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    Defunding the Police: Win /Win Situation Or Recipe for Disaster?

    Some say the title is baseless, first of all it has been on the news, second, my concern is the family structure has to be rectified in black communities in order to move forward. Charity begins at home.
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    Defunding the Police: Win /Win Situation Or Recipe for Disaster?

    But is it true that lack of role models or fathers can lead to psychological issues that manifest in different ways as adults?
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    Defunding the Police: Win /Win Situation Or Recipe for Disaster?

    But is it true that lack of role models or fathers can lead to psychological issues that manifest in different ways as adults?
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    Internship for PMHNP

    How do I find the payed preceptor services? Thanks
  5. Violence is rampant across low-income black neighborhoods across the nation as police have withdrawn from their communities. Within inner cities, street violence is reaching historic proportions and the perpetrators are as young as ten in Chicago. Chicago and New York city have seen high rates of homicides and crimes under the disguise of Black Lives Matter. Answers to rampant violence will be found within the communities suffering from the crisis. Fathers and Mentors Wanted! Fatherless societies since slavery throughout the twenty-first century! We need to know where we come from in order to move forward. Deep rooted in slavery times, the effects of such are still affecting the black community. Some might say, slavery occurred four hundred years ago or whatever, why are you bringing this up. Yes, fellow nurses, history put a dent in the black society, as such, we cannot keep putting band aids, and not treating the cause, a spade is a spade, let’s talk. Slavery occurred when blacks were stolen from their mother countries and brought to America and other European countries. Once they landed, they were stripped of their identity, forced to change names and not practice their traditions. Once stripped of their identity, families were separated and not allowed to live together (Comer). The living and working conditions in the plantations impeded the formation of stable families adhering to the nuclear model slavery may have negatively influenced family formation and sexual mores among blacks (Williams). The slave trade, with the frequent division of family members, has represented a further factor in impeding the formation of stable families adhering to the nuclear model. Black men were forced to have children they could not claim as family nor provide for, and expected to watch their children being sold as property (Caldwell & White). The Black father enslaved was helpless and required to accept his fate without resistance or concern. It is arguable that centuries of this patterning have helped render him invisible today (Caldwell & White). The tendency to matrifocal was strengthened by laws mandating that the children of slave women would also be slaves and prohibiting free men to intermarry with slave women (Stampp). Depriving black males of both authority and responsibility also led to a marginal role for black husbands and fathers within the household, resulting in the reinforcement of the single-mother family model (Stampp). The alleged inadequacy of the slave father and husband, the absence of male ‘models’ for young slave children to emulate, the prevalence of the father’s personality has persisted to modern day post slavery. Black children are indeed more likely to reside with a single parent female headship. When families are broken, there is lack of growth and development as noted by Erick Erickson theory of development (Mcleod). Growth and Development: Erick Erickson Erickson theorized that developing children identify the traits, habits and ideas from people around them (McLeod). As a result, children develop a sense of competence, confidence, adequacy, efficacy and a sense of worthwhile and belonging. Some black families are poor, have inadequate housing, inadequate healthcare. Parents living under severe economic hardships are unable to give their children child bearing experiences that promote adequate self-regulation. Development is hampered and interferes with self-control, ability to concentrate, learn and manage social environment. According to Erickson, the challenges of stages not successfully completed may be expected to return as problems in the future “arrested development” (McLeod). If fathers and mentors are lacking in the black community, where children are not taught or told that they matter at an early age results in the behavior mentioned above. Looting, not respecting self and others, black on black crime because lack of instilling of values at an early age. Unless, the black community starts loving and respecting themselves, providing emotional support to children, defunding the police is only a band aid to their issues. It has to start with them because of arrested development, they need police in their communities. Resources of course should be channeled into education, housing and other needs, but this has to be resolved first. Generative fathering takes into account the dynamic nature of parenting. It requires that adult African American men commit to participating in the lifespan of children as an obligation for cultural and community continuity (Caldwell & White). ‘’I was lucky to have parents, teachers and mentors who’d fed me with a consistent, simple message: You Matter!" (Michelle Obama). Resources Racism and African American adolescent development (Comer, J.P) Generative fathering: Challenges to Black masculinity and identity. Black fathers: An invisible presence in America (Caldwell, L.D., & White, J.L.) Erik Erikson (McLeod, S.) Becoming (Obama, M.) The Peculiar Institution: Slavery in the Ante-Bellum South (Stampp, K.A.) Help me to find my people: The African American search for family lost in slavery (Williams, H.A.)
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    Memorialization of Nurses Who Died From COVID-19: They Had Grit

