Oh, do I WISH I had to time to compare notes with you - when I had the responsibility (and, honor; and, privilege) of acting as my mother's caregiver I ran into that attitude so very, very many times. And, yes, there are many reasons for it - from simple exhaustion, to the "hide of a rhinoceros" getting just a wee bit too thick, to the need for quantifiable metrics running amok (I have yet to see a metric for "held a patient's hand" - although there ought to be)...and the list goes on & on. I'm very pleased to hear that your Dad's doing better (BTW - a flyswatter does wonders for the spiders... ) and that you're there to advocate for him. In any case; haven't gotten to the point that I've forgotten that my patients (we call 'em "residents" where I work - although a goodly percentage of 'em return home, a few are actual long-term residents) are people - see me in a few years though; most likely I'll need a reminder! Not a promise - I just know me. Living up to high standards takes a lot of time, effort & energy, and I'm a bit short on all of the above.
+1 on getting the AHD & DPOA paperwork squared away, if you haven't already done so - trust me, you'll be saving yourself a lot of grief getting it done now. Nothing more I need to say - we're both on the same page. :hug: