Rat Race

[blue82]

I know what I'm about to say is a little off topic some may think it's petty and ridiculous but it's a situation that's been on my mind. But I'm curious to hear what you guys think of the situation. It has somewhat to do about NCLEX, or more so how childish your classmates can be or tend to be (so may know what I'm talking about). So here is the background, I graduated last year from a fairly decent nursing school. My graduating evening class was fairly small, so everyone knew everyone, and we were all in the grind together. I consider myself to be sociable so I got along well with everyone in my class. There were only three gentlemen in my class, so you know they stayed together. To be honest there was a bit of a competitive edge on who can score the highest, but i was never in for it, tend to just be competitive with myself. So moving forth, we all graduate and begin to prepare for the NCLEX we even trade study notes. The fellas were the first and the lots of girls were next. Unfortunately, many of us (girls) failed the first time and are in preparation to take the exam again. So a few weeks ago, I met up with one of former classmate and we were just talking about our experience with the exam and I assumed, because it was never mentioned, that she failed but apparently she passed and she didn't say a word to the rest of the girls, and mind you we were "supposedly close". So I asked why she took a year to say anything she would speak on everything else, but not the fact that she "pass NCLEX", which is notably one of the most important accomplishment in your life, she said she didn't want to make us feel bad..... (bad huh...what)...honestly I was a little taken back by her response...why would I feel bad I thought we were in the grind together and now you want to be shady.....idk maybe I'm looking into it too deep....just a little disappointment b/c i have no reason to jealous, if that's her thinking....just weird have ppl can be at times and of course you don't really discover ppl intention until its hits you in the face...

What are your thoughts ???

[AmyRN303, BSN, RN]

I know what I'm about to say is a little off topic some may think it's petty and ridiculous but it's a situation that's been on my mind. But I'm curious to hear what you guys think of the situation. It has somewhat to do about NCLEX, or more so how childish your classmates can be or tend to be (so may know what I'm talking about). So here is the background, I graduated last year from a fairly decent nursing school. My graduating evening class was fairly small, so everyone knew everyone, and we were all in the grind together. I consider myself to be sociable so I got along well with everyone in my class. There were only three gentlemen in my class, so you know they stayed together. To be honest there was a bit of a competitive edge on who can score the highest, but i was never in for it, tend to just be competitive with myself. So moving forth, we all graduate and begin to prepare for the NCLEX we even trade study notes. The fellas were the first and the lots of girls were next. Unfortunately, many of us (girls) failed the first time and are in preparation to take the exam again. So a few weeks ago, I met up with one of former classmate and we were just talking about our experience with the exam and I assumed, because it was never mentioned, that she failed but apparently she passed and she didn't say a word to the rest of the girls, and mind you we were "supposedly close". So I asked why she took a year to say anything she would speak on everything else, but not the fact that she "pass NCLEX", which is notably one of the most important accomplishment in your life, she said she didn't want to make us feel bad..... (bad huh...what)...honestly I was a little taken back by her response...why would I feel bad I thought we were in the grind together and now you want to be shady.....idk maybe I'm looking into it too deep....just a little disappointment b/c i have no reason to jealous, if that's her thinking....just weird have ppl can be at times and of course you don't really discover ppl intention until its hits you in the face...

What are your thoughts ???

So let me get this straight. A girl, whom you were friendly with in school, passed her NCLEX on the first try and you think she's shady and childish because she didn't broadcast it? I don't see how that's weird at all. You said yourself you tended not toward competition with anyone other than yourself, and that could quite likely be the same for her. Perhaps she knew you failed first time and didn't want to make you feel she was "rubbing it in" by proclaiming her pass.

And as a side note: I'm wondering what first time pass rate is for your school. I would be somewhat worried if "many" of my classmates failed first time.

[blue82]

perhaps you may right...but like i said before we shared a sisterhood or at least i thought we did.....what i knew i would share but apparently it was never vice versa. But lesson learned on my behalf. The school we went too is fairly new and the preparation that they did offer was ok....but not the best.