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THANK YOU SO MUCH! I really needed this!

I hope you're wrong. ?

Do you think I have a chance at salvaging everything? It may take time to formulate new opinions. I'm definitely going to change, and I am looking forward to it.

It is a perfect example. I was hoping the Nurse would take interest that I was interested in being active with questioning. I guess it can be interpreted as a challenge, or a nuisance, along those lines. I immediately did apologize, thank her for the advice, etc---so I had no harmful intent. I will just not ask as many questions, do only what I'm told, etc --- and go from there.

Yeah. I probably am coming off like a jerk. ? I don't mean to. It's difficult for me. I am book smart but I guess I am socially inept...And that makes me pretty self-conscious. I ask too many questions I guess is my problem...I came from a different clinical site and they loved my attitude the way it was. I could ask as many questions as I want, they appreciated my involvement, etc. The nurses probably want me to save all my questions for someone else. I hope I can salvage it. I have been at this site for only a few weeks so far. I got 16 weeks left. I guess my goals for now on are: -Don't ask too many questions -IF I need to write notes, write them during lunch break or after. -If I have a question, immediately use positive reinforcement, thank them, and don't ask for further clarifications. If i am struggling, ask the clinical instructor. - Ask them if they need anything to show 'initiative'.

I know. I am thankful for it. Seriously, I am. I am not the only student facing similar issues. One Nurse harassed a student's looks, among other things. It's just the way it is.

I know. She is correct. It's that the Nurses are questioned by my instructor if I do ask questions, if I am interactive, etc. If I don't ask any questions and only ask my instructor, the Nurse will document that. Don't you understand my frustration?

I asked the staff if I was defensive or argumentative. They say I am not, and that I take constructive criticism very well. I am trying to maintain peace within the department, and fulfill my role as a student---but I can't help but be frustrated over scenarios that when I do follow their advice, they get mad about it. I got frustrated with Snatchedwig because this user told me to 'not speak unless spoken to' and not question the staff, and I took things personally when he/she said, "how is this HARD to understand" . I wasn't questioning the Nurse, I was seeking guidance as to when best to contact Transport so in the future I will not have any issues.

Gee, god forbid I ask for clarification. Isn't that my role as a student? I am paying thousands of dollars for this education. It seems like it's best to not ask questions at all. I also got written up at this site for being "too quiet" and "waiting to be asked to do something", as well as, "does not initiate conversation with staff unless asked to." YOU tell me what it is I need to do then? I'm sick of it and it seems like YOU don't understand my perspective.

I am doing my best. Yesterday during clinical, I was asking the Nurse I was with about contacting transport for patients. The patient went to the bathroom (we were done with her) so I told the Nurse I will be putting her in transport to bring her back to her bed. She replied, "Wait for her to come back! Then we can call transport!" I said, "Ok. No worries." And I asked if transport is relativity quick at this clinical site, she said, "No." I said, "Ok, for clarification, it is best to contact transport when they are not going to the bathroom and when they are back in their stretcher, correct?" Her response? "I mean, do you want to argue about it? We can argue." Some people I think look for anything to get in a fight, I am convinced. I apologized, told her that I apologize if I came off defensive. She said she did not think I was defensive. I then thanked her for her advice. Waiting for another eval...

I am doing my best. Even though it is challenging to deal with these personalities, I am glad I am experiencing them.

Hey guys, here is a friendly update. A nurse told me today something I did wrong, and I immediately thanked her for advice and acknowledged I will improve on a certain behavior. Additionally, I acknowledged to her I appreciate the fact she is very forward with me in regards to constructive criticism, and not given weeks after (and sometimes months) after a behavior has occurred. She told me, "Well, you need to take account with our perspective, that a lot of us Nurses are not forward with you about criticisms because we are not sure how you will react." I am not rude, or argumentative. I simply acknowledged she was correct, her position was understandable. I am also planning on meeting with several Nurses to help address this problem, because it does upset me how I do not receive criticism first-hand, and when an evaluation comes that I did, "X,Y,Z" wrong, it makes me appear in front of my evaluator that I am not fulfilling my role as a student in advocating for myself. Additionally, it will appear that I have a lack of self-reflection and introspection, which frustrated me further. What is everyone's thoughts about this?

Oh okay! I thought it was meant that way, haha. It's hard to distinguish these things over the internet,

Woah, calm down. No one said I 'couldn't handle it'. I am certainly not quitting over people---that's part of life. I have received great reviews from other clinical sites, but experiencing challenges with this one. As a student, I am taking this as a learning opportunity and I am not going to give up at a site of struggle. As other commenters have noted, although some of these critiques may seem unfair or flat-out 'wrong', it is in my position as a student to adapt and that is what I am going to do. Keep my nose clean, do when asked. If I have issues, take it up with them. And I'm leaving it at that.

I was responding to earlier posts who told me to 'ditch the notebook' and get something smaller.