Question about inmates

[nursebaby22]

If I work at a hospital and have had an inmate as a pt., if I were interested in writing to him once he is released and he asked me too, could i legally do this.? I have known nurses to marry inmates that were former patients. As long as there is nothing inappropriate while he is a patient, once he is released am I free to write or whatever? Please this is very important if anyone knows the "rules" about this situation. I don't understand how this could be a problem. It seems to be the same situation as if a regular patient was to contact a former nurse and pursue a relationship which I have known several nurses who met their husbands as former patients. All opinions aside about "it's a bad idea to get involved with a manipulative inmate" I'm only seeking factual info. Thanks alot.

[jailside]

In regards to the book, Games Criminals Play....look back to the second post in this thread from Nurse Ratched....she provides a link to "this book"

And I remember reading it and thinking, "Nooooo! It coulnd't possibly happen! So what! -so I gave some inmate preferential treatment...HE deserved it! He's different!...you won't see ME bringing in contraband! You won't see ME looking him up after his release! You won't see ME losing MY job...........I have seen it happen....and, more than once!

[rnmi2004]

Why would you become involved with a person when you know nothing about who he is? You only know him as he presents himself while institutionalized. There is a whole different set of behaviors that an inmate must adhere to. How is he going to behave "on the outside?"

It makes me sad to see yet another spouse put time and energy into pursuing a relationship outside marriage instead of fighting for the relationship you now have. My marriage was "doomed" and on the brink of divorce. After a lot of counseling, growing on both of our parts, and realization of the committment we had made, we are now best friends. If I had turned outside of my marriage and allowed myself to cultivate feelings for someone other than my husband--and there are a lot of guys out there with a sympathetic ear and a knowledge of just the right words to say--I wouldn't be happily married today.

[donmomofnine]

These are the stories i like to hear. Without someone calling me "a few cheerios shy of a full bowl" but telling me real life situations that happen, examples of exactly how a person can be conned and what the inmate is really after or what "could" potentially happen. I know that anything can happen, but to hear true stories of actual incidents brings a lot more consideration. When I first met this guy, I was ignoring everything I heard about it...saying, he doesnt' drink or use drugs so he won't go back to alcohol and/or drugs and be engage in acts provoked by the addicted mind, he isn't a rapist, molestor, murderer, assault committer, so he can't be planning an attack, so I couldn't honestly think of any reason he would want to deceive me other than maybe he honestly was tired of that life and wanted to start over and have someone there to support him. But I have read several inmate ads to receive pen pals and it seems they are all looking for a woman and a relationship for whatever reason. Could it be that they just want to get "hot, steamy" letters to get by in prison? and pictures? A place to go afterwords and get what they can get? It's really difficult for me to know if a person is different, especially since he (as well, i know, as several inmates claim) is now saved. Being a woman of faith, I know people "Can" change, but I guess there is no way to ever know for sure.

I also worked in a maximum security prison and I agree with all the advice here.

As a "woman of faith" then maybe you could put your faith to work as a tool to try to save your marriage:) I say that in all kindness, not to be mean. I don't think a "saved" man should be wanting to steal another man's wife, either.

[IDlvrM]

I posted a few days ago, but just so happened that I received the new Nursing Commission book from the BON in my state today and was thumbing through it when I came accross the laws that pertain to this very issue. It was VERY CLAER regarding the amount of time a nurse must wait. I won't go into my states details as there's a 1 in 50 chance that you don't live here. It was different for different situation, pt. in office, hospital vs. mental health, substance abuse (differnet waiting periods) I would refer the laws from your BON.

Danielle

[mscsrjhm]

Don't understand everyone's problem. Calm down. Everyone in prison is innocent. Honest... just ask them.

They were framed.

(Unfortunately, there are some in prison who are not guilty.. as shown by DNA tests. So very sad.)

But, I gotta agree about the Cheerios. Don't be offended that we question your sanity. I can pinpoint the moment I questioned it, your very first sentence.

Run. Isn't life messed up enough, and hard enough without adding potential problems? How much stress DO you want?