I have a million little questions within this post as I am struggling with a few things (minor really in comparison to other people's issues). I apologize in advance if I am sounding ungrateful to those who have yet to land a job but truly I am appreciative. All I want to do is find inner happiness.
In a couple of weeks, I will reach my first year as a nurse and I finally landed a full-time job on a different medicine unit within the same hospital. Then why do I have the urge to travel and see the world beyond my own? I want to see out there, beyond this little green part of town. Did you once feel this way and then find yourself 40 years later still at the same place or unit?
Everyone tells me they once had that dream too...but the boyfriend/husband got in the way? (or other reasons beyond their control). My bf already said he's heading for the door if I decide to travel beyond our province. When does it become okay to pick career over relationship or vice versa?
What keeps you enjoying your job permanently and sticking with it? I like medicine 70% of the time and other times I'm thinking "there has to be more than this..." I enrolled in the ICU program thinking this might be what I need to stay entertained but that's not until January. Until then, I can't shake this feeling of boredom and regret that I passed up a few offers to travel (because of the above bf). He's at a stage to settle, pick a home and so on and so forth. I'm not too young but not yet ready to settle. Just to note, he's in the medical field too and his job is flexible...he's just not that into...traveling?
So what have you done that works for you? To stay happy with work and your personal life.
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I think my DD handled this situation better than your BF. She simply put her BF on front street....."Do you see us married in 5 years?" He was honest enough to say, "No". She thanked him for his honesty and ended the relationship then and there.
This. Gotta be honest- you need to be honest with yourself. If you want a family, you need to work towards that goal. That may mean travelling, but saving a chunk of the good travel pay for when you settle down, or it may mean on really evaluating how singnificant the gypsy dream is to you.
Also, having 3 daughters, the oldest being right about your age, don't get into a "relationship" just to have somebody to "hang with". It makes life messy (sometimes expen$ive) Decide what you want, set your personal limits, always evaluate your motivational bias(es).
Relationships always involve compromise. "Everything else is great..." What is everything else? Really, there are two ultimatums being delivered here, his...and yours. If he knew you wanted to travel, and you knew he didn't, at the start, neither of you can be surprised, and you really should have spent some time earlier, seriously talking about the issue. Good relationships, like good careers, require planning. If you go, have fun, just don't end up in the same situation 5 years down the road.
Totally agree with That Guy...and I'm a chick! If this is what you really wanna do you should have the support of your bf..I am just saying! My hunny REALLY wanted to be a DJ on the side and guess what! He is and it makes him happy and he has my full support....I want to go back for my masters and guess what I am working on it with his full support!
Just saying! Life is too short to "What if....." anything
Rob72, ASN, RN
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This. Gotta be honest- you need to be honest with yourself. If you want a family, you need to work towards that goal. That may mean travelling, but saving a chunk of the good travel pay for when you settle down, or it may mean on really evaluating how singnificant the gypsy dream is to you.
Also, having 3 daughters, the oldest being right about your age, don't get into a "relationship" just to have somebody to "hang with". It makes life messy (sometimes expen$ive) Decide what you want, set your personal limits, always evaluate your motivational bias(es).
Relationships always involve compromise. "Everything else is great..." What is everything else? Really, there are two ultimatums being delivered here, his...and yours. If he knew you wanted to travel, and you knew he didn't, at the start, neither of you can be surprised, and you really should have spent some time earlier, seriously talking about the issue. Good relationships, like good careers, require planning.
If you go, have fun, just don't end up in the same situation 5 years down the road.
"Dad" rant off.