I did fairly well in A&P. The first test I got 105% on, and I only got under 100% on two tests during the semester. And I was pregnant. The instructor has a reputation of being a hard teacher, too, at a private school (I don't know if that means anything, but the school has a good rep so it wasn't just an easy class).
Here's what I did: I studied with someone who didn't get the lecture at ALL. I mean, I seriously think he had a learning disability because he couldn't understand diagrams or anything. After each lecture we'd set up a study time, and I would explain the whole lecture to him again, in detail, going over some ideas over and over again, pulling out of the back recesses of my head whatever kinds of analogies I could think of. Once I started doing this, I did very little study besides this and I did very well on tests.
I copied all of my notes after each lecture (as soon as possible) neatly, and made sure I learned what I didn't understand. I asked a lot of questions in class.
I made flashcards of most of the terms we were learning. I condensed the information sometimes, just to give myself a reminder of what I already knew. (IE, abbreviations, trigger terms for lists). I would go over them on the way to school (I walk).
I listened to lectures, sometimes a few times in a row. The night before my first test I put them on and went to sleep to them. I still remember how I learned the word hydrolysis because my teacher made a joke about her "pop beads" coming apart...hehe, I can still hear her voice saying the joke because I listened to that lecture so many times.
I crammed for practicum in lab. They were not cumulative, so I saw no problem with going into lab for a few sessions before the practicum and brushing up on everything.
The second semester I didn't do as well on tests but I still got an A (I was also more pregnant!). I wasn't able to study with the student that had such difficulty because he dropped the class, but I still listened to lectures, etc. It was harder without someone to teach it to.
I studied once a week at a study group put together by the prof. You could do the same by just inviting people to get together, and ask whoever in the class who is doing best to come and teach you (and learn in the meantime).
It sounds like you have an awful instructor, but you can get through it! It's hard even with a good teacher, so I wish you the best of luck.