    So sad, hope the husbands finds comfort in knowing that his wife died doing what she likes best, taking care of her patients. MHRIP.
  7. The profession of nursing has traditionally been regarded as the most trusted (Milton, 2018). Nursing continues to be named in the Gallup poll as the most trusted profession as well (Kennedy, Maureen & Shawn, 2017). During the COVID-19 pandemic, nurses rose up to the occasion, stepping in to care for the COVID-19 patients, placing their lives and families on the line, and some ultimately sacrificed with their lives. They never left nor abandoned the patients; many so sick and helpless, but nurses stayed at the bedside despite difficult and challenging times. This article can be found in our allnurses® Magazine Fall issue. Download allnurses® Magazine Themes from Obituaries Currently, there are no accurate statistics on the exact number of nurses who have died from COVID-19. It could be that the virus is still peaking in some states, although it has been contained in New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, and Massachusetts. It has been my mandate to read the obituaries of at least 200 health-care workers, and each time, know that it could have been me or my colleagues. The age ranges from eighteen to at least 75 years with nationalities from around the world. One young mother had a newborn and left three young kids. Retirements, as well as travel plans, were postponed. Themes emerged such as: dedication selflessness a higher calling a purpose greater than life a sense of mission never apprehensive putting patients first super-heroes mentors legends optimistic FACT: ... but above all, they had grit According to the Farlex Dictionary (2015), grit means true resolve, determination, or strength of character. The Collins Dictionary states that grit is: courage, spirit, resolution, determination, nerve, guts (informal), balls (taboo slang), pluck, backbone, fortitude, toughness, tenacity, perseverance, mettle, doggedness, hardihood. Grit Nurses looked at the coronavirus in the eye and fought like lions. And, the battle is still raging. For those who succumbed to the virus, they will be memorialized as heroes who had grit. Grit is important in making people persist on difficult tasks (Charlton, 2019). When corona touched down in America, health-care facilities and hospitals operated in a crisis mode. Nurse patient ratios, Personal Protective Equipment (PPE) protocols changed and nurses could be fired for abandonment if they refused to take care of COVID-19 patients. Nurses were mandated to work in Intensive Care Units (ICU) even if they were not trained for such high acuity patients. However, nurses were not perturbed, discouraged nor frightened. PPE was in short supply. In the beginning of March, some health institutions only had surgical masks without N95s, some none at all. In desperation nurses wore plastic garbage bags for protection (Bowden, Campanile, Golding, 2020). Lack of Testing for Nurses When nurses displayed various symptoms, some went to their hospitals and were denied testing. Some were turned away and told to go to work if symptoms were not severe enough. For those who were severe, they were not provided paid sick time forcing some to return to work before recuperating. The families interviewed stated that healthcare institutions denied that they did not have enough PPE. They also denied that the nurses contracted COVID-19 at their facilities. Unfortunately, once send home, some nurses died alone in their homes or apartments. A travelling nurse in New York city was located five days after succumbing to COVID-19. A couple of nurses wrote their own obituaries. Why is it that professional athletes and politicians have testing available compared to nurses and other Healthcare Personnel (HCP) who are in direct contact with patients? Six months later, PPE is still in short supply and nurses are still dying. Conclusion Communities rallied together to bring food and dessert during the pandemic. Nurses were depicted as superheroes; we were the last contact with patients before they died. Children drew pictures and wrote cards with words of encouragement. Our trustworthiness did not waiver and we stood strong and worked together as a team. Nurses sacrificed their lives and that of their families, yet kept doing what they love ... taking care of patients until the end. Gone but will never will be forgotten. Read the names of the healthcare professionals who have passed away due to COVID-19 in allnurses Magazine. Click to download it for free. References Bowden, E., Campanile, C., Golding, B (2020). Worker at NYC hospital where nurses wear trash bags as protection dies from coronavirus. New York Post retrieved August 4, 2020. Charlton, J. (2019). Angela Duckworth finds grit is not always the best predictor of success in new research. Daily Pennsylvanian Grit. (n.d.) Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged, 12th Edition 2014. (1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003, 2006, 2007, 2009, 2011, 2014). Retrieved August 4 2020 from https://www.thefreedictionary.com/grit grit. (n.d.) Farlex Dictionary of Idioms. (2015). Retrieved August 4 2020 from https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/grit Kennedy, Maureen & Shawn MA, RN. (2017). It's Time to Earn the Public's Trust. AJN, American Journal of Nursing, 117, 7. https://doi.org/10.1097/01.NAJ.0000513263.21108.4f Milton, C. L. (2018). Will Nursing Continue as the Most Trusted Profession? An Ethical Overview. Nursing Science Quarterly, 31(1), 15–16. https://doi.org/10.1177/0894318417741099
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    When You See Something, Say Something

