To stay or to go

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  1. should i leave or just stay

    • 1
      go for it
    • 14
      stay and wait till you all go back to the states

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Hello everyone!

Okay just to give a quick introduction about myself and maybe that can help with some of the feedback and questions I am going to ask. im 25yrs old with 3 children ages 7,2,and 3 months. My husband is currently in the military so right now we are all the way in Japan. I have always been interested in starting a career as a registered nurse. my husband supports my dream that soon one day will be reality lol. well these past couple of weeks i have been wanting to start getting my college pre-reqs done and all the basic things that it takes to even apply to nursing school. WELL my husband came up with an idea that i go back to the states by myself and enroll in the school that i had already looked into because they have a nursing program that i can go to and just focus on myself and my goals and our kiddos will stay with him. i was a little hesitant about the whole idea at first because i know i will pretty much be gone for like 3 years and that's a lot but he has reminded me that i can always come back when i have off of school and there's always skype and stuff of that nature. i thought about it and i think i wanna do it but it wont happen till next year int he fall. now my question is basically do you think i should do it?

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That's a tough decision especially leaving your 3 month old for the 3 years.. personally i wouldn't know what to do.. but does your school offer online classes?? if so, take advantage of them!! I've taken 2 online courses and taking 1 more next semester ..

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Well by the time i leave my 3 month old would be 1 years old. And no I don't think they do because certain tests you have to actually sit in the class.

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Well by the time i leave my 3 month old would be 1 years old. And no I don't think they do because certain tests you have to actually sit in the class.

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oh ok i thought you were leaving right away lol ... oh yeah there are some online classes that you have to be personally in campus to take tests that was my biology online class that i took this semester.. maybe you could make arrangements with the professor?? that's what one of the classmates who was living in hawaii did.. she made arrangements with the professor so she took her tests online too.. but you do have a tough decision .. i hope someone else can help you decide

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No I can't leave right away! Lol that's really way too soon! Lol but thanks for the reply and I'm hoping I can get some more replies and hopefully they can help with my decision. Apart of me does want to go and get my career started because I know it would help my family and I would be very happy but then I don't wanna leave my family because I know I will miss them a crap load!! Ahh making hard decisions like this sucks!

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Can you start taking some of the pre-reqs while in Japan? I know most military bases offer college classes thru the University of Maryland (or other colleges). I took a few classes while I was station in Germany on active duty.

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I can do that but I just wanna get everything done you know? Like I don't think they provide lab classes whenever I need them. But I will look into UMUC! I know they only have a few selected classes here though. But thanks for your info I appreciate it :)

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How much longer are you stationed in Japan? Sometimes the journey takes a little longer but it will be worth it in the end. You are young so that is a positive. I personally think 3 years away from your children is a huge sacrifice and something I could not do. My kids are 10 & 14 now and I have enjoyed every moment with them, it goes by extremely fast.

I am now taking my pre-reqs part time while I work full time and I am 41. I am applying to a fall 2015 nursing program and started taking classes fall 2013.

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Thank you for replying, we are here for 2 more years. Like you said it is a big sacrifice but I'm thinking about what if my husband gets out the military at least we will have an okay paycheck and it's something I know I will enjoy! I did and still is thinking about the separation from my kids which I know will be really heard but I'm also thinking about their future and also ours as a family. Man I hate being torn in between this issue its so hard.

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It is a difficult decision and I wish you the best.

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My gut response was don't do it yet. Your husband is in the military and must have a lot of time obligations related to his job. If you are also gone for 3 years, who is with the kids? If you have trusted family there as well, people you can 100% count on to be there for your kids when you and your husband are not then my answer might be different.

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