First lets address meds-how hard is it? Depends on the med and the way they are administered. IV's take time, CAD take time, if you don't use a scanner there are extra checks to be complete, is that medication compatible with the fluids running? How many PRN's are you giving? Medication errors are one of the largest nursing hazards in the field and I don't care if you have been a nurse for a day, a year or 50 years I would expect you take your time on those meds and the patients getting them-are their vitals stable, is their pressure high enough? Etc. etc.
Second it is considered demeaning to talk down to patients by calling them "honey" "sweet" "sugar" etc. dementia or no. It is Mr. So and So Mrs. So and So Ms So and So etc. Unless otherwise asked by the patient to call them something else I use their formal name, especially with elderly patients as they can take offense at the familiarity with someone they don't know.
I think the OP needs to take a look at how she is coming off, but didn't get the feel that she is delegating anything inappropriate.
I am on a med surg floor as well and I am lucky if I have ONE aide on my floor. We as nurses do most of the self care, toileting, changing briefs, changing linens etc. if we do happen to have an aide then we are doing it together and saying please and thank you each time. Just my 2 cents