    Hi Herring Thanks for the reply, yep, sometimes I struggle with the race thing, but once I became a citizen, can write AA. I watched the funeral and it was surreal when he spoke about that when you see something , say something and the eulogy by three presidents, very touching. simba and mufasa
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    When You See Something, Say Something

    Hi kdkout Thank you for the encouraging words, they melted my heart, I wish they are many like you. Please do not stop speaking up, change starts with one individual. Please reach out to that new nurse and just tell her to watch out because racism also exploits lack of experience and bad orientation to kick and punish people. Whenever, I see such a situation, I warn the nurse to transfer to another floor if its too dangerous, then you are written up for every single thing instead of being oriented well as a result putting the RN license on the line. Please do not get weary, keep screaming for help. Sometimes, new black nurses are not aware of this situation, just innocent and naïve as well. I am very me and proud to scream for change as well. The struggle continues simba and mufasa
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    When You See Something, Say Something

    Hi Herring Thank you very much for the clarification, it now makes sense. I have a thick accent as well, but am a good teacher and mean business. Thank you for reading my posts, you and me alike have to speak up in-order to make the world a better place. We no longer use the word "Negro", it is considered offensive and derogatory towards blacks. Thank you for reading and responding simba and mufasa
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    When You See Something, Say Something

    Here we go again ! Keinia/Mslecia20 Thank you for baking me up and shedding light to this very sensitive subject. The more examples we give, the stronger the case. As you can read, these are our life experiences and some do not believe, the examples given solidifies the messages we are trying to convey. Yes, in this age and time, things are happening in our own backwards while others pretend not to see or hear. Thank you. John Marqus/Booster/Herring_RN John: Kudos to you for accomplishing your career starting at that magnificent age. However, as we grow older, we are supposed to be smarter and life experiences guide us. As for me, its a great achievement for me personally that you took the time to read my article, that is priceless.However, moving forward, you have a lot of generalizations about laziness and this and that. The focus of this article is to improve nursing in some areas that I mentioned for a better working environment. Now the tables have been turned, its time to listen and see how this applies to you and your coworkers. As for others who wonder when this took place, wake up people, this is still happening. As for Booster, you are a living example of what this article is trying to achieve, calling out racism in its tracks, just like you did with the manager . Comparing gay, transgender and other issues is different, You have not experienced racism in 30 years, but I have in my 16 years, and yes, its out there. Just because you have not experienced it does not mean its extinct. I wish there were more people like you, at the same time, your own life journey has allowed you to be accepting of people different from you. I can go with you for breakfast anytime! Herring_RN Thank you for participating, I have read your response several times and am trying to link to what I have written about and am totally lost. Can you tie or elaborate for greater understanding. Credibility and Validity I am tired of running away from problems, its time to fix them. First and foremost, my PhD. has given me credibility and validity to affect change . I do not write based on tarot cards or the palm of someones hand, there is research and proven data to back these findings. Knowledge is power, and no-one can take that away from me and will not be silenced anymore. Retaliation destroys people, refuting and rebuking someones life experiences based on your own innuendos is not right. Look at the trunk in your eye,before you remove the speck in your neighbors, stop, look, listen and feel. The truth is, we just have taken a first step in a longer and difficult road, but thank you all, am humbled that you took time to respond, the struggle continues! We are stronger together, divided we fall.
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    When You See Something, Say Something

    Hi RNLIFE Thanks, its time to share our life experiences and to us it is real. It sounds otherwise to other people, but a time has come to bring this dilemma to light, together we can! simba and mufasa
  13. noemer and barcode noemer, you should have grieved the hiring. You should have been given first preference since you are in house. Unbelievable that they have to hire new grads. barcode We also did team nursing. PAs and NPs who could not take patients were ancillary staff, pulling meds from pyxis, talking to family and helping with turning and repositioning and all the craziness that came with COVID-19. Even as a seasoned ICU nurse, I was emotionally and physically burdened. I hope this was the first and last round because I am not doing it again. tx simba and mufasa
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    Mental Health: A RACE I HAVE TO RUN!

