I was let go from my 1st PDN case in August. The whole week surrounding it was just plain crazy! I had what I thought was a fantastic working relationship with the mom, and it was a dual-peds case... I had the kids down pat. One of the little ones had been having a rough time with seizure activity, so we had all been under an enormous amount of stress for about 6 weeks leading up to this event. Basically what happened was I noticed the mom withdrawing & giving me the cold shoulder. She was cordial, but nothing more. Spoke only to me if absolutely necessary. Highly abnormal for her. This went on for 3 days. On the 3rd day, she approached me in the kitchen on her way out (with one of her foster kids in tow mind you), and things turned hostile. She started verbally lashing out at me. Told me that I couldn't handle both kids, that I had a problem with her other kids, that she didn't feel like she could call me in early, and it went on & on... it ended with me in tears, giving a half-hearted defense of myself and her suggesting 3 times that "maybe I should find a new case because I need to do whats best for me and she needs to do whats best for her". Then she left. It was nuts!!! The next day I spoke with my supervisor and let her know what happened and she was floored! I guess less than 3 hours before she went hostile on me, she had been on the phone with my supervisor telling her that she was worried I was unhappy and that I was going to leave the case, so she wanted a solution to make it so I stayed. I asked for the rest of the week off (which was 2 days) to think things over and make a decision.
The mom kept texting me. At first it was things like "I'm sorry if I was harsh but it needed to be said". Which progressed to "I heard you're not coming in tomorrow, I hope you're ok!". And then longer, more detailed messages. I didn't have a chance to make a decision on my own. I got a call from my supervisor the next day telling me that the mom had asked for me not to return because she felt that she only used a tone & it shouldn't have upset me. I think I actually laughed when she told me that. The agency has to respect the parents wishes, and by that time I was so over the whole situation. I've been reassigned, I was actually reassigned within a week. It was a brand new case that took a while to get open, but they had me on it quickly. The new case is great! I have less migraines, less stress, more sleep (even though its NOC shift) & no one yells at me!
The mom from the other case has contacted me a couple times since I left. We chat lightly about surface level stuff over text every month or so, & things are patching up between us. I personally don't think she ever really intended for things to end the way they did. The stress of the little ones seizures took its toll on everyone. I hate leaving things without closure as well. I never would've talked with her, but she initiated the contact. I just keep it light-hearted talk.