Starting ADN, with my wife

MikeyJ, RN · May 30, 2007

We actually have a married couple in our program. It seems to be working for them, and they both seem to be very independent and not too "clingy".

I personally would hate to be in nursing school with my significant other, for a couple of reasons. I took 2 semesters of general classes with my significant other, and although I didn't mind it, I wouldn't do it again. I think when one is in the same classes as their S.O., you tend not to expand and meet other people but rather cling to each other because its more comfortable. And secondly, (for me anyways) I am a quick learner and my S.O. is not. So when he would be struggling, I would try to help him but I had to focus on my own studies as well. It was very frustrating for both of us. And lastly, I couldn't imagine spending the ENTIRE school day with my S.O. and then come home and spend the entire night studying with him as well. I enjoy coming home and telling each other about our separate days -- it gives us something to talk about, and I think strengthens the relationship.

Just my 2 cents though. :)

XYnurse2B · May 30, 2007

We actually have a married couple in our program. It seems to be working for them, and they both seem to be very independent and not too "clingy".
I personally would hate to be in nursing school with my significant other, for a couple of reasons. I took 2 semesters of general classes with my significant other, and although I didn't mind it, I wouldn't do it again. I think when one is in the same classes as their S.O., you tend not to expand and meet other people but rather cling to each other because its more comfortable. And secondly, (for me anyways) I am a quick learner and my S.O. is not. So when he would be struggling, I would try to help him but I had to focus on my own studies as well. It was very frustrating for both of us. And lastly, I couldn't imagine spending the ENTIRE school day with my S.O. and then come home and spend the entire night studying with him as well. I enjoy coming home and telling each other about our separate days -- it gives us something to talk about, and I think strengthens the relationship.
Just my 2 cents though. :)

Thanks for the insight. All things to consider.

CRNA, DNSc · Jun 4, 2007

I know of a couple going through Nurse Anesthesia school together- talk about a challenge!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

caliotter3 · Jun 5, 2007

We had a couple who met at school. They were one year apart in the program and married while she was a senior and he was a junior. Everybody used to remark what a cute couple they made.

Balder_LPN, LPN · Jun 25, 2007

Nursing school is a challenge and can place alot of strain on a relationship. I have been married and divorced 2x and both times the initial split was during the final quarter of her nursing school.

I don't think the school was the cause, just something that was so overwhelming for them that it created a barrier to solving our real problems (problems that existed prior to school)

Now I am going to the same school both of them graduated from myself, only doing it on my own (holy crap, i've paid for nursing school 3x now!) Even though I am surrounded by women, and I think opportunities abound, I have kind of promised myself no relationships untill school is done (2 more quarters). Although, there are a couple of girls I see on a very casual basis from time to time (they are at points where they dont want anything serious either)

If you have a strong relationship to start with, weathering school should be no prob. If you are having problems now, deal with them STAT, before school starts. And dont forget to set aside time for each other w/o school. I think the girls have alot more stress about school than the guys, in general (just one of the gender differences between male and female)