My wife today is highly supportive. My previous wife received the benefit of a six figure income and a man who would leave early to be home for dinner. I made sure that she could stay home and be a mom IF she wanted to. That income came with a requirement that I be available for clients at off hours and sometimes on weekends. I was accused of getting break all day while she struggled with kids at home. The kids were in elementary school for several years when this accusation came along. She left because it was unfair to her that I worked from 7:00 AM to 4:00 PM and got a break from the household chores everyday.
My only point here is that spouses are often self centered no matter what we do. I have been blessed with someone who loves me for me and understands that we share each other with our obligations at work. I hope that things change for the OP and that support will be the new norm.