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K. Everly BSN

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    Any Online AA meetings for nurses?

    We have 2 nurses in recovery meetings weekly at Lionrock Recovery. Tuesdays and Thursdays. One is listed as NA and the other AA, but nurses in any sort of recovery for any sort of substance or mental health concern can and do go to each of them, schedule permitting. Here is the link: https://www.lionrockrecovery.com/online-aa-meetings-and-support-groups Also, a non-12 step approach is SMART Recovery and we have a meeting there called "MMHP" that is truly awesome and stands for Medical and Mental Health Providers meeting. If you sign up at smartrecovery.com and take a look at their meeting schedule you'll find MMHP on the weekly schedule and also a forum, and you can sign up to be granted access to the private forum and private meetings.
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    I'm Tired & Weary, Why is This Profession So Cut Throat?

    That's a great point, thank you for sharing it! I've met some amazing nurses I otherwise would not have met if it wasn't for going through what I have and their impact on me will be lasting. If I give up, I won't be there to help somebody else who is lost and feeling broken on this journey later.
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    Can One Use an HSA to Pay For Monitoring?

    Thank you! Do you happen to know if that is state specific or across the board, they can’t deny you from using it? I learned the hard way to be worried about this stuff because the only IOP places my court allowed me to use were cash only, no health insurance insurance or even credit card, certainly not HSA.
  4. Can one use their HSA to pay for monitoring or BON probation costs as imposed by the state board or monitoring program? Costs I am thinking of would be drug testing, possible evaluations etc? I'm in MI, if that matters. I sit for my NCLEX-RN in June and think it is possible I will be called in front of the board and may be required to either enter my state monitoring program, or board probation. Legally I'm all squared away and gotten myself in the best position possible for when I go before them, but we all know that comes with no guarantees when we are talking a criminal hx one cannot change. I have the option to max out my HSA at work and I'm considering doing it, especially if I can use it for costs that may be associated with future monitoring. However, if it's not possible I really need to save my money and not get it tied up in an HSA account.
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    My voluntary alcohol detox was reported to the board..?

    It seems like you are saying that in order to report these licensed professionals you relied on them self reporting that they were in fact health care professionals, is that right? I ask because I wonder if entering treatment and not mentioning profession is actually enough of a way to keep one's license safe, and thus treatment confidential.
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    Ohio BON Final Review

    Thank you! I wish Michigan had one of those, and I guess for all I know they do but it certainly hasn’t been easy to find it if it does exist. I completed both of the free CE courses on the NCBSN website and I believe it came to about 9 contact hours. I also completed another free one on dual diagnosis treatment that was one contact hour. I think I’m tapped out - at a certain point one could drive themself to an early grave with the hyper vigilance. What will be will be.
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    I'm Tired & Weary, Why is This Profession So Cut Throat?

    So sweet and just what I needed to hear. I thank God for people like you and can't wait for the day I get to work along side nurses of your calibre who relish seeing their coworkers thrive and patients truly heal. 💛
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    I'm Tired & Weary, Why is This Profession So Cut Throat?

    Not the most inspiring or hopeful sentiment but if it gets the job done...
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    I Need Help

    Thanks for sharing that. I guess "honestly held belief" is so subjective that nobody could easily fight it. It's sad they lied to you about it being confidential though, OP. The stand up thing to have done would have been to sit down with you and tell you they felt obligated to report so you could get treatment and get ahead of the situation.
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    I Need Help

    I feel for you. There are a lot of ways to get help after rehab (like SMART Recovery) but if you think you need detox, I would do that - your kiddos need a happy sober mom and you deserve to get better. I agree with hppy’s advice. If it were me (I’m in a pickle but completely different situation), I might even contact an attorney from TAANA.org who does licensure defense and ask them how you can get help anonymously without ever having to report it (they may have some ideas we don’t even know about).
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    I'm Tired & Weary, Why is This Profession So Cut Throat?

