RN lost her first patient today

[srg4784]

A nurse on the floor that I oriented lost her first patient today and took it really hard. She is an awesome nurse but she felt responsible (it wasn't her fault) but we all feel that way sometimes. What would be a good thoughtful gift for a nurse who loses a patient?

Thanks!

[Calabria, BSN, RN]

My first "loss" was a patient's miscarriage... I got report, couldn't find fetal heart tones with the night-shift nurse, the patient started bleeding lady partslly (she started crying at this point because she realized what was happening). She then proceeded to miscarry... it was too early on for the pregnancy to be viable. It all happened so fast that I barely had time to process what was going on.

I think a journal could be a great idea. But what was most helpful for me was the support of my colleagues, and sharing experiences with them so I felt less alone. The nurse that I got report from stayed late and made sure that the patient (and I) were okay. My supervisor walked me through everything technical and "official" that I needed to do in that situation. And my other co-workers were more than willing to listen throughout the day.

[Fancypants09]

I think that, for anyone who has experienced a profound loss in their lives, such as the death of a loved one (or even a break-up), it really helps to be surrounded by people who are able and willing to empathize, lend an ear, give some support.

It doesn't have to be a grand gesture, even a few words of encouragement can go such a long way!

[CapeCodMermaid, RN]

Most of us remember the first time one of our patients died. No matter how many times it happens it's never easy. I am one of the more experienced nurses in my facility. I usually ask the nurse if she's okay and offer to watch the floor if she needs to take a break. If I know the nurse well I might offer a hug, a cup of coffee, or just space and time for her to talk about it.

[HIPAA]

Either (a) not treating your coworker any differently to their face, while at the same time lobbying the charge nurse to give them patients with a lower acuity, or (b) a drink.