Single Parent In Nursing School?!?!?

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i am a single mother of a four year old daughter. i am 23 years old and i am about to start nursing school august 27, 2008.

i receive no help whats-o-ever from my child's father.

i am seriously contemplating sending my daughter to her grandmother (she is willing to keep and take care of her for an entire year) but i cant help but feeling guilty. i love:heartbeat my daughter dearly but i want to make nursing school #1 priority right now in order to do my best. basically i do not want to neglect her because of school (i sincerely feel that this will be the reality of things

should i wait until she is older before i go to nursing school?

is there an alternative?

is there anyone out there in this same dillema or close to it?

if so how do you survive nursing school?

thanks to anyone's reply in advance

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You can do it! Kudos to you for continuing your education to make a better life for you and your little one. You rock! :yeah:

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Is it possible for you both to move in with the Grandma?Then she will be able to sit with your daughter while you study,Or can you go to a school closer to grandma's house?

I would take the opportunity to go to school.It's not like you are leaving her with strangers.It's family and your daughter will appreciate it in the end.

You have to save yourself before you can save anyone else.I know that I will get it for saying this,but YOU are your #1 priority.Meaning that you have to make yourself happy so that your daughter can have a happy,positive parent to look up to.

Look at this situation from the eyes of a child.When I was small I did not care about money or toys,but I do remember EVERY time that my parents missed my plays or school events.I think that its better to go to school now before she gets in school full time.By then you will be done and should have worked out a work schedule to accomodate your daughter.good luck.

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Hey hang in there. I know exactly what you are going through. I am a single mother of a daughter that will be 2 on aug 7 and ill be starting LPN school aug 11. (my bday is aug 13 *just thought id throw that in there*)

I wont be sending my daughter anywhere b/c i cant imagine being away from her for even more than a day. Luckily for me though ive found a program that will pay for her daycare etc. while im in school. I dont think that i can make anything a number one priority over my baby, not even nursing school. I wont have to work while im in nursing school (thank God) so whatever time that i have left outside of studying will be spent with her b/c im a mommie first and a student second. That was just my 2 cents. U have to do what u feel is best for u and your daughter. God Bless!

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Hey hang in there. I know exactly what you are going through. I am a single mother of a daughter that will be 2 on aug 7 and ill be starting LPN school aug 11. (my bday is aug 13 *just thought id throw that in there*)

I wont be sending my daughter anywhere b/c i cant imagine being away from her for even more than a day. Luckily for me though ive found a program that will pay for her daycare etc. while im in school. I dont think that i can make anything a number one priority over my baby, not even nursing school. I wont have to work while im in nursing school (thank God) so whatever time that i have left outside of studying will be spent with her b/c im a mommie first and a student second. That was just my 2 cents. U have to do what u feel is best for u and your daughter. God Bless!

Hi Msoptimistic, I noticed that you are from Arkansas. What area? Im living in Arkansas(for the time being) also.:D Im in the Fort Smith area. Just thought Id ask which program your getting into. Im trying to get into UAFS:nurse:

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I'm 21 years old and i have a 2 year old little girl, I'm also starting nursing school to become a lpn in July 2008. I work full time and will be going to school full time also (4days a weektwo days a week). I have no help from my daughter's father and very little from my family but i know i'll manage somehow. I wouldnt send my child away just because the emotional part of it would be to tough and i know i couldnt focus on my schooling. I plan to put her in daycare (which is going to be tough financially but i know i'll make it somehow). Good luck to you!!

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I'm not a parent, but the single parent students I have known had to study either when the children were asleep or not around, or find times during the day when the kids were in day care anyway. So, for that matter, did married students.

I made my post gender-neutral because when I was in community college, I had a classmate who was a 25-year-old widower with a 3-year-old daughter. I heard a while back that he was working as a physical therapist assistant, and his daughter would be grown by now. I have no doubt he did a wonderful job of raising her, whether he ever remarried or not.

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i am a 27y/o mother of 3 ages 10,8 and 11 months in my last semester of the lpn program.i did fulltime school and fulltime work bc i want nothing more than to make life better for my family doing what i love!you need to look into daycare or pre k there are programs that help pay for daycare.my older daughters can recall times in their life i cant remember!i believe having your daughter there would be inspiration and strength..read your nursing books to her have her join in. whatever you need to to do to succeed and give her the best life.good luck

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How Far away is your Mom? I mean is it like a year lost or will you be able to see her once in awhile?? I think each poster made great points and you have to follow your heart. But I think also that putting it off shouldn't be an option. She will need you more later then she does now I have a 17 yr old and a 14 yr old. TRUST ME!! Right now your child doesn't care to watch Barney reruns over and over and over..... But in a few years when Momma can pay for a new CD every week, or trips to Holister she isn't gonna think about that year that you spent away from each other! She is gonna think YEAH BABY- MY MOM ROCKS!! :clown: Not to mention, the sports and plays and Proms she will want you there for all that stuff, Don't sweat it, If need be, Grandma will make a great Barney partner for now, but no one cheers louder then Mom! Do what ever it takes, to give her the best life possible, thats all you can do!

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As a 23-year-old mother myself with parents who were/are willing to watch my 1 year old son I understand you. I attempted 3 times to finish LVN school in a period of 4 years before I finally passed/received my license.

The best advice I can give you is don't abandon your daughter. She needs her mommy. Work out a schedule with her grandmother so you have ample time to attend class and study for exams.

Do not wait to finish nursing school. I personally think it will be harder the longer you wait to attend nursing school. You're still young and so it your daughter. If you daughter was in school you would have to arrange your nursing school schedule to work around her school schedule.

Best of luck to you

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@ cancergirl: I'm in the northeast part of the state. I got into the LPN program at ASU.

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it's me again...

i am in tears right now because i just spoke t my mom and can you all believe it, she says that she will be willing to come and live with me for the 15 months it will take to complete nursing school. what i failed to tell you all was that >my mother does not even live in this country

my mom basically explained to me that she knew what i was going through and she knew it would be hard for me to be apart from my little angel:saint:.

i truly thank god for her everyday.

i can't begin to thank you all enough for your opinions and believe you me all if your comments are well respected and appreciated

thank you all so much.

hopefully in fifteen months i can write a post and tell you all how good it feels to work so hard and bust my butt in order to be the best nurse i can/will be.

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it's me again...

i am in tears right now because i just spoke t my mom and can you all believe it, she says that she will be willing to come and live with me for the 15 months it will take to complete nursing school. what i failed to tell you all was that >my mother does not even live in this country

my mom basically explained to me that she knew what i was going through and she knew it would be hard for me to be apart from my little angel:saint:.

i truly thank god for her everyday.

i can't begin to thank you all enough for your opinions and believe you me all if your comments are well respected and appreciated

thank you all so much.

hopefully in fifteen months i can write a post and tell you all how good it feels to work so hard and bust my butt in order to be the best nurse i can/will be.

what a blessing!! you are very lucky to have a mom that is so supportive of you. i'm glad you don't have to struggle with this decision any longer. now get out there and get that degree! :yeah:

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