i understand your frustration with the whole situation. patient care is difficult and a hard assignment makes it seem overwhelming at times. remember there is always more than one side to a story or more than one perspective on a situation.
having said all of that i would advise you seperate yourself as an individual employee from the whole "we" mentality. i do not mean as in teamwork. what i am trying to say is that you were hired as an individual employee to perform in a specific role. as long as your supervisor is acting within the guidelines of the facilities policies in making the assignments then she has the authority to do as she deems best regardless of whether it is "fair".
"i'm over here busting my *** while this woman wants everyone to feel sorry for her because her husband is in the service and she has 3 teens at home. um hello you're not the only who has it tough other people have it worse. she is such a brown noser which is probably why the supervisor gives her better treatment ugh! :mad:"
anger, name calling, and assumptions will only cause you trouble. i would suggest that you not use these tactics with your supervisor if you choose to address any issues. attempts at conflict resolution will be more effective if handled properly.
if you are given a physically challenging assignment that requires 2 people to perform the care then do not hesitate to ask for assistance. if noone is available to help then i would suggest speaking to your supervisor. inform her that you are concern that patient and employee safety would be compromised if you attempted to perform a specific task alone. it is her responsibility to see that there is adequate staff to ensure safety. likewise, it is your responsibility to see that you do not endanger a patient by attempting a task without proper assistance.
personally, if the other employee came to me asking for help and i was struggling with my patient load i would probably bargain with her. i would say something like, "i would be happy to help you bath her if you will first help me complete this task of bathing mr. so and so." teamwork can provide safe care and enable you to finish in a timely manner.
remember, there will be days when you do not feel good and your co-workers will probably extend you the same courtesy you have extended to them. i do not know the dynamics of your unit so i say that on the premise of one built on teamwork and a patient focused environment of care.
one last thing.....your passion for the care you give others is obvious. i am so glad you have chosen a career in healthcare. please don't let people rob you of the joy you find in helping others. thank you for the hard work and care you provide for our elderly population!!!!