Support from family/friends?

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Out of curiosity, how supportive have family and friends been with your decision to enter Nursing School? Are they offering encouragement? Emotional, financial, or any other type of positive support? Or are they indifferent? Or are they trying to discourage your dreams of becoming a nurse?

Since I made my decision this summer I have told everyone I know, and the vast majority have not been overly supportive. Most have been actively discouraging me while others are indifferent. Yes I understand many are worried about the financial impact my decision will have over the next 2-3 years--they fear I won't be able to support myself during this period--and others are just trying to push me into yet another dead-end job. My extended family (mother's side) is almost exclusively blue-collar working class people and they don't understand why I can't be happy working in an office or something similar. Why can't I get a job with a city as a clerk so I can have a nice retirement some say? Maybe you will get married one day others say. Wow that program sounds really hard, maybe you should try something easier others say. So far only one person has said go for it, you will make an awesome nurse.

I guess I am disappointed because for the first time in my life I am really excited about what I am doing. I would love to share this with those I am closest to, or at least get some positive feedback, but I guess it isn't going to happen. Oh well!

Anyway how have you fared in the support department?

I have a wonderful family who supports me in all ways. My husband "brags" at work about my accomplishments and I have overheard my children more than once say to their friends, "my mother goes to college --she's going to be a nurse"

Everyone seems just as excited about my goal as I am...my parents, my hubby's parents...everyone!

But for those of you who don't have the support you need, you know that you can always come here. Allnurses loves you :kiss:

Specializes in Emergency.

Echo,

choosing to go into nursing, you will find opposition, some people think it's too hard , or too dirty, or you are single with a kid, blah, blah, or they may even be envious of your drive and determination.

You need to perservere through this, and doing that will allow you to bring special qualities to nursing!!! it will also let you know that YOU did it.

I just graduated ADN, but I remember the day, sitting broke at the dining room table at my mom's house crying......... and my mom ( high school drop out, single mom, CURRENTLY AN RRT) saying to me "you need to get your A** over to the college and get into that nursing program, that way you will always have a job, and will make decent money for you and your son".

We laughed about that day on graduation day!! and how I just got in my car and drove over to the college and applied to the school of nursing.

My mom being an RRT supported me mostly because she is in the medical field, but other than that, noone else had a CLUE what nursing school entailed. I made friends in nursing school, mostly the single moms, or the non clique girls. They failed/dropped out slowly.

My younger sister is in college finishing her masters in teaching. She understands the hard work and dedication. It's interesting how people in other disciplines like teaching can relate well to the diversity issues in nursing. I've learned alot from my sister, and she's learned alot from me.

Waking up every day to see my son, gave me the drive to plug on.

It's interesting how you speak of your mother's side/extended family......... because my own father blue collar who always had a great job got laid off after 26 years. Before he never understood why "his girls" needed to go to college!!!!! Now he understands, and I can say that he was ultimately proud to have his photo taken with me at graduation!!!

I think you have a GREAT plan of seeking out other singles to room with and study with. I think that is a great "support plan" in your situation!!!

I wish you the best in everything and the best of luck in nursing school!!!!

Jenni

Specializes in LTC, ER, ICU,.

"one thing i am considering once i start my adn program is seeking out other singles in the program for support. maybe if i find two or three in a similar situation we can rent a house or something. that way we will not only have mutual support and study buddies, but we can save some money as well! not everyone has a spouse or bf/gf to lean on. just a thought!"

please, becareful to take your time to "seek" out those who have the same or smiliar goals, dedication, studying more and parting less, etc. as yourself.

i wish you all the best.

I had mixed reactions when I told people I was going to nursing school. My husband was super supportive. In fact, it was sort of his idea. He kept reading articles in the paper about the nursing shortage and the sign-on bonus hospitals were paying and suggested I think about becoming a nurse.

On the other hand, my parents laughed. My mother said it would be too disgusting and I should become a travel agent.(???) My dad reminded me of how I almost passed out in 8th grade when the teacher disected the cow's eye. They have come around and now think it's a great idea, but it took some time.

Many times when people are not supportive, there are underlying reasons. Maybe they are envious that you are doing something with your life or they are afraid you will no longer have time for them, etc. Give it some time and your friends and family will see you are really dedicated and hopefully will become more supportive.

Good luck!

No family anymore since my mom passed away last year - My ex wife lives about 30 minutes away and she is the closest thing I have to family now (Actually, she is one of my best friends so she is still family to me pretty much)

Most of my friends live a pretty good distance away (Thank God for e-mail huh?)

In a way tis for the best - very few distractions so I can concentrate on the studies more -

But I do miss getting to share accomplishments along the way - Guess I just get to bore ya'll along the way huh? lol

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