Published Oct 30, 2014
sunshine_27
1 Post
Hello everyone I'm currently a freshman in college. My major is pretty specific to my school but basically requires biology classes, physics, A&P, health classes, exercise classes but also has required PE classes. Basically my senior year in HS i was torn between nursing and PA. I shadowed both but when the financial aid letter for my current school came in, it was significantly cheaper than any other school I had applied to including state schools. After awhile I realized that nursing was really what I wanted to do. I contacted St. John Fisher who i had applied to senior year of HS and they said if I transferred in the spring I would not have to reapply and keep all my academic scholarships I earned based on my HS grades. Fisher sent me a new financial aid letter that comes out pretty equal with the school I'm at now.I was so close to sending in my tuition deposit to fisher but didn't due to pressure from my mom to attend here coupled with the price. But now I've made my group of friends here, I'm on the dance team, have been talking to this guy I really like but he told me he doesn't want anything serious if I'm just going to up and leave in a month and a half. Now I'm torn because I know how important college is for the career I want and I don't want to be stupid and choose to stay here just because of some people I've met but I also don't want to transfer for nursing and not meet anyone as it will be in the spring semester when everyone already has their established friend groups. If I did stay I would probably just do a post bac nursing program after I graduate but that just doesn't make sense. As far as the money goes, I'm blessed enough that my dad pays for my school and has told me to go where I feel best. I'm just looking for some outsiders opinions apart from my parents and friends at school because time is running out and I'm driving myself crazy.
krrbrr, ADN
104 Posts
First I would say, please please please please don't let the 'boy' in your life determine ANY decisions regarding your education. I did many years ago and now here I am at 33, still taking pre-req's to FINALLY pursue my dreams. On that same note, if your friends are friends they will stick around no matter where you are.
I remember being your age and it was probably one of my most difficult times in my life because I felt so lost and wanted to form my own identity away from my parents. You need to take a deep look into yourself so you can decide what it is you want to do. Since money sounds like it's no problem, please follow your heart and go wherever you feel is the best for your future.
As far as meeting new friends go, even at 33 years old I've been able to meet friends at college (weird, I know!). I think someone as young as you would have no issue finding your place in your new environment, just don't be afraid to put yourself out there and join groups if you must to get involved.
Good luck!
dorkypanda
671 Posts
If you have the support from mom and dad I think you know what's best to do. go forward to the school that has the program you want to do.
im sure you will make great friends again and meet other people too. boys will definitely come a lot later if they're meant to come. For now , please focus on school with your greatest efforts and achieving your goals. it sounds cheesy but really do the best thing for yourself- a good education
RunBabyRN
3,677 Posts
I agree, go! You'll make new friends, and keep the good ones from the old school, and there are a zillion cute, smart college guys (some might be into something more serious, too!). DO NOT hold up your dreams over a guy EVER.
akulahawkRN, ADN, RN, EMT-P
3,523 Posts
Don't let your feelings for someone you've effectively just met decide your educational path. You must choose what's best for you and your goals. There are many people out in the world and this one guy isn't the only guy for you. In a way, he's helping you out when he says he doesn't want to get too serious if you're going to leave in a couple months.
When I started nursing school, I knew exactly NOBODY at the school I went to. I ended up making friends with both of my cohorts. I started with one and ended up graduating with another. I have much experience moving around over the years. You will make friends as long as you're open to making them. You don't have to lose the friendships you've made so far, just don't foreclose on the possibility of making new ones at a school that will bring you closer to your career goals.