Really sad, should I just quit or keep pushing?

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I had a baby in December of 2012. Right after I had here I started community college (Medgar Evers College). I went in knowing exactly what I wanted to do, nursing. After having my daughter I went through a pretty rough emotional time, became really depressed. Screwed up every year I was there because of that(3 years). My grades were a complete joke, F's galore. At the end of evey semester I felt more and more like a failure and givin up. I have since gotten in a much better place in life but is it too late? I know I can do it now.I want to begin attending a lpn school and doing a bridge program when I finish. Will a bridge program even take me with my old ugly grades and gpa? I want this more than anything. :(

Specializes in Allergy/ENT, Occ Health, LTC/Skilled.

First, wanted to send you virtual hugs! I gave birth to my third last winter, right before I was due to start clinical for my bridge program, and developed severe post partum depression. It was a dark time for me and it took me a long time to come back. I stayed enrolled through online classes and somehow managed to stay on track but only because I have an army of family behind me pushing me through till I could find my way back again. So been there and you can come back from your bad grades.

The beauty of LPN school then entering a bridge is most LPN programs aren't going to turn you away for prior bad grades. I graduated high school with a 2.4 and had no issues getting in and I did quite well in the program. My bridge is at a community college and all they cared about was my LPN GPA.. And even at that, it doesn't weigh much for my bridge clinical admission. They are looking at my pre req GPA for their program and the classes I have taken there. So you definitely have a shot still. You may run into issues with FASFA with a prior low GPA of you went through them for loans the first time though, so just be aware you may need a back up funding measure should that be the case.

My road in nursing has not been was and almost loosing it all last winter after working so hard nearly broke me. But you know what? I work harder that most people I go to school with who have half the responsibility I do. I don't give up now, I have made it to far and dug in way to deep to let anything get in my way of finishing my RN. It hasn't been easy but its been so worth it. I'm 18 months out from graduating with my RN and its going to be that much sweeter because I know I have given it everything I have.

You got this girl, find a way to make it happen, and it will happen if your willing to commit to the hard work it will demand of you.

Good luck to you :)

Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

In 2004, the private 12-month LVN program in which I had enrolled did not pay attention to previous grades earned. Many of my classmates did not have stellar academic backgrounds: some were GED recipients and/or did not perform particularly well in the community college setting.

As long as you are not in California, Excelsior College is an option that will allow you to transition to RN licensure without heavy emphasis on previous grades earned. Good luck to you.

Thank you so much for your encouraging words. It may have been a small nice gesture to you but too me it really touched my heart. Lol ok enough of the sappyness, but seriously thank you so much. Im gonna really buckle down and focus. Im going to make it happen

Thanks for the motivation to keep pushing :) . Just wondering, do you think it would be harder for someone who took this route (lpn school and then a bridge program) to get hired than some who got the bachelor's in college?

Specializes in Med Surg/ Pedi, OR.

So you answered your own question. Only You can be responsible for you. Good Luck !

Listen,

I have had many major disturbances in my college career. I have had every reason to quit and to feel like a major failure.

But to become a mother is your first high calling in life. If you put your heart and soul into raising your child, you learn the most important lessons there are about selflessness and serving others. This will prepare you to be a great nurse.

You have time to work on the classes you have not done well in. There are alternative credit options such as online (current route I am taking for pre-req through edukan) and clep or dsst for general courses.

Never give up.

You are not a failure. God has a purpose in all things you have dealt with. Have patience with yourself. This is a long marathon, and whatever it takes, you can do it. Maybe start with one re-take of a class and when you have the grade you are proud of, go for the program.

When I tried to get back in to school, they wanted to put me on remedial math. I don't have time or the heart for it, so I circumvented them and took an online ace credit course. Got a B in college algebra. Then I got my A&P I online with a B. Soon, A&Pii and microbiology will be behind me. I am a single mom with very little income and I am paying out of pocket until I can get into the nursing program of my local community college officially.

I should mention I was about a year away from a completed Bachelor's in Art Therapy. Then I relocated, was surprise divorced (abandoned by husband) while pregnant, jobless, homeless...... But my baby boy inspires me to get this done and things have improved in my life slowly over time. You can do it. Keep your head up!

Jamela Carnes

I will add-

I think going the route of LPN to a bridge program some day in the future is a great idea. The experience of an LPN is going to become more valuable to you than transcripts, if you can bring some grades up, too.

Eventually, with confidence, psssh- people look at YOU, they listen to your motivation at interviews, your composure... I would go for the most accessible option (this is why I am going for an ADN) and work hard in it. The future opens up after you get that very first higher credential.

Listen,

I have had many major disturbances in my college career. I have had every reason to quit and to feel like a major failure.

But to become a mother is your first high calling in life. If you put your heart and soul into raising your child, you learn the most important lessons there are about selflessness and serving others. This will prepare you to be a great nurse.

You have time to work on the classes you have not done well in. There are alternative credit options such as online (current route I am taking for pre-req through edukan) and clep or dsst for general courses.

Never give up.

You are not a failure. God has a purpose in all things you have dealt with. Have patience with yourself. This is a long marathon, and whatever it takes, you can do it. Maybe start with one re-take of a class and when you have the grade you are proud of, go for the program.

When I tried to get back in to school, they wanted to put me on remedial math. I don't have time or the heart for it, so I circumvented them and took an online ace credit course. Got a B in college algebra. Then I got my A&P I online with a B. Soon, A&Pii and microbiology will be behind me. I am a single mom with very little income and I am paying out of pocket until I can get into the nursing program of my local community college officially.

I should mention I was about a year away from a completed Bachelor's in Art Therapy. Then I relocated, was surprise divorced (abandoned by husband) while pregnant, jobless, homeless...... But my baby boy inspires me to get this done and things have improved in my life slowly over time. You can do it. Keep your head up!

Jamela Carnes

Can I ask where you took your math class?

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