@Horseshoe, I believe you misunderstood me which is fine. I understand that resources are finite and in some cases they have to be looked at to proceed. I was referring to my situation only. I'm glad that when I went into labor the only the decision that mattered at the time was how I wanted to proceed. Did I want aggressive treatment or to let nature take it's course.
I also understand that yes, finances could have come into play if his outcome wasn't as it was during his 16 weeks in the NICU . And by arbitrarily deciding his fate, I guess I should have said that the hospital and Aetna didn't say his care will amount to 1 million dollars, let him die, without even trying or caring what I wanted.