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You have nothing to approach NM with." I do not like her and feel we are on very different wavelengths"I can understand a pre-emptive strike... but,there's not enough to move on. Document each occurrence in your personal journal.
In the meantime... you must control your stress level when she is around. She is aware of the effect she has on you, is enjoying it and sees you as weak by your demeanor with her.
Remain cool, calm, and professional. That is the first defense against this kind of bully.
Good luck. Keep us posted.
Totally agree with this. I second keeping a personal journal. If she is the type of person you are saying she is, then I would start documenting things. If it wasn't her patient (a) why was she in there and (b) why did you offer for her to do the foley (or am I misunderstanding that part?)....
Just document dates/times/things said/done
I would wait, too. In the meantime, don't give your power away to her. Unless I'm misinterpreting your post, she's not your supervisor, but a peer. She had no business walking in the room when two nurses were already there, but asking her if she would prefer to insert the cath herself seems to actually validate her inappropriate control issues. You can be assertive without being nasty, and you can learn to appear more confident around her than you actually feel. It sounds like she wants to intimidate you.
I'd also suggest that you not ever discuss this with any of your co-workers in the meantime. I know you probably already knew this, but that type can make a whole lot of drama out of one little snippet of information. Hope it all works out for you!
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She stated, "Oh I don't even worry about that" (meaning sterility).
That is something that might be worth reporting. If nothing else, they can use it as an opportunity to reteach her about the importance of maintaining a sterile field.
The rest? I wouldn't report anything yet. As others have said, keep track of what she is doing BUT only if one of two situations applies. 1 - she's endangering a patient, 2 - it directly effects you. Everything else will most likely be thought of as nitpicking/petty by your supervisor.
In the meantime, keep your chin up and do your job to the best of your ability. That way she has NOTHING on you!
Been there,done that, ASN, RN
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You have nothing to approach NM with." I do not like her and feel we are on very different wavelengths"
I can understand a pre-emptive strike... but,there's not enough to move on. Document each occurrence in your personal journal.
In the meantime... you must control your stress level when she is around. She is aware of the effect she has on you, is enjoying it and sees you as weak by your demeanor with her.
Remain cool, calm, and professional. That is the first defense against this kind of bully.
Good luck. Keep us posted.