    Thank you @hppygr8ful. That dream you mentioned sounds like dreams I’ve had. I used to always have dreams about being chased, pretty much my entire life, but it got better recently. I am well connected to a recovery community, I volunteer, and my recovery is not on shaky ground thankfully. This post was primarily about what the BON and this profession do to make us feel so much like damaged goods. And their punitive behavior rubs off on jobs and the entire profession and here we are in one of the most caring and trusted professions feel unseen, unheard, afraid, etc. I also appreciated your post on the anorexia thread. I don’t struggle with an eating disorder but I appreciated what you said about mental health and ACE’s there. @TheMoonisMyLantern I have a dual diagnosis, so I completely hear you. Now whenever I have a bad day I get to be asked if I “took my meds” (cuz, you know, that scary scary bipolar and PTSD), or whether I spoke to my recovery community. Gone are the days when I could just have a bad day or feel sad about the state of things in my life and/or the world and it be seen for what it is. Thank you for writing what you did. I know your patients must benefit from your experience with mental illness and I hope when I get licensed mine will too. It really enables us to care on a whole deeper level, and help them in ways that we otherwise couldn’t if we hadn’t helped ourselves through what we have.
  12. I just needed to vent. I don't feel like rehashing my entire situation because it's just way too much and I've been in the same state of limbo for almost 15 months. Sometimes the weight of these worries feels like it could crush me. I had no idea when I felt called to this profession that it would turn out to be one of the least empathetic professions I can imagine for nurses themselves. I'd like to find ways to change that eventually, significantly. It sometimes feels one can never be enough, do enough, prove enough, protect themselves enough, be hypervigilant enough moving forward, to outrun the sins of the past or feel like one can be really safe in this field (livelihood etc). I accept full responsibility for my mistakes, of which there were many before I've even sat for licensure, it's just the idea of them always following me around and having to explain them and apologize for them (BONs and jobs) for possibly the rest of my career that brings on a weariness so deep in my bones. I don't think anybody besides another nurse or healthcare provider could really understand. I refuse to be a victim and I know my mindset is MY responsibility. It's a constant battle to break the cycle of panic. No matter where you are in this process or what got you here, I'd be interested to hear what do you tell yourself to keep hope alive? I'm not a quitter and I never will be, I'm just tired..
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    Let's be honest, the board of nursing only cares about the public and the perception of the public on the nursing profession. These monitoring boards only care about power, control, and money. If any of a nurse's problems (like an eating disorder) don't present an overt threat to public safety or poor public appearance, the BON doesn't care; and as long as these monitoring programs are bringing in maximum cash and holding their thumb over you, they don't care either. That's why I really wish nurses would start caring more about each other because we're all each other have, outside of our friends and family support systems. I really believe authentically caring for each other could be a transformational move and enable a lot of change. @New mommy 26 You are so very much more than the size of your waist or a skinny defined face. I'm sorry your monitoring program and the board of nursing didn't seem to care, but it's not too late for you to care for yourself and do some healing. If you ever want to talk, I am here for you. I've had to do a great deal of personal healing on my own too (not eating disorder related but PTSD and other mental health). I know of some very good self healing resources.
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    Ohio BON Final Review

    What CEU's did you do/where did you find them? I found two free CE courses on the NCSBN website on substance abuse in nursing (one for nurses and one for nurse managers and I finished the first and am taking the second). I'd like to take more to turn in with my application.
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    Assistance Program Tips

    While I don’t disagree that one essentially has to adopt a “bend over and take it,” mentality to conquer a monitoring program, I wholeheartedly disagree that to do so is in any way an example of “owning your sh*t.” That sounds like something a case manager or probation officer would say any time a person is fed up with the continued overkill. They don’t really just want you to own YOUR sh*t, they want you to own THEIR sh*t too. I do tire of persons in recovery continuing to be used as scapegoats and easy targets anytime something goes wrong or they have a rightful grievance. Nope, can’t point out an injustice, that apparently wouldn’t be owning ones sh*t... 🙄
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    Employability if a previous license was revoked.

    If you losing your rad tech license didn't result in any criminal charges and you have no criminal history, then I don't see why a future employer would even find out about that once you got your nursing license. I could be wrong, but I think the question you get asked on employment applications is if your nursing license has even been disciplined or put on probation, not any healthcare license ever. YMMV, and I would ask the attorney. That said, it is possible that your state BON may put your RN license on probation immediately after passing the NCLEX (or have probation as a stipulation to sit for testing), which would result in future employers being aware of it. It could pose an issue with employment, but I think it would be something you could overcome if you didn't have a criminal history. People with worse histories and stories have gone on to have fulfilling nursing careers, but I think it's important to recognize that this will likely lead to a lot of personal stress for you, some sleepless nights, and no guarantees regarding your nursing license or future employment. If you can live with the uncertainty of that while in a stressful and expensive nursing program, it may be worth the risk.