So, at one of my jobs, we're assigned three holidays a year. One year you work Memorial Day, Labor Day and Christmas. The other year you work 4th of July, Thanksgiving and New Year's.
This was my year to work Memorial Day, and even though it was on a Monday, and I generally do not work Mondays at this job, I was scheduled to work it. Which is fine, since this was my year for that holiday.
However, I looked and saw that I am on the schedule to work on July 4th. Even though I usually work Tuesdays, and July 4th is on a Tuesday, it is technically not my holiday to work since I already worked Memorial Day. My next holiday will be Labor Day, which is a Monday (and I can guarantee you that they won't forget to put me on the schedule for that day).
They are going to be short staffed already and if I don't work that day, it will be even worse. I suppose it is tacky for me to try and get it off since they are lacking on staffing and it will be hard to get people to pick up. At the same time, according to the schedule in the handbook, it is not my holiday to work.
How hard should I push to have this holiday off? I already signed up work a day shift at my first job, and while I could technically make an evening shift work, I really was looking forward to having some of July 4th off.
I was also considering resigning from the job if they end up making me work July 4th, but that is probably a bit extreme, even though they are only following their own polices to their own advantage. I have no doubt they were probably hoping I would forget that July 4th wasn't my holiday to work and that they could get an extra holiday out of me.
Initially, I had the two jobs because I wanted to keep the ECG job in order to have an advantage when applying to nursing jobs at this employer, and the other job to get nursing experience. Now, it almost seems like I'm keeping the ECG job because of job stability; I know that I would never lose the job. And I'm worried about having another nursing job not work out.
The way the job market is in some areas, this is good thinking, but you should see if you can cut back on hours.
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
To be fair, though, if I were dating another healthcare worker and I knew July 4th was not his holiday.... or if he told me he was erroneously scheduled to work on one not his... I would probably assume he would get off that day as well and plan something fun. Not saying all of this person's behavior is excusable, but just in this instance I could see where there would be confusion.
And honestly, if my s.o. was working 29/30 days out of a month, I would probably find it difficult to plan much as well. :-/
After everything the OP has told us about her "boyfriend", he is inconsiderate & never thinks of her.
I think the OP needs to cut back on work, ditch her boyfriend & focus on herself.
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Initially, I had the two jobs because I wanted to keep the ECG job in order to have an advantage when applying to nursing jobs at this employer, and the other job to get nursing experience. Now, it almost seems like I'm keeping the ECG job because of job stability; I know that I would never lose the job. And I'm worried about having another nursing job not work out.
How long have you been at your current nursing job?
Another possibility is that your employer is considering Monday, July 3rd as the "official holiday" for the institution. A lot of employers do that. The summer holidays are all officially celebrated on Mondays or Fridays to give people who have the weekend off a 3-day weekend. (Memorial Day used to be celebrated on May 30th. Now it is the 4th Monday in May. etc.)
So ... the fact that you are off Monday the 3rd might mean to them that yes, you are "off" on the holiday. It is just not feeling like it to you because you usually have Monday's off.
OMG, purplegal, your life is going to change for the better so much when you learn to advocate for yourself, let your jobs advocate for themselves, and let your boyfriend advocate for himself.
Based on all of your posts that I've read, you try to encompass every single need that could possibly come into play in any scenario. I think that's great and speaks a lot to how considerate you are! But if you don't scale that back some, you are NEVER going to get anything you want out of this career or out of life. I would suspect that this is at the root of a lot of your indecision about several matters recently.
For the holiday issue, please understand, no one is going to look at it as a verdict on you for mentioning that you were erroneously put on July 4th. No one is going to be like, "OMG, purplegal is being so DIFFICULT and doesn't CARE about us." Decide whether you're willing to work that day and use it to guide your wording. If you're okay with working, "Hey, I wasn't supposed to work July 4th this year, but I can stay on the schedule if needed." If you'd prefer not to work, "Hey, I'm actually assigned to (such and such other holidays) this year and have plans for July 4th, I'd like to be off the schedule that day." And go from there.
I cannot tell you what to do about your boyfriend, having two jobs, and the rest of it, but I will say that everyone around you seems to have no problem pursuing what they want. Your boyfriend and employers may very well care about you, but YOU still need to actively advocate for yourself, because they are not going to do it for you and are not mind-readers. Please, start practicing separating out what they want versus what you want, and learn to give yourself a voice in situations like this. Looking out for yourself doesn't make you a bad nurse, girlfriend, etc.; it makes you 9000 times easier to be with because your word can always be counted on and trusted, even if it is sometimes at odds with others'.
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The way the job market is in some areas, this is good thinking, but you should see if you can cut back on hours.