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I will be starting a new job in a week (3-11 PT CNA), but I am feeling a little stressed because I am a single mom, and full time (5 days/wk) LPN student who has bitten her nails down to nothing. I don't have a babysitter that is close by and even though my son has pretty much been a latch-key child for about a year, I have never left him home unsupervised for more than a half hour (that is how long it takes me to get home from school). I want to take the job because I am broke and can't pay bills or get all of the things I need for school, but at the same time I am nervous about maybe adding fuel to the fire so to speak. I am still trying to get back into the routine of being a student and meeting the requirements for class, and being there for my son to help him with his homework, and all of the other things that I have to do for him. Before I had help because his dad and I were still together, until he found out that I got into nursing school. It seems like the sky came crashing down over night, and I don't know how much more I can take. I have 7 months to finish and can't wait, but at the same time I am scared that I will not be able to juggle all of this at one time. I wanted to get some advice from anyone who has/is going through this now and what did you do to handle it all. It just seems like so much and lately all I do is stay up most of the night crying because I feel so stressed and isolated:bluecry1:

I apologize for the comma splicing, and run on sentences;)

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I am not in your situation but there are women in my class doing the same thing. They struggle with it just as you. All I can say is remember that you are doing it for your son and it will pay off in the long run. He will see that. My mother worked 2 jobs when I was growing up. I didn't get the time I wanted from her but I respected her so much. To me, she was a tower of strength. I understood that she was doing it for us. It's not easy I know. Time will fly by. Love your son as much as you can when you're with him. Seek help from family members or friends if you can. Maybe the state has a program to help a little finanically. Hang in there. It will be over before you know it and you and your son will be so proud of what you have accomplished. Good luck to you. :)

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I will be starting a new job in a week (3-11 PT CNA), but I am feeling a little stressed because I am a single mom, and full time (5 days/wk) LPN student who has bitten her nails down to nothing. I don't have a babysitter that is close by and even though my son has pretty much been a latch-key child for about a year, I have never left him home unsupervised for more than a half hour (that is how long it takes me to get home from school). I want to take the job because I am broke and can't pay bills or get all of the things I need for school, but at the same time I am nervous about maybe adding fuel to the fire so to speak. I am still trying to get back into the routine of being a student and meeting the requirements for class, and being there for my son to help him with his homework, and all of the other things that I have to do for him. Before I had help because his dad and I were still together, until he found out that I got into nursing school. It seems like the sky came crashing down over night, and I don't know how much more I can take. I have 7 months to finish and can't wait, but at the same time I am scared that I will not be able to juggle all of this at one time. I wanted to get some advice from anyone who has/is going through this now and what did you do to handle it all. It just seems like so much and lately all I do is stay up most of the night crying because I feel so stressed and isolated:bluecry1:

I apologize for the comma splicing, and run on sentences;)

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Is there any way you can take out a small school loan to help with living expenses for that short time so you can work less? That's what I did. I mean, yeah, I'm paying it back now, but it wasn't very much and w/o it I couldn't have finished school (divorced in the process of getting my LPN, with 2 kids)

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It's a state run PNEP so they don't even do loans. I am waiting to see how much I get back from grant for this semester, but that isn't for another month. I feel that if I apply myself I can push through, but everything went down hill so fast I didn't have time to respond properly. I have been working since I was 15, but I wanted a career and since I have already worked as a cna and CST I wanted to stay in the medical field because I enjoy it so much. I am hurt because I don't understand why my ex is so envious just because I chose to go back to school. I did leave school last year because he wasn't happy about it, but I was upset because I felt I was giving up my dreams to suit his needs. So while he was floating on cloud nine I was miserable. I decided to go back and I waited to tell him, and when I did, he left us. I don't mean to sound like a whiny baby, but I feel angry, bitter, and confused. I just try to push myself through everyday, and I pray that I have the strength to go that extra day. Thanx to you guys that have replied so far. Your words mean alot to me.

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I am so sorry your ex is putting you through this. I am sorry that he left you the way he did. Prayers help. Stay strong.

