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Specializes in dialysis.

I am sad to say I am leaving my job of more then 15 years due to attitudes of co-workers. I can't stand the back stabbing of everyone. They call this on a b_ _ _ _ _ and then nice to her face same with the next person. And I have seen them laugh when they see that person struggling. They are actually hurting the patients by not helping. It has gotten so bad at my unit that it is taking a toll on everything we do. I almost feel like the girls I work with like to see each other fail. Pretty bad for a profession that you are suppose to make others feel better. I am hoping the new job that I am going to will be a more positive place to work.

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I am sorry you have had this experience. If you can block all the extra stuff out you might be able to not give notice. Nurses are known to be two faced...as a matter of fact people are known to be two faced. Keep work at work..and home at home. When someone tries to drag you into something...act busy and ignore. I am sorry I think it happens in life...but it can get to the point of bullying and then it is no fun at all.

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Specializes in Hospice, LTC, Rehab, Home Health.

I am sorry you've had this experience and wish you better luck in the future.:hug:

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

In this economy, I would strongly recommend finding another job before you actually quit -- unless you can afford to be unemployed for a good while. You don't want to be forced to take a job worse than the one you already have (for lower pay, decreased benefits, and with no seniority).

Good luck to you.

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Specializes in Nursing Eduator.

I believe that the "morale" of people in general is going to "Hell in a hand basket"...The economy is bad, people are negative, patients are stressed out and it all in turn comes back to effect US. I have experienced the decline in co-workers ethics, morale's and to be honest...they are just down right MEAN! I am not sure what is going on..I have worked in this place for 3 years and LOVED it.....well, I made the decision to leave 3 months ago, after securing employment in an alternate hospital. I was Lucky in the sense that I had a friend/co-worker of mine leave prior to me and she told me about the wonderful hospital and unit she worked on. I applied, interviewed and was offered a job. I was heartbroken to leave at first, it is not to say that EVERYONE was negative that I worked with, however, it sure made it difficult to go to work everyday. I miss those co-workers that did contribute to a healthy work environment, that helped you to excel, gave words of encouragement and also helped "your" patients, It should be a team environment! Now they too are leaving and applying elsewhere. I know that there are situations in every workplace, It is up to you to decide if you want to stay or go...I wish you the best of luck and definitely empathize with your situation.

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Specializes in Trauma Surgery, Nursing Management.

I remember when I was just starting out in my first OR job. The nurses were so horrible to each other that they resorted to sabatoge...hiding needles to get incorrect counts. I never understood this behavior and still do not. I understand that times are tough everywhere, but work should be one place that we can all work together to achieve an end-goal of effective and efficient patient care.

I am so sorry that you had to leave. That is just unacceptable behavior. It reminds me of the movie "Mean Girls". I don't get it.

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Specializes in Nursing Eduator.

canesdukegirl, thank you! I know that movie "mean girls"...I never did get it either. It takes so much less energy to be nice then it does to be mean. Anyway, I am not Sad per say, but I needed to leave because I was becoming too negative myself and the worse part was it showed in the way I cared for my patients. It is contagious ya know!.I tried the "Stop Gossiping" routine, the "Be nice", I encouraged the new grads to not engage in the gossip, and I was becoming more like a wet-nurse to a bunch of grumbling mean, unhappy nurses, and after a while, I gave up! I tried to stay positive, but then again, one rotten apple will ruin a barrel. It was too hard for me to overcome, I guess I was just not strong enough. I do miss the nurses that were GREAT, and they felt the same way that I did, It is too bad that only a few can make it so miserable for so many more!

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Specializes in Med Surg, Ortho.
I am sad to say I am leaving my job of more then 15 years due to attitudes of co-workers. I can't stand the back stabbing of everyone. They call this on a b_ _ _ _ _ and then nice to her face same with the next person. And I have seen them laugh when they see that person struggling. They are actually hurting the patients by not helping. It has gotten so bad at my unit that it is taking a toll on everything we do. I almost feel like the girls I work with like to see each other fail. Pretty bad for a profession that you are suppose to make others feel better. I am hoping the new job that I am going to will be a more positive place to work.

I am looking for a new job for the same exact reason. Although one of the agency nurses I met recently says it's like this every where which I suppose it is. I work with so many egotistical two-faced nurses/techs that it absolutely makes me miserable at my job. There are a few good people or so I thought. I found out that one was talking behind my back the other day. Luckily, I have few friends that I can count on.

I agree with one of the above posts....it's takes much less energy to be nice to some body. So many nurses and techs have such big egos. I've even noticed transport people getting attitudes like they hate being told what to do, even if it's just offering some advice on how best to get a bed out of a small area...hah.

Is all I can say for these kind of people is (fill in the blank)

- KARMA is a _______!!:uhoh3:

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Yes...it is sad to say....some nurses heart is not with the patient and is with the money. I was raised to

have integrity in what I do and I have worked to hard for my license. I will jump ship if the "team" is not a team and move forward. They should for sure welcome new nurses, but some of them are so miserable when the person is a new nurse they chew them up and spit them out.

I have noticed a "attitude" in this economic climate. However, I try my best to be happy and polite to my clients. Being in a negative mood just brings all others down. I try to focus on the patient, my skills and smile at co-workers especially the ones putting a knife in my back. You have to try to have a positive mental attitude or co-workers gossipy ways will get to you. Sometimes I question why more nurse managers do not speak up.

Imagine having to leave after 15 years because a "new person" who notices the weakest link goes after you. Terrible just plain Terrible.

:nurse:

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Specializes in dialysis.

I will stay per diem at the job I have now. I got a job at a local hospital in a different position and I can't wait to start. I am sure it is going to be difficult to learn something new after so many years. It will be a welcomed relief to know I can say "yes" or "no" to the unit I am currently working at. Here's to new beginnings:yeah:

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