Terrible visitors - Unsafe situation

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We had an incident on my unit a few nights ago where the visitors of a patient were demanding everything under the sun and more. The family demanded a private room. Our entire hospital has semi-priavate or 3 bed room - No privates. The family had NUMEROUS visitors (up to 10) for this patient who was in the first bed. Although I was not caring for patient in question, I was assigned the patient in the second bed - I literally had to force my way past big heavy sweaty bodies to get to my patient. No respect at all - excuse me sir - Nothing! The family was overbearing and middle eastern - giving me and everyone else dirty looks and invading personal boundries.

Cut to an hour or so later. I am charting in the nurse station. Our charge nurse is being verbally berated by 5 or 6 of these individual - Complaining about everything. "She (patient) is getting terrible medical care - Noboby know how to do a job - You guy will kill her - yada yada yada". At this point I saw the situation escalating and I paged security to our unit along with the house supervisor. Long storu short, we had to play musical beds - transfer some patients into other rooms so that these idiots could have a private room.

When I told my charge nurse that it was I who had paged the house supervisor and the security department, she blamed me for "Dramatizing" the situation and I had over-reacted. I am sorry people. I have worked in facilities where situations have escalated VERY QUICKLY into physical violence. Better to be safe than sorry - Most often a show of force is all people need to realize they need to cut the crap. I have your back - I would HOPE they would have my back if the tables were turned. What am I missing here?

i do agree with the poster who suggested going to the cn first.

actually, and since i have a big mouth, i'd have no problem telling the visitors to please keep their voices down, and for 1 family member to be the spokesperson.

if the floor nurse and cn were unable to handle it, then yes, get the house supervisor, then security as a last resort.

the LAST thing i would have done, is get them a private room.:twocents:

leslie

Specializes in Telemetry, Med-Surg, ED, Psych.

Thank you everyone for your response!

I am very thankful that this situation did not escalate into physical violence - It ver well could have happened. The family members (abour 6 of them) had cornered our charge nurse against a wall and It was at that point that I decided better safe than sorry. All 6 of them were talking and there is only so much rational explanation you can do with irrate individuals.

In regard to my comment that the family was of middle eastern dissent - What I did not properly explain was the family dynamics I saw - Very close family but WAY to many people in a semi-private room. I am not racist; However, when you have 10 people in a room refusing to step out the way and give you terrible angry faces - your mind does think of certain things (And I think that is true of everyone).

Anyway - thankfully things turned out good and nobody got injured or thrown in jail for assault. I am Back on duty tonight - lets hope all is well!

Specializes in LPN, Peds, Public Health.
Thank you everyone for your response!

I am very thankful that this situation did not escalate into physical violence - It ver well could have happened. The family members (abour 6 of them) had cornered our charge nurse against a wall and It was at that point that I decided better safe than sorry. All 6 of them were talking and there is only so much rational explanation you can do with irrate individuals.

In regard to my comment that the family was of middle eastern dissent - What I did not properly explain was the family dynamics I saw - Very close family but WAY to many people in a semi-private room. I am not racist; However, when you have 10 people in a room refusing to step out the way and give you terrible angry faces - your mind does think of certain things (And I think that is true of everyone).

Anyway - thankfully things turned out good and nobody got injured or thrown in jail for assault. I am Back on duty tonight - lets hope all is well!

Thank you for answering my question. I never called you racist, that came from someone else's assumption of what I wrote... I don't have a lot of interaction with other cultures at work (I work in a Native American clinic, so unless they were a spouse who just happened to be with them, I would never have Middle Eastern patients here) so I am not so UTD on all the family dynamics that their culture might have....

Specializes in Critical Care, Cardiac Cath Lab.

I would not have felt that the situation was safe for me or for the poor patient who was stuck in the back of the room behind a bunch of aggressive visitors. Calling security was appropriate and warranted, IMO. What was not appropriate was the house supervisor deciding to reward the aggressors by providing a private room so they could continue to camp out and (probably) prevent their family member/patient from getting all the care he/she needed.

And I didn't think the OP's statement was racist at all!

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