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Hi, I am a new grad looking for some advice or opinions on this issue I am having. I have been working for 6 months at a hospital and have been having some problems there. At my interview, my NM for some reason told me that it annoys her when people ...

Thanks for the replies. With the exception of the hostile one, of course. I didn't post this blog to be insulted and I don't feel a need to waste time defending myself. That said, I have left the position several months ago and am currently looking f...

Looking back, I feel like I never had a chance once the fact that I was expecting was revealed. I did go to my union right away, but my union wasn't very strong and I actually think that made things worse for me. My NM really had it out for the union...

Also, the NM had a lot of friends that she made throughout the hospital before her daughter had died and they could not believe that she had become a tyrant. The NM was not just harassing me. She also harassed older employees, some nursing assistants...

Thank you for your book recommendations! I plan to check them out. You are right that my NM had emotional issues. The hostility vibe that she gave off was almost unbearable at times. I discovered through the course of my employment that her daughter ...

Supplyguy- very inspirational post! I agree that the experience was very traumatizing and I have acknowledged that. In fact, I have filed a discrimination complaint with the EEO regarding the treatment I was subjected to in the workplace and I had a...

I can't believe it's been 7 months since this all happened! I have not returned to the workplace yet. I decided to take a longer maternity leave of one year. I have continued to take continuing education modules online to stay on top of and hopefully...

I know that this is a later post, but you can always have a professional service check your references for a fee. These companies copy verbatim what was said as well as provide an analysis of the way things were said, such as a former manager's tone ...

Thanks for the continuing support. I have still not heard from the BON and my time with my new baby has been great. Believe it or not, I was never oriented on the fact the you need a second nurse to verify insulin dose. Since then, I've been told th...

Hi, I am wondering what school nursing would be like for someone who is basically a new grad? I have worked in rehab nursing for 7 months and am currently on maternity leave, but would like to pursue a career as a school nurse. Any tips/suggestions o...

Well, it's too late to ask for a transfer. I did attempt to get a job in another unit towards the beginning of my time there, but my manager gave me a negative reference (after only a few weeks!). I should have tried harder to get into another unit b...

Well, I am hoping that I would have resources as a school nurse. For example, I could look things up in textbooks when I need to. Hopefully, the school provides those resources, otherwise I would seek them out independently. I wasn't a big fan of the...

Thanks for the replies. I have been trying to read up on nursing in general as well as pediatric nursing issues. I did check out the website and think I will shoot for a part time or substitute position when I do apply. I already have my school nurse...

Thank you for the support. I have been taking continuing education courses on medication safety, as well as nursing in general. I plan to go into my next job much more prepared. I now realize that it is in my power to try to prevent these situations ...

Not to continue to be "difficult", but what about the fact that my NM DID create a hostile environment for me from day one (as she knew of my pregnancy)? Further, why was I trained differently than other newly hired staff? True, I made errors and was...

My attorney also advised that I seek continuing education in order to show that I am learning from my mistakes. So I have been doing courses online about medication safety. I do believe that I was poorly trained in addition to a knowledge deficit. I ...

Well, I just got a letter from my former employer summarizing their reasons for reporting me to the BON. They say that I can respond to the accusations within 14 days or they will decide independently whether or not to report me. I am afraid to make ...

I did resign, effective tomorrow, actually. I do have preceptors that would be references for me. During my orientation, I was actually shuffled around quite a bit, so I can count pretty much every nurse on my floor as a preceptor (including the LPNs...

Yes, I realize malpractice insurance would have been very helpful in this situation by making available legal advice. At this time, I decided going to a peer review board hearing and potentially being terminated was a bigger risk than I was willing t...

This forum has been very helpful for my to muddle through what has happened and to learn from my errors, both in terms of nursing and in terms of the politics of nursing and starting your first job. I suppose I drift back to the original question tha...

The only reason I brought up the weight lifting restriction was to illustrate the entire picture. Jolie, I guess I don't know what you mean about putting responsibility for the 25 lb weight lifting restriction on my NM. I believe that she felt like h...

Yeah, I don't really expect to be keeping this job, and what IS important to me is learning from this experience and taking that with me in the future. Hopefull2009, you are absolutely right that my union involvement may have been excessive and setti...

Start confident is my advice. Jump right in and try everything you can. Be really friendly, but don't trust anyone. Always take the time to look up a procedure, rather than simply asking. You'll do fine. It's natural to be nervous.

Thanks everyone for your thoughtful responses. I know it is a convoluted situation that has many layers and is not black and white. I appreciate all the responses I've gotten and it has been really helpful to me to hash it out with other nurses who k...

Well, as I said, my only documented limitation while I was there was during that 2 weeks. I DO understand why she would have it out for me since I started pregnant and then got into that MVA. It was a bad situation being my first nursing job and my f...