    I am a former student of Walden University so I was given a 5% tuition discount and the application was easy since they have my information. It's 100% online so very doable for me. Good luck! simba and mufasa
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    Transition to Nurse Supervisor

    Whenever we are faced with a situation, we tend to run away, but fear in this case should be your only courage. I understand a lot about the millennial's because I have a few on my unit, complaint after complaint, running to the manager etc. My husband always says, you can only leave or take a job according to your own terms. This is the time to enjoy your experience and move to a higher position. Stay true to yourself, be you and do whats good for the department. Be on your guard, and watch those who seem to do whatever you wanna call it. It's true, you could be set up, so take the position with your eyes and ears open and kick butt, leaders are not born, they are created, be your own kind of supervisor and do not be afraid without trying, its worth the fight. I had issues at a certain college, instead, I packed my bags and ran, big mistake, stick to it and put up the fight. You cannot have a testimony if you have not been tested! This will make you stronger! Been there done that!
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    When You See Something, Say Something

    "In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. We must live together as brothers or perish together as fools." - Dr. Martin Luther King Racism in nursing is real. It starts in nursing school, occurs on the units among nurses, managers, administrators, doctors as well as patients; intermingled in this wide web. Some white people become defensive about this topic, they refute and dismiss such acts. I did not want to pursue this topic further but was encouraged by the previous article which asks if racism in nursing is real. Yes, it is real, and happens on many levels and sometimes not so transparent. As a black nurse, I have written some of my experiences and of course, everyone experiences racism differently. The death of George Floyd has exposed the fight that has been occurring since the black people landed in America. It is many decades later, and black people are fighting for civil rights and equality all over the world. Racism can occur during orientation, unfair hiring practices, unfair patient assignments, unfair treatment by doctors and fellow nurses, the list is endless. I just opened a little window in my world to give share about this elephant in the room, so that fellow nurses can recognize some facets of racism and call it out, say something. Introduction Hope is not lost on this forum. I am encouraged every day by the posts about racism from both sides. Racism in nursing is analyzed from a historical, professional, and personal perspective to examine the relevance of this timely issue in our society (Paradisi, 2012). Many nurse managers’ stated that they feel unprepared to handle or discuss workplace racial issues (Paradisi, 2012). As I have witnessed, complaints about racism are downplayed or dismissed; evident on this forum as well. Many black nurses are tired of having to explain covert racism to white managers and nursing instructors. Many nurse faculties avoid addressing the issue for fear of saying the wrong thing (Paradisi, 2012). To exacerbate the racial tensions, there is a short supply of black nurse managers and nursing instructors to mitigate some of the issues. If nurses do not talk about racism openly, it will continue to persist. We cannot advocate for ourselves as nurses if we are not willing to advocate for all nurses (Paradisi, 2012). Racism is an open secret in nursing, let's discuss and get educated. Personal Experiences In nursing school, I was the first black student in that school for 20 years. I could tell the faculty had no idea how to handle issues that arose with the addition of a black student. My nursing school was in a rural area with a predominantly white population. I just wandered to that community, of course, I am not even going to talk about the issues my family encountered when we rented a townhouse and my kids enrolled in school, it’s just another can of worms to open. As a nursing student, when it came to group projects, I was the last to secure a group; most patients in clinical areas and nursing homes refused me as a student. Students would go for outings on weekends or end of the semester and I was never invited. Years later, I was the first black educator at the same college, but was faced with some issues of white students undermining and thinking I was an angry black woman despite extensive experience at the bedside and teaching at other colleges as well. During my practicum at an inner-city college, the only one to accept me, one of the educators asked where I planned to teach. I told her about my former college because it was closer to home instead of commuting one hour away. She told me that she will never teach in such a place (she is white by the way). After teaching for a short time, I understood what she meant. There was no support when it came to the students’ complaints. Instead, I was sent to the Dean a couple of times because the student did not like my recommendations. I tried to introduce some changes in the curriculum, Labs and Simulation, but was shut down, only to learn that they implemented the same changes I had suggested after I left. I also applied for a full-time position, but instead, they hired someone who was in the process of getting her master's and not much experience at the