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FloForLyfe BSN, CNA, RN

Florence Nightengale, nurses' hero everywhere, Love. You. For. Ever.

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“At the end of the day, at the end of the week, at the end of my life, I want to say I contributed more than I criticized.” ― Brené Brown, Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations.


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  1. FloForLyfe

    If anyone reads this...

    I hope you know that I was being snarkey when I said I would work be working at McDonald's soon. Thank you JKL33. I am really appreciative of the responses in general. I have copied and pasted a reply to a private message I recieved to demonstrate that your feedback is helping me shift my mindset: "I think [administration cares] about nurses sticking around only if they have the right attitude, and not having melt-downs over [and resurgent feelings from] a bad memory?!?!" (referring to my current job) "Administration's job is to attend to nursing/staffing needs. Nurses' job is to help the patient feel safe. Radiology does radiology and I know nothing about that."
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    Scab nursing?

    I had a family member in the ICU during a nurses' strike. As a family member I found it scary to see the nurses standing outside with signs. My mom elected to move our family member to another hospital.
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    If anyone reads this...

    Thank you for the response, TriciaJ.
  4. FloForLyfe

    If anyone reads this...

    I am a new grad nurse and I guess this is T -3 months until I am a McDonald's employee. I do not know why I feel set-up to fail right now. I read a lot of these posts and take it... personally. Like a time that I initiated CPR in a nursing home, but did not follow BLS guidlines because I assumed my coworkers were BLS certified as well... now I am the "bad guy". Like a time there was a tiered pain med plan ordered, which I determinately followed, but when I called for the charge RN -- instead of being messaged how I can improve I FEEL labeled as a "bad guy". Like the time I intentionally botched a job interview where I worked because 9+ nurses were simultaneously on "light duty" and multiple quits and management restructuring and I think of my self as a "bad guy" somehow. Like a time I didn't complete a trauma certification because I was scared again because of management restructuring and pessimistic talk and again I think of myself as a "bad guy". Like a time I soft-quit a charge position because isolation gear was not stocked and I saw a very unusual wasp a week before an employee told me he has a history of TB and I feel like a "bad guy". Like a time I LOOKED like a "bad guy" because I refused to sign blank medical documents. Like all the times I give jobs my best effort, and I DONT FEEL LIKE A "BAD GUY" I AM NOT ASHAMED, DO NOT FEEL GUILTY, AND EXPERIENCE NO PAIN RELATED TO MY TREATMENT AS A NURSE AT THIS TIME. This is an anoymous website and I have no anger at this time. I am hurt I am not in pain.
  5. FloForLyfe

    Why did you choose psych nursing?

    I was initially drawn to psych nursing because I have been an inpatient psych patient about four times. Therefore, I am maybe more familiar with some of the stories leading up to mental breakdowns, loss of moral fabric, hopelessness, and general pessimism. It hurts my feelings sometimes knowing how good all of "nurses" have it made. We are able to make basic decisions every day that we completely take for granted. The sharp pain of not saying anything to confront a seeminly cold-hearted nurse because I know that it will interefere with my job -- intereferes with my job. Ironically these statements can be made not only in (without?) regard to psych-stigmatized statements but also simple actions such as an audible rolling of the eyes, withholding information, justifying the condition of the patient, or --sad to admit it-- the dreaded "what are we doing here"? Through my inpatient and outpatient programs I have been enrolled in many classes for mental health, mindfulness, and cognitive-based methods. I even enrolled in a college-level class. In nursing school it became morally damaging to hear the other nurses speak down on this specialty, or at least how I percieved statements such as "I became a psych nurse because I could not get a job anywhere else", "once you become a psych nurse it is hard to break out of the specialty", "I could never be a psych nurse", and "this rotation is so annoying". I also found that my clinical instructor was seemingly particularly emblazened to find every possible critique about my assignments and school work. My mom said a few times that she wishes I could go to school speciafically to become a psych nurse. Thank you for asking, Verene.
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    Why did you choose psych nursing?

    Ah, so true. Most days I am pretty non-judgemental, but every now and again my judgemental personality reemerges. I originally wanted to be strictly a psych nurse, but I changed my mind pretty quick. It is tough though, because in a med-surge environment it is easy to identify who the psych patients are in a timely fashion.
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    Why did you choose psych nursing?

    Do you have a family member or did you yourself experience mental health issues? Do you believe in "good" versus "bad" people? Do you have specific religious beliefs that guide your work-life balance?
  8. FloForLyfe

    Preceptor is SO BAD!

    One of the best pieces of advice I got from my mom (retired from nursing after 40 years) : You are at work to help your preceptor, not the other way around. I did central line care the other day, and I did not know where the sterile gloves were. So.. I had to get gloves from a new box and put them in a specimen cup instead. (Shh.. it is a "secret"). I used to take my antidepressant at night instead of during the day like it is prescribed. Technically that did make me a prescription pill abuser. (Thankfully, I have had the support to get through that habit and problem). "I went into the profession because it is a helping profession. Customer service is dependant on team work. No one single person is responsible for the team." --thoughts/words of every single interviewee ever. Congratulations on landing an ICU job straight from nursing school. I would have loved that opportunity, but ironically i was dealing with PTSD from an ICU internship. Some work cultures are pretty disparaging, so please do not overanalyze this. No nurse has ever gone into the profession to try to hurt a patient or eat a new nurse alive. Remember the last time you had a bad day and remember who helped get you out of that slump and what is was specifically that they did or didn't do.
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    15 Minutes in the Life of a Nurse

    Oncoming nurse's irony is WNL. We all need a little humor, it is what makes us stick around.
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    What does your username mean?

    My grandma, named Florence, believed in me no matter what. Her dad practiced Western medicine in China, where the profession was not respected at the time. Florence Nightengale promoted health and environment changes to help patients. “Lyfe” because “love you for ever” in this purgatory we are all a part ofzzzz.
  11. FloForLyfe

    Give 'Em Enough Rope

    At one of my places of employment some diversion was happening, but only as known by a select few. One nurse was actually given literally too much of the proverbial rope. It has been really difficult to deal with. Before becoming a nurse, I thought the worst thing nurses were capable of was being mean. Tough dose of reality. Tough to think about how I am going to move forward.

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