years ago, I made my rounds and talked to all the store venders to be friendly and also because it was my job to see if there were any problems we should know about. I though I was being very professional and treated everyone as equals. Then one day I was called to the office by my superior for a complaint against me for "chatting up the employees". It would appear one of the store clerks had misinterpreted what I was doing. I never got into trouble because I was just doing what I was instructed to do.
My point here is that sometimes you think you are treating people well, they don't view it the same way even if they respond as such. You can never assume that because you are on good standing with someone that you can trust them.
In my opinion, it is best just to own this and move on with a painful lesson.
JadedCPN, BSN, RN
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You are not being bullied. You are getting the opinions that you asked for when you posted on a public forum, and you don't like those opinions.
For what it is worth, I am not judging you, I never said I am perfect or haven't made mistakes (lord knows I've made plenty) or that I am sitting on a high horse - I simply pointed out where you went wrong, and where you are continuing to go wrong when you try to explain things which could continue to harm you and potentially cost you your job. Only thing I didn't do was sugar coat what I was saying. That doesn't make it bullying.