bedside. I taught all nursing levels, Simulation, lab and was well vested in the college, but I was dumped like a bag of cow manure. I have a PhD in nursing and have taught nursing at different levels. In other words, I was more than qualified for the job, but did not get it. Of course, the college can hire anyone they want, but I was qualified! Some will say it’s not racism. The truth is, it is what it is. I was bypassed. The college was predominately white so I stood no chance. Fast forward, when I graduated, I was employed in a Long Term facility that was slightly diverse, because I was starting to wake up and realized that I needed to go to a place where I can survive and not play hide and seek. Some doctors would ask other nurses about my patients, not wanting to talk to me. After a year, I wanted to switch to the Med-Surge unit at the same hospital. I applied several times but got no answers. The unit was constantly short of RNs and were hiring traveling nurses, but still nothing. Finally, the manager of the unit heard about me and realized that my husband had treated one of her family members. The next thing I knew I was whisked to that unit within a short time. My orientation went well until it came time to be trained for the charge nurse, CN. The current CN gave excuses not to orient me, so when they became sick, I volunteered to be one. This was also a large surgical unit and the CN did not have an assignment. Suddenly, once they saw that I was as competent as they were and I self-taught most of the tasks, everyone started taking vacations. All of a sudden it was OK for me to be in charge. I then applied to ICU, but the manager in that unit told me that I was not experienced enough. Fast forward a month later, they hired a new grad. I went to an ICU of a regional hospital; this was a nightmare on its own. The unit was known for eating their young as well as extensive racism. The orientation was fragmented and unorganized. I was oriented by eight nurses. When I was about to be returned to Med-Surg, I was oriented by a Filipino nurse. My orientation was extended to eight more weeks but within two weeks, I was on my own and did well. The Filipino nurse guided me and allowed me to be me. She saw my potential and gave me an atmosphere conducive to learning. Most nurses discussed my treatment on this unit, but they all watched in silence and did not say, "boo". I never was given assignments on IABP, hypothermia’s or any challenging patients; but dying patients and an empty bed. I had an admission or a death every other night, which was exhausting. I decided to move to CVICU. Three nurses applied from the ICU at the same time, but I was held back for three months and the two nurses went straight away. Once in CVICU, I had to be oriented for IABP. The nurses were puzzled why I had not been given such an assignment in a unit with IABP every week. Racism and exclusion, yes? The other two nurses had a little dinner of pizza and cards as a go away gift, but simba marched quietly alone. In CVICU, I was received with open hands. It is a diverse unit and some of the nurses embraced change for better orientation and a better working environment. My orientation was smooth and the environment conducive for learning. As an educator and preceptor, I provide an environment conducive for learning for everyone. If I see unfair treatment, I go to the manager, and if she does not act, go to the union. Fortunately, my manager can handle racism issues and nip them in the bud. These are just a few examples. Of course, some will not see it as racism, but that is how it feels to me. FACT: Some, not everyone, think racism is in black people’s minds, it’s not real. Yes, it is real and alive. When You See Something, Say Something: A Fear of Talking about Racism Is it wrong to write about my story and personal experiences? As a society, it is incumbent upon all of us to forcefully repudiate all expressions of racial hatred and bigotry. We have a long way to go to assure the equality, civil rights, and civil liberties of all people. There’s no time to waste. According to ANA President Ernest J. Grant, in a June 1st statement, he urged US nurses to, "use our voices to call for change. To remain silent is to be complicit." (Thomas, 2020). Racism comes in many forms, from hiring, orientation on units, requests for vacations, nurse-to-nurse interaction, patients with nurses, doctors not interacting with nurses of color ... the list is endless and is so complex. I encourage my fellow nurses to say something when they see racism and call it out like some posts on this forum. I encourage managers and administrators to open their eyes and call the shots when they suspect that racism is taking place. The discussions about race on this forum are a window into our world. As nurses, we are as far left and far right. I am not attacking anyone but am shedding light on a topic so hidden but so right in our eyes. I encourage fellow black nurses to join organizations and other entities to influence change. As an educator, I will do my part to be a voice of reason that shall not be silenced and stay true to self. I am not an angry black woman when I try to complain or express myself. I am intelligent and hardworking ... a beautiful soul just trying to survive. Together we can! When you see something, say something! People fail to get along because they fear each other; they fear each other because they don't know each other; they don't know each other because they have not communicated with each other - Dr Martin Luther King What are you doing as a nurse to make sure racism goes asystole?