"So you work in a nursing home; you can't possibly know what I'm asking" (GRRR)

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This is the attitude I get from my family. Just yesterday we were sitting around the table and my mom asks my brother something about the nervous system. He does teach biology on the college level but he wasn't understanding what she was asking and I did, so I jumped in and my mom says "Shhh, I was asking your brother". So I mumbled something about being a nurse didn't mean anything then did it. She's made comments before and my brother is smart, don't get me wrong, but some of her questions could easily be answered by a nurse as well as a teacher. I don't know how to get her to understand that I'm not just a piece of chopped liver here, ya know?

ARGH....just had to vent!

Blessings, M.

In my experience you never know a thing at all until suddenly someone gets sick and then you know something.

My Mum was like that with me and my brother too. I now live 6,000 miles away from her.

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Many families act this way. I got tired of being upstaged by my perpetual student sister in law who couldn't get into nursing school, but still knows everything. So I do my best to just shut up about things and let the family figure things out for themselves withthe advice of perpetual student. No matter that I am right. I am not her, so my info is worthless.

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Specializes in acute care and geriatric.

I get the same, as an ADON, my mother still thinks I am only an expert at bedpans and bedmaking,,,, I have given up years ago, let her think what she wants, her problem not mine,

I am proud of what I do and if she chooses to look elsewhere for health advise I respect her choice...,doesnt make me less of a person.

reminds me of the joke (in short):

at the inaugeration of the first women president, an older women points out the newly elected female and says, "I'm her mother, did you know that her brother is a doctor!"

Michelle, you will find peace when you stop trying to impress her, and just love her for the flawed human being she is.

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Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.
I get the same, as an ADON, my mother still thinks I am only an expert at bedpans and bedmaking,,,, I have given up years ago, let her think what she wants, her problem not mine,

I am proud of what I do and if she chooses to look elsewhere for health advise I respect her choice...,doesnt make me less of a person.

reminds me of the joke (in short):

at the inaugeration of the first women president, an older women points out the newly elected female and says, "I'm her mother, did you know that her brother is a doctor!"

Michelle, you will find peace when you stop trying to impress her, and just love her for the flawed human being she is.

That sounds like a Jewish mother joke...:lol2:

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Specializes in Geriatrics.

Well, she more than made up for the nervous system question....she moved on to pediatrics because my niece was running some high temps. My sister asked my mom did she think she should take her to the ER...but she hadn't even treated the fever with anything yet. So my mom calls me and says what should she give her...I was like DUH, Motrin and alternate it with Tylenol...it is probably a virus but if she appears dehydrated and the fever stays or goes up then take her to ER for some rehydration. I'm not even a pediatric nurse but I'm a mother of 2 so I do know something about that, I guess. Anyway, my sister took my advice, her fever dropped, and she is drinking and eating just fine now. Maybe that was my mom's way of saying "sorry I didn't listen to your take on the nervous system debate" Haha, who knows?

Blessings, M.

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