The long term effects of being fired

RedZeppelinRN · Apr 22, 2008

The number of posts and examples of the effects of being fired in this thread shows how devastating and pervasive a problem getting fired can be. deserve termination. When an employer takes away the livelihood of a I have found, through the years, that it is quite disgusting to put face to face, the stories of those who are unjustly terminated, against those whogood employee and condones the misdeeds of so many substandard employees, they are saying a lot about their own worth as employees, employers, and human beings. I, for one, have learned to never trust those that I work for. None of them have been there when I needed to pay my rent or buy food, and I am aware that none of them will ever be there when I need them. They prefer to give wages to those who don't deserve their paychecks.

Unfortunately, this is so true. Another thing I have found is, if you are friendly, and cooperative, they think you are stupid and can take advantage of you.

Red

st4wb3rr33sh0rtc4k3 · Apr 22, 2008

Yes, one of my close friends in a nurse. Well, she just stopped after a decade. She is from Sweden and always tells me you are just too nice.

I really am, wondering when my backbone will kick in.

RedZeppelinRN · Apr 22, 2008

Iam so sorry that this happen to you..i know fully what you are describing..sort of..I you dont play...we make you pay..as long as you are quiet and do your job play the BLIND person than your IN..your...cool.But oh my God watch out if you are actually trying to advocate for your patients and step out of line than you become the target..for doing the right thing.
Red..thank you for stepping up to the plate..we NEED more nurses like YOU. The patients are usually quiet...but they notice nurses like you and are thankful for trying to help.I wish you well:).

Oh, thank you. I needed that!!

Red

muskylounge · Apr 25, 2008

I will try to keep this story as short as possible I can be long winded when emotional.

I first empathize with anyone who has ever been fired. It is quite humiliating and takes some time to recover from.

I now feel its maybe the best thing that has happened and I will explain why later (trying to find the silver lining)!

I have been in sales for 14 years. Mostly sales related to the automotive industry. I have been very successful at it and I am best talking with people. This is what I am best at. My younger brother introduced me into this field and I flourished as a service manager. We worked together all the way up until through 2007. My last 6 years have been focused mostly in phone sales. Still related to automobiles. I sell extended warranties. I have excelled and have always been in the top 3% every month and provided well for my family. Recent markets have changed and my job has changed as well. My brother left the company I was with and was offered a GM position. He really wanted me to come with him and finally I gave in (big mistake). All was going great I was promoted to trainer and I trained everyone and help build this company from ground up. It was a new company. I was outperforming my brother by leaps and bounds. It was my first promotion in this field and I wanted to shine.

In the midst of all this I made a decision I was going to go back to school and get my RN degree. I was going to school at nights so it would not interfere with work (8-5) no one had a problem. I started bring A's to work in Chemistry and Bio and continued to outsell my brother. Then I was told that I would have to quit school or step down from management and become a regular salesman again. I lied and said ok but can I at least finish this semester? They agreed.

Then on December 20th 5 days before Christmas my brother had two other salesman lie and say that I did something that I never did. Without an inquiry he pulled me into a office told me two people said that I told them that I could not help them sell a warranty and that I was fired!

I have been a over achiever my whole life. I have never been fired. I have been given one award after another for good work ethics. I simply hate to lose at anything. I was numb from head to toe and had to leave the building like Elvis before epinephrine started to kick in. I have yet to talk to my brother and neither has anyone in my family.

I think he was afraid I was gonna take his job. I never wanted his job. I wanted out of sales for good. I want to bust my tail and go to CRNA school. I love science always have.

Now I have the strongest motivator in the world to finish school. This is my silver lining. I will continue to do the right thing the right way and my children will learn that good things do happen to good people.

There is always a positive in everything. When a door seems to slam shut on our face the hand of God will gently open a window for us every time.

Jeffthenurse · Apr 25, 2008

I was a nursing instructor and was fired for failing students whose averages were below 50 when administration wanted me to pass them so the school could get more money from their student aid loans. I've since learned that many private, for-profit LPN schools operate that way and know that if I want to work at one of those schools again, I'll have to pass everyone! I moved on and work in home care now.

