I decided to start my nursing journey a few months ago and am just starting to look at nursing schools and find a place to do my pre-regs.
Then DH comes along and tells me he is planning on returning to school too!!!! And he is reluctant to consider both of us being in school at the same time. He says we can only afford to have one of us go and since I am the one with the job (he has been searching for over a year with no avail) I will have to keep it to support us. He is the one who logically should go back then. He wants to get his master's degree.
To complicate it all, he is visually impaired and that hinders his job options. So he does have to have lots of education for an employer to really consider hiring him worth it. I am completely devoted to my husband, and want to see him succeed and not have any regrets of what he "should have done".
But I so want to be a nurse . . . and I don't want to have to wait three or so years for him to finish. That is about when have planned to start our family, so it would be babies and school at the same time, and, while doable, stressful. Aggghhh! What should I do?
Lots of good suggestions here....I would HIGHLY suggest since you don't have kids, that you concentrate on eliminating as many prereqs and coreqs and anything else you can get done outside of the nursing core before starting school. This will allow you to continue working and also keep working toward your nursing degree. When you are ready to start school, should you be ready to start a family, it will make life much easier.
I put my dreams of an education on hold many years ago -- at least twice when I was ready to start due to my children's ages or whatever, it seemed my husband was also ready to go back to school. It took until my kids were well beyond middle school for me to find the chance to go back and *I* am the one who worked around everyone else's schedule (this was for my bachelor's in business). I've got no words of advice except if you really think this is what you want to do, then the TWO of you should be figuring out a way to make it happen. It's not up to one person in a relationship to mandate both of your lives. Lots of great suggestions; I hope you'll consider some of them.
WDWpixieRN, RN
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Lots of good suggestions here....I would HIGHLY suggest since you don't have kids, that you concentrate on eliminating as many prereqs and coreqs and anything else you can get done outside of the nursing core before starting school. This will allow you to continue working and also keep working toward your nursing degree. When you are ready to start school, should you be ready to start a family, it will make life much easier.
I put my dreams of an education on hold many years ago -- at least twice when I was ready to start due to my children's ages or whatever, it seemed my husband was also ready to go back to school. It took until my kids were well beyond middle school for me to find the chance to go back and *I* am the one who worked around everyone else's schedule (this was for my bachelor's in business). I've got no words of advice except if you really think this is what you want to do, then the TWO of you should be figuring out a way to make it happen. It's not up to one person in a relationship to mandate both of your lives. Lots of great suggestions; I hope you'll consider some of them.
Best wishes!