I've been working in my unit (oncology) for nearly seven years. Got my oncology nurse certification and is hoping to stay in this specialty for as long as I could. However, lately I've became increasingly frustrated with my manager. I dreaded to go to work because of her.
A lot of nurses that were more senior than me had left which pushed me up to the second most senior nurse in the unit this year. My manager still treated me like a new nurse.
She graduated from Yale and had been an ICU, CTICU, PICU nurse which she likes to brag about and would constantly put me down just to show how knowledgeable she is. She would come up to me to ask question after question about my patient until I could not answer, and then she would take that opportunity to "educate me". She also likes to pick on me during social rounds when all doctors nurses and case management team are there.
When we are short staffed and busy she would just walk pass by without saying a word. But when we are fully staffed and having a good day she would pretend to care, "how's your district? Do you need anything ?" ..... So fake.
She also likes to roll her eyes or cut me short when I tried to speak to her. I feel very discouraged to talk to you.
One time she threw away my unfinished water bottle into the garbage can right in front of me without saying a word. When I told her that the water bottle was mine she answered "I knew. I just can't standing see it there." I think it's extremely disrespectful of her to do that. Almost all of my coworkers bring some sort of water bottle or coffee cup to drink at the nursing station. She tolerated that but not mine.
She has favoritism to certain nurses and would talk to them in a much nicer tone of voice and would actually allow them to finish what they have to say. Most of these nurses are outspoken white nurses with good sense of humor that make her laugh alot.
I'm a shy and quiet asian nurse but I really work so hard, I don't bully others and I don't complain as much as my colleagues do. I don't know why my manager seems to dislike me. Its bothering me so much that I want to leave this unit just to avoid her. She made me feel like I'm never enough to be a good nurse. I love the nurses that I work with though and my passion is in oncology which make it hard for me to just transfer to a different unit.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this situation? Or do u have similar experience that you would like to share ?