I agree with the previous poster who said that administration has more to hide now and finds it harder to hide it. Nurses are easy game.

st4wb3rr33sh0rtc4k3 · Apr 25, 2008

There is always something better at the end of the road. I got a position in Tele, which I am really excited that I won't be back in Med/Surg. I will let y'all know how it goes...

RedZeppelinRN · Apr 25, 2008

I was a nursing instructor and was fired for failing students whose averages were below 50 when administration wanted me to pass them so the school could get more money from their student aid loans. I've since learned that many private, for-profit LPN schools operate that way and know that if I want to work at one of those schools again, I'll have to pass everyone! I moved on and work in home care now.
I agree with the previous poster who said that administration has more to hide now and finds it harder to hide it. Nurses are easy game.

Now that I am out of nursing, living on my social security now, I, like the poster said "they brutalize your spirit." It was a hard adjustment to make, I can understand the saying "don't judge yourself by your job." I enjoy not getting up by the alarm clock now, and doing things that I didn't have time or energy to do before.

So glad it turned out so good for you. I well know, if you are enthusiastic about doing something, you will do well.

Red

LadysSolo · Apr 26, 2008

I have been fired three times. One was for financial reasons, the most recent one the practice has been through 200+ employees in three sites since September 2007. I was put in a position of violating company policy or violating the law. I picked violating company policy. I discussed it with my minister, and told hm I would make the same choice again. I was fired in a certified letter, not even to my face. You don't lose your license for violating company policy, but you do for violating the law.

Seasoned · Apr 27, 2008

:pntrghi:"failure is only an opportunity to begin again more intelligently" - henry ford

most nurse terminations are do to the nurse hanging on even when the evil office politics put the hand writing on the wall. nurses are just naturally loyal souls as we are to our patients. think to yourself: it was time to go!! they simply took advantage of the fact that you didn't resign first. i say good ridd'ins, their lost!

fired, oh please..tell yourself :smackingfoops they got me this time and make it the last. there are just too many nursing positions out here to let one employer floor you even for a moment.

if there are any long term effects from being fired i have to say it's more a self-esteem issue. you allowed yourself to believe on some level you deserved it. stop that thought! don't let them win! believe it was the law of attraction that's sending you in an entirely different career or future employer's direction. you didn't resign, so fate made your move for you. if you believe in a higher power you must believe your creator has guided you in a caring profession for a reason: your sense of fulfillment! :mad:be happy to be gone from people who did not appreciate your value.

:typingfocus on your profession not your employer and it will greatly reduce your anxiety related to any termination. never put all your eggs in one basket again! when you get a job always keep your research active in finding a better one. nursing allows that flexibility. forget about longevity at one site. we are no longer in our parents job loyality mode. travel nurses get vested day one now. corporate downsizing is now a nurses issue since hospitals are all under a corporate umbrella. the places that are not now, will be soon. how would you feel putting in 20 yrs and getting terminated because the place closed by just changing corporations?

keep your eye on the prize!!! have the attitude that you are a nurse first and an employee second. you call the shots:hehe:! still feel bad? go per diem, do agency nursing,or travel nursing for a while. those are the positions where you truly call the shots of when and where you work. make nursing exciting & fun again!

success is the best revenge. write an article about the issue that caused your termination, have it published in a nursing journal and send a copy to your ex-employer.:rckn: kiss up at your next job to get a nursing practice award and send that to your ex-employer/supervisor. guess what, they have to put that in your file. just please don't jump back into the exact type of work environment. same **** different employer will only promote a fear of failure and a set-up for lowering your self-esteem even more.

a legal consolation: the ex employer can only say rather they would rehire you or not. no details are legal or you get a nice piece of punitive change from small claims court for liable/slander. no attorney needed. even if you don't win, the embarassment alone for them to send their hifulloot'in corporate attorney with the stink supervisor who caused your termination is fun enough. there are firms on the internet for a fee will call your ex-employer to ask about your termination details as a potential employer. all court admissible evidence. (keywords: employee backgound checks)

long terms effects of being fired stops when "your attitude & action" stops it. i've been fired once in my 34 year career. all those directly involved have since been terminated too! :yeah:

xrispi22 · Apr 27, 2008

i was fired from my first nursing job in a doctors office. i was told that i didnt fit in and given my last check. these, unfortunately, were also people that i attended church with, so it had a double pain to it. it has made me paranoid as well with every job that i have had. i worry that i will be let go for no reason. it is painful and hard to overcome. it also takes time to get over the feeling that you are incompetent.:redbeathe:redbeathe

kxvc · Apr 27, 2008

I had a job when I was 18 in a peds clinic once doing their medical records. I wasn't fired, but I didn't fit in. I believe they were trying to shove me out the door by making it impossible for me to like it there.

