alright, i'll start this off by saying that i didn't start school until i was 21. i never wanted to go to school, and as soon as i turned 18 i left florida and went to live in a tent in skagway, ak. i came back to tallahassee, fl and started school only because my family did not approve of the "transient" lifestyle i was living. i worked at a gym making $14.20 an hour i personally loved it and haven't really been happy since. i came here to make minimum wage and i started going to school working towards an aa in anthropology - i love cultures, i love being outdoors, and if i could move to some remote island to study some remote tribe i would. after completing about 50% of the requirements towards my aa i decided that my dream job would not be feasible unless i got a masters degree. it made more sense to me at the time that i would be able to find a "real" job in the "real" world if i entered a specialized program, which brought me to nursing.
i do not want to be a nurse at all. i am not a people person, i do not want to take care of people, and i prefer to stay detached from society as much as possible, but the want to please my family overtook my own wants, as it seems to for a lot of people. last semester i did fine with three classes and ended my term with a 3.0 gpa. this semester i am taking anthropology & physiology, science of nutrition, psychology, and mathematics for liberal arts. i am doing fine in the math class, but everything else seems to steadily just flow downhill. i have not missed a single psychology class nor missed any assignments and haven't recieved anything less than a 75 on any assignments and somehow my grade only factors out to a 66%. in nutrition i have no idea what the eff is going on, i cannot seem to grasp anything no matter how much i study, how many practice quizzes i do, or how many stupid little flashcards i make myself - everything is to no avail and i have a 55% in that class. i don't even want to express what's going on in the anthropology class. it's embarrassing.
i know i'm smart, but i am incredibly discouraged. almost everyday i have to go have myself a good cry in the bathroom. i'm pretty sure my teachers all think i'm some depressive underachiever that doesn't deserve a second glance, i almost thoroughly believe this because none of them seem to want to spend time speaking with me after class and they rarely answer my emails.
it has also been made clear that if one does not make a c or higher in a class that they will not even be considered for the program if they apply. i can't cancel out a grade unless it's an f... so a d pretty much ensures that i'm working towards nothing.
so i guess my questions are should i quit now? does everyone who is a nurse want to be a nurse? does it get easier? and how do you tell your parents you're quitting their dream?!
that last one is just wishing for an easy button...
This question makes no sense to me. You specifically said you do not want to be a nurse and then you are asking if you should be one? Ummm...the first thing about choosing a career is finding one you want to do of course. If you don't want to do it then why are you even asking the question?
I agree with you , this sounds wrong for you, there is something else you should be doing.. but is there something else going on as well? Are you depressed? The way you describe the teachers not liking you or talking to you sounds like it could have to do with your perception. I think you need to talk to a professional, maybe they can help figure out if this is all about your future career or if there is something else as well. (I am just pre-nursing , not a nurse, fyi)
Bingo! if the OP is still here......get thee to a pyschologist/counseor.....depression, learning disability, neuropsych testing....and quit school asap.
You should quit if nursing is not your dream. Your parent have their life & u have yours. Like any parent of course they may want what best for you, but maybe their doing it for themselves. I'm not a nursing student yet, but one thing I know you have to have in nursing that heart, and if you do not have that; then theirs no need for you to be a nurse. Good Luck!!!
You clearly stated that vehemently dislike people, so why pursue a career that expects you to interact with people? This is your life and you know what you need to do. You don't want to be a nurse, so why are seeking approbation from a bunch of strangers on a nursing forum?
If the OP has such overbearing parents and is non-social, they may seek anonymous support elsewhere- like AN. they may also need to hear that it's OK to move on.
There are many paths in life....my SIL has taken a very different one. She spent many years struggling and trying to fit into "normal" society with college and work- this caused a lot of mental health issues. Finally, after letting go of the pressure to conform, she is healthy and happy. She and her husband live in Europe, work with organic farmers and sustainable living groups. They get to travel all over and mostly do that on bikes! They have no kids, take no govt assistance, and support their own needs.
You seem to have an idea of what you want...live the way you want to as long as you don't expect for someone else to pay the bills :)
"And HOW DO YOU TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU'RE QUITTING THEIR DREAM?!"
It seems like you hate this career, if you dont like something it will be hard for you to acomplish someelse's dreams and not yours. I think if you feel you dislike nursing, you should quit now.
alright, i'll start this off by saying that i didn't start school until i was 21. i never wanted to go to school, and as soon as i turned 18 i left florida and went to live in a tent in skagway, ak. i came back to tallahassee, fl and started school only because my family did not approve of the "transient" lifestyle i was living. i worked at a gym making $14.20 an hour i personally loved it and haven't really been happy since. i came here to make minimum wage and i started going to school working towards an aa in anthropology - i love cultures, i love being outdoors, and if i could move to some remote island to study some remote tribe i would. after completing about 50% of the requirements towards my aa i decided that my dream job would not be feasible unless i got a masters degree. it made more sense to me at the time that i would be able to find a "real" job in the "real" world if i entered a specialized program, which brought me to nursing.
i do not want to be a nurse at all. i am not a people person, i do not want to take care of people, and i prefer to stay detached from society as much as possible, but the want to please my family overtook my own wants, as it seems to for a lot of people. last semester i did fine with three classes and ended my term with a 3.0 gpa. this semester i am taking anthropology & physiology, science of nutrition, psychology, and mathematics for liberal arts. i am doing fine in the math class, but everything else seems to steadily just flow downhill. i have not missed a single psychology class nor missed any assignments and haven't recieved anything less than a 75 on any assignments and somehow my grade only factors out to a 66%. in nutrition i have no idea what the eff is going on, i cannot seem to grasp anything no matter how much i study, how many practice quizzes i do, or how many stupid little flashcards i make myself - everything is to no avail and i have a 55% in that class. i don't even want to express what's going on in the anthropology class. it's embarrassing.
i know i'm smart, but i am incredibly discouraged. almost everyday i have to go have myself a good cry in the bathroom. i'm pretty sure my teachers all think i'm some depressive underachiever that doesn't deserve a second glance, i almost thoroughly believe this because none of them seem to want to spend time speaking with me after class and they rarely answer my emails.
it has also been made clear that if one does not make a c or higher in a class that they will not even be considered for the program if they apply. i can't cancel out a grade unless it's an f... so a d pretty much ensures that i'm working towards nothing.
so i guess my questions are should i quit now? does everyone who is a nurse want to be a nurse? does it get easier? and how do you tell your parents you're quitting their dream?!
that last one is just wishing for an easy button...
thank you!
i don't know what your families cultural beliefs are, but if they are very family oriented and are dead set on having you go to school for nursing, i guess it isn't really my place to tell you whether you should go against their wishes or not.
you only live once though and nursing school is not the easiest thing in the world. there are tons of people wanting to be a nurse unlike you who does not even want to and is basically just taking up space in a program only to please your parents. if you want out of the program, stop wasting your time and money and quit so that it can make room for someone who actually has a dream of becoming a nurse.
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This question makes no sense to me. You specifically said you do not want to be a nurse and then you are asking if you should be one? Ummm...the first thing about choosing a career is finding one you want to do of course. If you don't want to do it then why are you even asking the question?