It's a state run PNEP so they don't even do loans. I am waiting to see how much I get back from grant for this semester, but that isn't for another month. I feel that if I apply myself I can push through, but everything went down hill so fast I didn't have time to respond properly. I have been working since I was 15, but I wanted a career and since I have already worked as a cna and CST I wanted to stay in the medical field because I enjoy it so much. I am hurt because I don't understand why my ex is so envious just because I chose to go back to school. I did leave school last year because he wasn't happy about it, but I was upset because I felt I was giving up my dreams to suit his needs. So while he was floating on cloud nine I was miserable. I decided to go back and I waited to tell him, and when I did, he left us. I don't mean to sound like a whiny baby, but I feel angry, bitter, and confused. I just try to push myself through everyday, and I pray that I have the strength to go that extra day. Thanx to you guys that have replied so far. Your words mean alot to me.
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Specializes in Hospice, Med/Surg, ICU, ER.

How old is your ds?

Is there any nearby support structure he can call on in case of emergency?

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Darcia,

It sounds to me like your ex could not take the thought that you were doing something to better yourself, and in all reality be better than him. There are some of us (men) that can not stand the thought of their wife making more money than they do, or having a better job and being happy doing it.

Just always remember that there a whole lot of us here for support, that you can vent to, and just get advise from. You are not alone! As for your son, he will know why you are doing this, and why he doesn't get to see you as much, and he will love you even more for it.

Hang in there, and keep us posted, 7 months is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

Dan

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My son is eleven, will be twelve by the time I graduate. I am up here now and haven't really had any sleep this week, but I have made coffee my best friend. I guess now my motivation to make it through is more to prove that I can make it without him, and to show my son that it is important to follow your dreams, and to have a good support system. Well his dad has just lost his job (part of the big stop and shop closing in Connecticut), and maybe I am wrong for feeling happy, but now he will know what it feels like to struggle. On a lighter note. I am very glad that I can come here and get that extra push I need sometimes to get through the day. I know that I am not alone in my goal to become a nurse.

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Darcia I live in Meriden,Ct and I do understand about him loosing his job but that doesn't give the right for him to walk out on your son and you when thing get tough he should be a man and show your son that don't matter what happens in life you always stand by your lady regardless of the situation and for your carrer don't you dare give up on it you continue going through the program and graduate I will bet you that you baby boy will be so proud of you...Please don't give up strive to achieve and make though dreams come true dont give up please dont do it show him you don't need him but that he needs you and when he relalize it kick him wear it hurt and turn you back on him just like he did to your son and you...Good Luck

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I hear all you are going through and would like to offer some help...I live in CT too and currently work for 2-1-1 Child Care Infoline...my agency is a not for profit, child care referral agency for parents in need of child care. It is a free service and we refer parents to licensed child care programs that can provide care for children birth to 12 years old.

You also may be eligible for the child care subsidy program, Care 4 Kids, which is available to help working parents pay for child care in CT as long as they are income eligible.

You just dial 2-1-1 or 1-800-505-1000 and they might be able to help you with your child care needs. Good Luck!!!

Hi all

I will be starting a new job in a week (3-11 PT CNA), but I am feeling a little stressed because I am a single mom, and full time (5 days/wk) LPN student who has bitten her nails down to nothing. I don't have a babysitter that is close by and even though my son has pretty much been a latch-key child for about a year, I have never left him home unsupervised for more than a half hour (that is how long it takes me to get home from school). I want to take the job because I am broke and can't pay bills or get all of the things I need for school, but at the same time I am nervous about maybe adding fuel to the fire so to speak. I am still trying to get back into the routine of being a student and meeting the requirements for class, and being there for my son to help him with his homework, and all of the other things that I have to do for him. Before I had help because his dad and I were still together, until he found out that I got into nursing school. It seems like the sky came crashing down over night, and I don't know how much more I can take. I have 7 months to finish and can't wait, but at the same time I am scared that I will not be able to juggle all of this at one time. I wanted to get some advice from anyone who has/is going through this now and what did you do to handle it all. It just seems like so much and lately all I do is stay up most of the night crying because I feel so stressed and isolated:bluecry1:

I apologize for the comma splicing, and run on sentences;)

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