It was around that time that someone introduced me to the movie Office Space. My favorite phrase became, "I don't like my job, and I don't think I'm going to go any more."

I remember one day being so fed up I decided I would go to lunch and never go back. Even then I worked to provide for my family since we were a single parent household. So, I went back after 2 hours where the manager was waiting for me. When she asked what I had been doing I said it was personal and didn't budge from there even after she threatened to fire me.

A few weeks later I was granted a job at the company of my dreams working in one of their large hospitals.

I, being young, angry, resentful, and with job in hand, waltzed into work one day, wrote (in my ugliest writing) "I quit as of _/_/_ 00:00. signature," and left them short staffed. It was the best feeling ever!

Still, it took me a while before the feelings of depression were gone. I settled in nicely to my new job, and have continued to move up within the same company since (with excellent reviews I might add).

Funny thing is I have found I block this past experience from my memory. I only remember ever having this job when I go back to update my resume as I have been doing recently. I still cringe when I have to do anything resembling the work I did there, and I unfortunately, gained a dislike for peds. because it was a peds clinic.

RedZeppelinRN · Apr 28, 2008

:pntrghi:"failure is only an opportunity to begin again more intelligently" - henry ford
most nurse terminations are do to the nurse hanging on even when the evil office politics put the hand writing on the wall. nurses are just naturally loyal souls as we are to our patients. think to yourself: it was time to go!! they simply took advantage of the fact that you didn't resign first. i say good ridd'ins, their lost!
fired, oh please..tell yourself :smackingfoops they got me this time and make it the last. there are just too many nursing positions out here to let one employer floor you even for a moment.
if there are any long term effects from being fired i have to say it's more a self-esteem issue. you allowed yourself to believe on some level you deserved it. stop that thought! don't let them win! believe it was the law of attraction that's sending you in an entirely different career or future employer's direction. you didn't resign, so fate made your move for you. if you believe in a higher power you must believe your creator has guided you in a caring profession for a reason: your sense of fulfillment! :mad:be happy to be gone from people who did not appreciate your value.
:typingfocus on your profession not your employer and it will greatly reduce your anxiety related to any termination. never put all your eggs in one basket again! when you get a job always keep your research active in finding a better one. nursing allows that flexibility. forget about longevity at one site. we are no longer in our parents job loyality mode. travel nurses get vested day one now. corporate downsizing is now a nurses issue since hospitals are all under a corporate umbrella. the places that are not now, will be soon. how would you feel putting in 20 yrs and getting terminated because the place closed by just changing corporations?
keep your eye on the prize!!! have the attitude that you are a nurse first and an employee second. you call the shots:hehe:! still feel bad? go per diem, do agency nursing,or travel nursing for a while. those are the positions where you truly call the shots of when and where you work. make nursing exciting & fun again!
success is the best revenge. write an article about the issue that caused your termination, have it published in a nursing journal and send a copy to your ex-employer.:rckn: kiss up at your next job to get a nursing practice award and send that to your ex-employer/supervisor. guess what, they have to put that in your file. just please don't jump back into the exact type of work environment. same **** different employer will only promote a fear of failure and a set-up for lowering your self-esteem even more.
a legal consolation: the ex employer can only say rather they would rehire you or not. no details are legal or you get a nice piece of punitive change from small claims court for liable/slander. no attorney needed. even if you don't win, the embarassment alone for them to send their hifulloot'in corporate attorney with the stink supervisor who caused your termination is fun enough. there are firms on the internet for a fee will call your ex-employer to ask about your termination details as a potential employer. all court admissible evidence. (keywords: employee backgound checks)
long terms effects of being fired stops when "your attitude & action" stops it. i've been fired once in my 34 year career. all those directly involved have since been terminated too!

very intelligent and well-written. but i'm not going back!

red