Ugh. I've been a nurse for 20 years--ER always (and some other units). On my feet 8-12 hours a day for 20 years. Now for the last year I got a knee injury and then knee and hip pain. All wear and tear and overuse DX--patellarfoemoral syndrome, piriformis syndrome. It is so hard when you are in pain to work, let alone do your PT and exercise as well. I am one of those who takes care of everyone else before myself and my body shows it. Yes I am overweight--don't exercise like I should, but diet is reasonably ok. Stress has been huge (work and family issues). While work stress is being resolved, family stress (husband) still there. Last year this time--I was working out 4 -5 days a week, had lost 12 lbs, but then got a knee injury which has not involved more things. I can still work, I am doing PT for my hips/knees, but it is very hard to exercise (especially cardio) when I have hip and knee pain I am limited and it is a fine balance of not doing too much so that pain isn't worse (got to still be able to go into work to pay the bills). So when I complain in the evening of my hips and knees hurting husband says "well don't you think its your weight. You need to exercise" He doesn't get it. Yes I am overweight, and that has not helped anything and I am sure made things worse, but so is 20 years of being on your feet. How do I get his to have more compassion for me. I am exercising, I can't do the kickboxing or zumba that I want to because of my injuries. I can't even go up and down a flight of stairs without a lot of pain/difficulty. I can only walk for short amount of time. (I have a complicated condition--otherday I walked around at a festival for 2 hours with no real problems minor pain--but then my muscles were apparently so fatigued I literally could not lift my leg to get into car (my husband just rolled his eyes at me). I am doing best I can. He is not understanding, he resents that I ask him to help out with house or taking groceries in when I tell him I'm in pain. It seems like he is unsympathetic to my pain because he thinks I have caused my problems due to being overweight only. Am I wrong? Lazy? I am doing best I can.